10/12/2025
Some women share details with their pastors that should never leave a private journal.
Every month, a grown woman is reporting,
“Pastor, my period just started,”
“Pastor, I’m ovulating,”
“Pastor, the urges are too much,”
“Pastor, pray for my cramps.”
Why exactly does a man, married or not, need to know the daily calendar of your reproductive system?
These are conversations meant for a female mentor, a women’s leader, a pastor’s wife, a mother-figure in the faith… not the man who is already carrying the emotional and spiritual weight of an entire congregation.
And let’s be honest with ourselves:
Some ladies avoid the pastor’s wife not because she is unkind, but because they don’t want any barrier between themselves and the pastor they’ve grown emotionally attached to.
This is why a few women vanish from a church the moment the pastor announces he’s engaged. It shows their commitment wasn’t to God. Their loyalty wasn’t to the ministry. They were only enjoying an emotional connection masked as “seeking counsel.”
And yes, pastors who cross boundaries are wrong. No excuse.
Pastors are human. Not spirits. Not robots.
Their emotions can be stirred.
That’s why modesty and boundaries exist, not to oppress you, but to protect everyone from unnecessary temptation.
Members, guard and pray for your pastor.
Pastors, guard and pray for the flocks.
Stop seeking emotional closeness under the disguise of spirituality.
Stop creating unnecessary intimacy with a man who is meant to guide you.
Your pastor’s wife is not your rival (Topic for another day😁)
She is your spiritual covering. Respect the structure God put in place.
If you need help with deeply personal, woman-to-woman issues, go to the people assigned for that role.
Protect your leader.
Protect your own heart.
Protect the integrity of the spiritual space you belong to.
Let's practice maturity and genuine Christianity.
Let's keep the spiritual environment healthy, safe and respectful.
Peace and love 😉😄