Daniel Anear Relationship Repair

01/29/2026

The longer I do this work, the more I see how powerful “small things, done often” really are.

In romantic relationships, it’s easy to get caught up in the big moments—anniversaries, vacations, grand gestures.

But when I meet couples who are struggling, 99 times out of 100 it isn’t the big things that are missing. It’s the basics.

Greeting each other after work.
A simple thank you for taking out the trash.
A thoughtful text while you’re apart.

Grand gestures of love are wonderful.
But small gestures are absolutely vital to a long, happy relationship.

Small things add up. What’s one you’ve noticed matters?

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12/23/2025

Men’s Relationship Group — Season 2
Learning to Hold Your Ground in Relationship

Starting Thursday, 5 February 2026, this is a 12-week online group for men who want to take responsibility for how they show up in their relationships.

The group is practice-based, not a lecture. Each week includes a brief topic frame followed by active group work focused on honest expression, accountability, and staying present under relational pressure.

If you’re tired of disappearing, guessing, or quietly carrying resentment in your relationships, this group offers a different way forward.

Comment or message me if you’d like the full details.

11/18/2025

So many people use the word narcissism when they really mean selfishness. Narcissism is so much more complicated than this and if as a society we continue to use it this way we'll focus on the folks who are selfish and totally miss the actual narcissists amongst us.
The chance you are married to someone who is selfish at times is high, the chance (statistically speaking) they're actually a narcissists is very low and if they're not calling them this isn't going to help heal your relationship and if they really are a narc, then my advice is to leave the relationship, narcs don't heal, grow or fundamentally change.

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09/30/2025

Calling all men looking for a Brotherhood.
For years I've lamented the lack of healthy male spaces. Place men can be without the masks and support one another without judgement or pretense.
In just two weeks I'm kicking off Men of Courage, a weekly online group for men. My small contribution to tackle the epidemic of male loneliness and isolation.
If yourself or a man you love could use this please pass along.
Places are limited to 10 at this time.

09/08/2025

What is healthy masculinity?

We hear plenty about what masculinity shouldn’t be—abusive, controlling, toxic.
But what is nourishing masculinity?

Too often, men get stuck in two roles:

The Nice Guy—pleasant on the surface, resentful underneath.

The Asshole—tough exterior, hiding deep insecurity.

Both miss the mark.

Healthy masculinity is Courageous Vulnerability.
Owning your struggles, not dumping them.
Speaking your truth, not suffering in silence.

It’s what one writer called: power under control.
Strength + tenderness.
Firmness + openness.
Not collapsing into either.

08/26/2025

Men, let me tell you, placating your woman will never get you the love you seek.

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08/07/2025

We don't need more "safe spaces" we need more "real spaces". Not performative niceness but gritty vulnerability.

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07/21/2025

10/14/2024

We all marry our unfinished business - Terry Real

03/10/2022

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03/10/2022

A special new episode of the podcast is live right now! Steve Wiese (psychologist and Caitlin's dad) joins us across the miles to talk about his 15 plus years of using the Gottman Method to work with couples. The chat is super informative and interesting, with plenty of tools in there you could use right away with your partner. Listen wherever you get your podcasts or here: https://zcu.io/Otza

01/11/2022

New Episode is live! Listen to Dan and Caitlin dive into the phenomenon of stonewalling: why it's dangerous, how to spot it and what to do about it.
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This is the final episode of our 4-part series on the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. We outline what stonewalling is, and why it happens. We talk about why someone who is stonewalling and appears calm is actually anything but calm. And we give you some excellent ways to remedy the situat...