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02/11/2025

🌱 What Emotionally Mature Parenting Looks Like

Emotionally mature parents aren’t perfect — they’re present.

They don’t always get it right, but they notice when they don’t.

They pause, breathe, and repair instead of pretending everything’s fine.

They know their tone carries energy.
So when they feel frustration rise, they model calm by naming it:

“I’m feeling tense right now, I need a moment.”

Instead of unloading that tension onto their child, they take ownership of it.

Emotionally mature parents listen beyond words.
They hear the silence after “I’m fine.”

They know behaviour is communication — anger means overwhelm, withdrawal means fear, defiance means “I don’t feel seen.”

They apologise when they overstep.
Not because they’re weak, but because humility builds trust.

They show their children that love and accountability can coexist.

They ask, not assume.

They say:
“What do you need from me right now?”

“Did that feel fair?”

“What helps you feel better when you’re upset?”

They create safety by letting emotions exist.

No feeling is too loud, too messy, or too inconvenient.

They teach that feelings don’t make you bad — they make you human.

And when they don’t know what to do, they stay open.

They learn, they repair, they grow alongside their child.

Because emotional maturity isn’t a state — it’s a practice.

A daily choice to lead with curiosity, not control.
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Our kids don’t need perfect parents.
They need parents who can name their feelings, own their mistakes, and make love feel safe. 🌿💛

01/11/2025

🌿 Be Gentle with the Wounded Masculine

Loving a man who hasn’t yet learned to speak the language of emotion can feel exhausting.

Not because you love too much — but because you’re constantly left feeling unseen, unheard, and misunderstood.

You open your heart honestly, explaining what hurts, what you need, what makes you feel safe — and he looks back at you blankly, defensive, or withdrawn.

It’s like trying to build connection in two different languages: you’re speaking feeling, and he’s speaking survival.

But here’s what most people miss — he didn’t choose not to learn that language.
He learned silence as safety.
He learned control as love.
He learned performance as worthiness.

No one consciously taught him the language of his emotions.

Maybe he had a father who said, “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”
A mother too overwhelmed and disregulated or unsupported herself to hold his feelings (neurospicy perhaps).

Or parents who praised achievement but never emotional truth.

He survived by shutting off — by becoming useful, strong, detached — because that’s how love stayed accessible.

So when you share your emotions now, his body still remembers: this isn’t safe or how can I keep the peace.

Your tenderness can feel like threat; your truth can sound like criticism.

He’s not avoiding you to punish you — he’s avoiding the flood of emotion he was never taught to face.

Still, loving someone who isn’t equipped to meet you emotionally will drain you if you try to be both teacher and partner.

You can model emotional honesty, but you can’t walk his healing path for him.

Patience is not the same as self-abandonment.
Love can hold compassion and boundaries.
It can say:

“I can still love you from afar and accept the space you need to grow.”
Be gentle — with him, yes — but especially with yourself.

Because healing the wounded masculine doesn’t begin with fixing him.

It begins with no longer carrying his pain as your purpose.

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This isn’t about blame — it’s about understanding the origins of emotional disconnection, and choosing compassion without self-sacrifice.
May we all learn to love without losing ourselves. 🌿💛

29/10/2025

Hi all

I just wanted to drop in and let you know I am still here. Life's just gotten very lifey lately.

Between supporting a close friend through seizures and FND diagnosis to my own relationship break down, its been a wild ride these last few months.

Ive needed to bring my focus back in to me and do alot of my own healing. Which honestly is confronting as f because its been so intense.

However i know that this process always yields the most beautiful changes, growth and a new magnetic pull for the good s**t i deserve to gravitate in.

I am still doing sound healing Bauple Recreation Ground every Wednesday night 5pm

And the photo is a session I do weekly now at my sons school. Its just a precious time to share my passion with the kids and staff.

I dont have much capacity for 1:1 clients at the moment but happy to field questions, offer support as i can. So please do reach out if you a struggling.

I am collaborating in a women's retreat in Dec at Widgee if you are local and want more details let me know.

