Dr.Denisa Legac

10/02/2015

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10/02/2015

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10/02/2015

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10/02/2015

Arranged marriage

Q: We’re Asian and have an arranged marriage. At the beginning, my husband would often bring up his previous and only girlfriend (American, tall, blond and beautiful; his parents broke them up) and their great s*x life. Since I told him I feel uncomfortable with this he has stopped, but the pictures still linger in my mind. He’s loving and caring, but I am often comparing myself to her and thus feel inadequate. I can’t trust that he is truly s*xually attracted to me, and I don’t feel as confident about my body, which hurts my self-esteem. What can I do?

Dr. Klein: The institution of arranged marriages was not developed to support self-esteem, kindle romantic love, or build intimate communication. Your exposure to western culture has made you want these things from your marriage, which may not be realistic.

That said, you are correct that you need to do some inner work if you want to develop trust, self-esteem, and a sense of s*xual adequacy. Psychotherapy or a woman’s group would be a good start. So would Lonnie Barbach’s classic book, “For Yourself.”

For better or worse, people rarely marry the person with whom they’ve had their most exciting s*xual adventures. You don’t have to be your husband’s ultimate s*xual experience. What he wants from you is your trust, some enthusiasm, for you to like your own body, and for you to explore your own eroticism so that you enjoy s*x with him.

You cannot possibly compete with your husband’s ex-partner. He was single, she was exotic, and she taught him things. Forget about her, rather than dragging her into your marital bed.

10/02/2015

Q: I met the most wonderful guy almost two years ago. We’re both divorced from unfaithful spouses, and have so much in common, plus amazing chemistry. We slept together twice, after a year of getting to know each other, and each time we were totally comfortable with each other afterwards. But he has me guessing–he says things like “I’m not good at relationships.” Am I kidding myself to think he will ever be ready for a relationship? The last time I saw him I asked him to please kiss me and he said “no, I shouldn’t,” then he got irritated and said goodnight. I wrote him a note apologizing a month ago but he hasn’t answered. Did I ruin everything?

Dr. Klein: No, you didn’t ruin everything–things were messed up way before that last fateful night. It sounds as if you’ve tried communicating directly with this man, who has resisted being clear with himself and/or you. You know what you want: a committed relationship to someone you know and love. Therefore, it’s sad but true: if he doesn’t want that, he isn’t the guy for you.

If you want to give him one last chance, call and say you’re giving him one last chance to resurrect the relationship. If he’s interested, sit down and set some ground rules: where are we now, what do we each want, and what can we each expect. If you hesitate to have this conversation, you’ll be right back in confusion-land almost immediately.

If he doesn’t respond to your invitation, let it go and move on. You’re richer for having had the relationship, and will have gotten all that it had to offer.

16/01/2015

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/s*xual-intelligence

If unwanted, non-threatening verbal contact is "violence," that trivializes real violence--and makes it impossible to discuss solutions intelligently. Read More

16/01/2015

Beziehungsprobleme sind unausweichlich.

Das Anerkennen der Unterschiede und das Akzeptieren dieser, ohne der Idee(ich werd den Partner durch meine Liebe aendern-oder er wird sich fuer mich aendern) ergibt fuers erste eine BASIS, ein FUNDAMENT fuer den Auf-Bau einer guten und langen Partnerschaft. Die grosse Illusion, dass Liebe und verliebt sein ausreichend seien ist FALSCH.
Die Faehigkeit, die eigene Innenwelt zu erkennen und diese mit den Partner teilen zu koennen ist ein guter Start in das Abendteuer Beziehnug.
Beide muessen sich von anfang an ueberwinden koennen; frei sowie tapfer genug zu sein auch unangenehmes miteinander zu teilen.
Unterdruecken und Vermeiden von Gefuehlen bringt garantiert zukuenftige Probleme.

15/01/2015

http://www.martyklein.com/your-conditions-for-enjoyable-s*x/

In his classic 1978 book “Male S*xuality” (now available as “The New Male S*xuality”), Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld discussed the concept of conditions for good s*x. He said that everyone has conditions, or requirements, for enjoying s*x.

11/12/2014

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGIKjucEEgk

02/12/2014

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20/09/2012

20/09/2012

AASECT members at conference