Bird House Counselling

09/11/2025

03/11/2025

Think of boundaries not as walls, but as the gates and fences that allow a beautiful garden to thrive. They don’t keep love out; they define where caring for you ends and caring for me begins.

In relationships, boundaries are the foundation of respect, not a sign of distrust. They are how we say:

"I value my own peace."

"Your needs are important, and so are mine."

"We can be close, without losing ourselves."

Without them, resentment builds, identities blur, and love can become draining. With them, we create a safe space where trust, individuality, and genuine connection can grow.

Setting a boundary is an act of love—for yourself, and for the health of the relationship.

01/11/2025

Inner child work centers around the idea that childhood experiences, particularly those involving abuse, neglect, or abandonment, can lead to unresolved emotional wounds that manifest in adult behavior and relationships. This type of therapy incorporates the technique of "re-parenting" which aims to help individuals reconnect with their inner child, acknowledge and love it, and offer the care and support they may have lacked in childhood. This process helps individuals to better understand their patterns of behavior and relationships, ultimately promoting emotional stability and healing.

John Bradshaw’s inner child healing framework offers a powerful roadmap for addressing the roots of your trauma. By reconnecting with the wounded inner child, the part of us frozen in unmet childhood needs we can dismantle harmful patterns and reclaim authenticity.

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https://www.birdhousecounselling.com.au/inner-child

30/10/2025

Don’t let go of your inner child. That part of you that finds wonder in a puddle, believes a cardboard box can be a spaceship, and meets the world with wide-eyed curiosity? That’s not a phase to outgrow. That’s your spark.

And here’s the secret: everyone carries one.

The person in the sharp suit next to you, the barista making your coffee, the stranger you pass on the street—each one has a tiny, resilient child inside who just wants to laugh, create, and feel safe.

So be a little kinder. Be more patient. Choose to see the magic. And never, ever apologize for the part of you that still wants to stomp in rain boots or get excited about sparkly things.

Our inner children are the keepers of our joy. Let’s honor them, in ourselves and in each other.

29/10/2025

She rose. She fought. She found her strength — and now, her story could inspire thousands.

We’re calling on women everywhere to share their rise.
✨ 10 stories will be chosen as our first Femme Pire Ambassadors — the voices of resilience, power, and hope.
💌 DM us your story (and a photo or video) .pire and tag

Because when women rise together — we reign. 👑

26/10/2025

Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships? Maybe you cling to your partner when they’re distant, or you pull away when things get too close. These patterns often trace back to childhood and the way we connected (or didn’t) with our caregivers shapes how we love as adults.

Psychologists like John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth first studied attachment styles, and today, experts like John Bradshaw and the Gottmans (Julie and John Gottman) help us understand how these styles play out in adult relationships.

Let’s break down the four main attachment styles and how they show up in love, plus how couples can work together to heal and meet each other’s needs.

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https://www.birdhousecounselling.com.au/attachment

24/10/2025

That "Constant Grind" Feeling? It Might Be More Than Just Tiredness.

We wear "busy" like a badge of honor. The non-stop hustle, the packed schedule, the feeling that you're always on—it's often seen as the price of success.

But what if that relentless pressure isn't a sign of your strength, but a warning sign from your mind?

That "constant grind" feeling can be a major red flag for burnout.

Burnout isn't just about being tired. It's a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress. It's when the pressure of "doing it all" quietly chips away at your well-being.

How do you know if it's burnout? Ask yourself:

👉Is the grind feeling constant, even when you've stopped?

👉Do you feel a deep sense of cynicism or detachment from your work and life?

👉Have you become increasingly irritable or impatient with friends, family, or colleagues?

👉Do you feel a profound sense of ineffectiveness, like nothing you do matters?

👉Are you struggling to concentrate and finding your motivation has completely vanished?

If this sounds familiar, please know this: You are not lazy, broken, or failing. You are overwhelmed. Burnout is your mind and body's way of forcing you to hit the brakes.

It’s a signal that the demands on you have chronically outweighed your resources for too long.

So, what can you do?

🫶Acknowledge It. The first step is to name it. Stop dismissing your exhaustion as "just a busy season."

🫶Set a Boundary. Protect your rest and personal time as fiercely as you protect your work deadlines. "No" is a complete sentence.

🫶Reconnect to Rest. True rest isn't just scrolling on your phone. It's sleep, quiet moments, hobbies that fill you up, and true disconnection.

🫶Talk About It. Reach out to a friend, a therapist, or a trusted colleague. You'd be surprised how many people feel the same way.

The goal of life isn't to endure the grind until you break. Your mental health is the foundation of everything. It's okay to step off the hamster wheel and tend to it.

22/10/2025

Inner child work centers around the idea that childhood experiences, particularly those involving abuse, neglect, or abandonment, can lead to unresolved emotional wounds that manifest in adult behavior and relationships. This type of therapy incorporates the technique of "re-parenting" which aims to help individuals reconnect with their inner child, acknowledge and love it, and offer the care and support they may have lacked in childhood. This process helps individuals to better understand their patterns of behavior and relationships, ultimately promoting emotional stability and healing.

John Bradshaw’s inner child healing framework offers a powerful roadmap for addressing the roots of your trauma. By reconnecting with the wounded inner child, the part of us frozen in unmet childhood needs we can dismantle harmful patterns and reclaim authenticity.

Continue Reading...
https://www.birdhousecounselling.com.au/inner-child