Much love to you all. Xx Sarah

27/09/2025

07/09/2025

Real love is scary but worth the vulnerability

01/09/2025

✨ Exploring Identity and Femininity Through Colour & Play ✨

Lately I’ve been really leaning into exploring my identity in a new way. I’ve started building a little collection of earrings and clothing in all different colours—pieces I wouldn’t normally wear, but that call me to play.

Each day feels like an experiment: Which colour frequency do I want to embody today? Which version of me is asking to be expressed?

What’s been most inspiring is noticing how my autistic clients show up in this space of identity.

They’re constantly exploring who they are, and while they may feel the gaze of judgment from others, they keep choosing to express themselves anyway. I deeply admire that courage.

It’s teaching me something powerful:

💫 Identity doesn’t have to be fixed.
💫 Who I am today might look different tomorrow.
💫 And that’s not for anyone else to judge—it’s simply my playground, my life.

There’s such freedom in that. And honestly? It feels pretty awesome. 🌈

21/08/2025

✨ Trusting the timing ✨

Sometimes I notice how things unfold in ways I couldn’t have planned.

Last week, I didn’t reply to a client’s voice note. At the time I thought I was just busy… but listening back today, I realised I actually needed the insights I had monday morning in order to respond in the way she needed.

Then, a friend and client called for a quick mini-session. The themes that came through for her—about past life energies, her relationship, and her business—were the exact same things I had been reflecting on earlier in the day. She even said, “I’m going to pay you for this phone call, I’m so grateful.”

Moments like these remind me how much our personal processes and our service to others are intertwined. What we move through in ourselves often becomes the medicine we can share.

💛 I’m so grateful for this flow—for the way timing, alignment, and connection all weave together when we let them.

👉 Have you ever noticed that what you’re processing personally shows up in the people around you too?

19/08/2025

🌿 When the belief is heavier than the reality

Lately I’ve been noticing a pattern in myself.

For a long time, even something like going grocery shopping felt overwhelming. I’d want someone to come with me, or to be at home ready to help unpack, because I believed it would be “too much” for me to handle alone.

But this past week, with my partner and parents away, I had no choice but to do it all myself. And what surprised me was that… it actually felt easier. Simpler. More peaceful.

It made me realise: it’s not always the tasks themselves that drain us. Sometimes it’s the belief we’ve formed about being overloaded that makes it feel heavier than it really is.

The fear of being overwhelmed can be more exhausting than the doing.

This really hit home when I ran into a client today who has epilepsy and had recently been admitted to hospital. I haven’t spoken with her yet about it, but it made me think of how—after a traumatic experience—the body can start holding a kind of preemptive fear. Anticipating the worst.

Remembering the past and creating beliefs to protect us, even when the present moment is different.

Whether it’s seizures, burnout, or even something as simple as grocery shopping—the pattern is the same. The nervous system says: “This is dangerous, this will break me,” even when the reality often tells a different story.

💛 The healing comes in updating the belief to match the truth of our current capacity. In learning that we can handle more than we thought. And often, when we move through it, we discover there’s more peace on the other side than we expected.

👉 I’d love to know—what’s a belief you’ve carried about yourself that you’ve since realised wasn’t true?

19/08/2025

🌿 A reminder about carving out time for yourself…

Yesterday morning I realised just how much I value my Monday routine—driving into town, going to the gym, having that half-hour of space just for me. It’s become a little ritual that lets me process, reflect, and reset.
Last week, I didn’t go at all. I fell out of my routine, skipped the gym, and kept pushing through. By the weekend, I could feel it—I’d dropped into emotional chaos.
But here’s the thing: I don’t see that as a failure anymore. My system clearly needed that space to unravel, so that today I could land in this realisation.

✨ When we don’t carve out time intentionally, life will happily fill itself up with everything else. There will always be jobs, people to care for, tasks to get done. If we leave self-time to chance, it won’t happen.

✨ And when we do fall out of routine, it’s not about shaming ourselves. It’s about noticing the effects, giving ourselves grace, and gently returning to what supports us.

For me, part of that support is sharing my experiences. When I take time to clarify and articulate what I’m moving through, it not only helps me understand myself—it also allows me to serve others who might be in a similar place.
And I’ve realised: service itself isn’t what drains me. In fact, it can be energising. What drains me is trying to serve from a place of emotional dysregulation. That’s why time and space for myself is non-negotiable—it allows me to give in a way that’s sustainable, rather than depleting.

💛 So if you’ve let your own routine slip, maybe this is your nudge: not to push harder, but to give yourself space. To hold it as important. Because you are.

👉 I’d love to hear—what’s one thing you do that helps you regulate and come back to yourself? (Or if it feels more personal, send me a message—I’d love to hold that space for you.)

18/08/2025

💭 A little Monday morning reflection...

For most of my adult life, one of my “superpowers” has been my ability to juggle and manage a lot of things—micromanaging myself to get things done for myself and others. I used to be really proud of that.

But after my breakdown a few years ago, I noticed I developed this belief that maybe that superpower was the problem. That being so capable, so productive, was what caused my burnout.

I’ve been sitting with it today and realised—
✨ It wasn’t the tasks that burnt me out.
✨ It wasn’t the achievements.
✨ It wasn’t my capacity.

What really led to burnout was the lack of awareness I had around my emotions, my body, and my nervous system. I was pushing through without listening to myself.

So of course, when I finally broke down, a part of me went:
❌ “Being productive is unsafe.”
❌ “Managing a lot means I’ll burn out again.”
But that’s not true. The ability to hold a lot is a gift—it just needs balance. It needs to be partnered with self-awareness, regulation, and gentleness with myself.

I know so many of us—whether neurodivergent or neurotypical—have hit that wall of burnout and then felt like we had to avoid parts of ourselves that used to be strengths. But the truth is, it’s not the strength’s fault.

We don’t need to abandon our capacity. We just need to understand our system, so we can work with it, not against it.

💛 That’s the real sweet spot—bringing together our abilities and our awareness.

28/07/2025

🌿 The Science of Co-Regulation & Energy Healing

Your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s responding exactly how it was designed to — based on everything it’s lived through.

When people come to me with anxiety, depression, chronic pain, or emotional overwhelm, I see it not just as a symptom — but as a sign that the nervous system is doing its best to protect them.

In Western science, we understand this through polyvagal theory — a model of how our nervous system detects safety or danger and adjusts our responses accordingly:

🧠 Anxiety is often a state of hyperarousal — the system is stuck in fight or flight.

😔 Depression can show up when the system collapses into shutdown (freeze).

❤️‍🩹 Real healing happens when the body enters a state of ventral vagal regulation — a place of felt safety, where connection and restoration become possible.

This is why co-regulation matters so much — and why it's at the heart of what I do.
When you sit with someone whose nervous system is calm and attuned, your system picks up on that. It begins to mirror it. This isn’t just spiritual — it’s neurological.

In session, I listen to more than your words.
I attune to the subtle signals your body is giving off — sometimes it’s tension in my own body (like the base chakra tightening when you’re holding fear or grief), or waves of emotion that don’t belong to me.

I use that feedback to gently guide us into deeper safety, with intention, presence, and energetic awareness.
Your body already knows how to heal — but it needs a safe space to feel what it’s been holding.

I recently had a client say:
“My mind isn’t playing tricks on me for the first time in ages. I feel at home in my body.”
That’s what happens when we regulate together — not by force, not by bypassing emotions — but by witnessing, holding, and gently allowing the system to settle in its own time.
This work isn’t about “fixing.”

It’s about remembering how to be human in a body again — with all its sensations, stories, and incredible capacity to heal.

If this resonates with you — or someone you love — reach out.
I’d love to talk more about how this kind of work might support your unique path.

17/07/2025

Fortnightly Sound Healing at Glenwood Cottages

I love this space so much and am grateful for the beautiful souls who find their way here to relax and reset.

Wednesdays
We start at 5pm
10 spots available so must book
Msg 0412464760

Arrive a few mins early.
BYO yoga mat or borrow one.
Pillow, blanket and water.

We meet at Bauple Recreation Ground Q150 shed on the alternate week, same time.

Please share around to anyone you think might be interested or would benefit.

Sound healing frequencies help your body to process an function at their best through resonance and deep relaxation.