Create Healing

21/01/2026

A little personal context…

Over the last four months, my life has been a very real, very human crash course in the difference between nervous system regulation and emotional processing.

On the outside, it looked like a relationship ending.
On the inside, it was my body finally coming out of survival.

For a long time, my focus wasn’t on understanding what went wrong or fixing anything.
It was simply learning how to stay regulated while everything was falling apart.

Breathing.
Grounding.
Slowing my reactions.

Letting my system settle enough to get through co-parenting, conversations, and the day-to-day reality of change (let's be honest sometimes not doing this very well).

And that mattered more than I realised at the time.

Because once my nervous system stopped being constantly activated, something else happened.
The emotions I hadn’t been able to feel inside the relationship started to arrive — not as overwhelm, but in waves I could actually stay present with.

Grief.
Anger.
Disappointment.
Relief.

Not all at once.

Not dramatically.

Just honestly.

I could finally see patterns without needing to defend them.

Feel feelings without collapsing into them.
Let things complete instead of looping.
That’s when it really clicked for me:

Regulation created the safety.

Processing happened because the safety was there.

And if I’m honest, there were moments where I felt calm but strangely flat — like my system was stable, but waiting.

Now I understand that wasn’t being stuck.
That was integration catching up.

I’m still moving through it.

Still human.

Still learning in real time.

But I trust my body more than ever — and I trust that when emotions surface now, it’s because I’m finally safe enough to meet them 🤍

Love to you all Sarah

21/01/2026

Do you ever feel…

• “Fine” but flat
• Calm, yet stuck
• Like you’re repeating the same patterns without any real resolution

If so, there’s a good chance you’ve actually done something right — not wrong.
Because many people in this place have learned how to regulate their nervous system…
but haven’t yet been supported to process what’s stored underneath.

And those two things are related — but they are not the same.

Nervous system regulation is about safety.
It’s your body answering the question:

“Am I okay right now?”

Regulation helps you: • Come out of fight, flight, or freeze

• Calm anxiety and overwhelm
• Feel more present and grounded
• Function day to day without constantly being triggered

When your nervous system is regulated, your body is no longer in survival mode.

That’s huge. And necessary.
But regulation doesn’t automatically resolve what happened in the past.

You can be regulated and still feel emotionally flat.
You can be calm and still replay the same relationship dynamics.

You can understand your patterns logically and yet keep living them.

That’s where emotional processing comes in.
Emotional processing is about completion.
It’s the body finally having enough safety to feel what it couldn’t feel at the time.

Processing allows: • Grief that was postponed to move through

• Anger that was suppressed to release
• Sadness, fear, or longing to be acknowledged
• Old emotional charge to soften and integrate

Regulation creates the safety.
Processing uses the safety.

And this is where many people get confused.
If you try to process emotions without regulation, it can feel overwhelming, destabilising, or retraumatising.

If you only regulate and never process, life can start to feel:
• Stable but stagnant
• Peaceful but muted
• Controlled rather than alive

Nothing is “wrong” — something just hasn’t had space to complete.

Healing isn’t about staying calm at all costs.
And it’s not about diving endlessly into emotional depth either.

It’s the gentle movement between the two:
Regulate the body
Allow emotions to process in small, safe doses
Return to regulation

Over and over, as your system is ready.
So if you’re in a season where you feel okay but not fulfilled, settled but not free — it might not be a block.

It might simply be that your nervous system is finally saying: “I’m safe enough now. Something deeper can move.”

And that’s not something to force.

It’s something to meet with patience, curiosity, and care 💛

14/01/2026

So very true Em. Notice this year who's adding to your life and who's draining your energy. Its ok to prioritize yourself.

17/12/2025

📌Notice!! 📌

No Sound Healing at Bauple til Wed 7th Jan.

I hope everyone has a safe and happy Christmas and new years.

Much love

Sarah

12/12/2025

Trauma also doesnt have to be BIG stuff to leave your system contracted and disregulated.
Your body will show you signs, your job is to learn how to listen.

09/12/2025

So much can change in 8 weeks.

World's can fall apart and enter into renovation, nervous systems rattled and regulated.

I liken this period to having thought I was a whole egg that was laser cut by the actions of others.

While it felt like I was being destroyed and everything I loved was falling apart I can now see that it all had to happen to allow for transformation.

Now I dont have a set form to become, no longer an egg, fragile or delicate. Im more like flexible puzzle pieces that i get to reimagine and create myself into what ever I want to be moment by moment.

Allowing me to authentically morph as I continue to grow and expand.

04/12/2025

✨ How Many Hugs Do We Actually Need Each Day? ✨

Did you know there’s a science-backed sweet spot for how many hugs help our nervous system feel connected, calm, and supported?

Researchers often say:

🤗 4 hugs a day for survival
🤗 8 hugs a day for maintenance
🤗 12 hugs a day for growth

Not because of some magic number… but because regular, genuine human touch boosts oxytocin, softens stress hormones, supports emotional regulation, and helps us feel safe in our own bodies.

And honestly?
Most of us are walking around touch-starved without even realising it.

A single 20–30 second hug can:

✨ Lower anxiety
✨ Ground the nervous system
✨ Strengthen connection
✨ Drop cortisol levels
✨ Deepen feelings of safety

It’s amazing how something so simple can have such a big impact — especially if you grew up without a lot of consistent affection or you’re rebuilding emotional safety as an adult.

So here’s your gentle reminder today:

🤍 Your body deserves safe, warm, present touch.
🤍 You’re allowed to ask for a hug.
🤍 And you’re absolutely allowed to need more than the average person.

If you’re reading this… go get a hug from someone you trust.
Or offer one — someone else might need it more than you realise. 🤗✨

02/11/2025

🌱 What Emotionally Mature Parenting Looks Like

Emotionally mature parents aren’t perfect — they’re present.

They don’t always get it right, but they notice when they don’t.

They pause, breathe, and repair instead of pretending everything’s fine.

They know their tone carries energy.
So when they feel frustration rise, they model calm by naming it:

“I’m feeling tense right now, I need a moment.”

Instead of unloading that tension onto their child, they take ownership of it.

Emotionally mature parents listen beyond words.
They hear the silence after “I’m fine.”

They know behaviour is communication — anger means overwhelm, withdrawal means fear, defiance means “I don’t feel seen.”

They apologise when they overstep.
Not because they’re weak, but because humility builds trust.

They show their children that love and accountability can coexist.

They ask, not assume.

They say:
“What do you need from me right now?”

“Did that feel fair?”

“What helps you feel better when you’re upset?”

They create safety by letting emotions exist.

No feeling is too loud, too messy, or too inconvenient.

They teach that feelings don’t make you bad — they make you human.

And when they don’t know what to do, they stay open.

They learn, they repair, they grow alongside their child.

Because emotional maturity isn’t a state — it’s a practice.

A daily choice to lead with curiosity, not control.
✨
Our kids don’t need perfect parents.
They need parents who can name their feelings, own their mistakes, and make love feel safe. 🌿💛

01/11/2025

🌿 Be Gentle with the Wounded Masculine

Loving a man who hasn’t yet learned to speak the language of emotion can feel exhausting.

Not because you love too much — but because you’re constantly left feeling unseen, unheard, and misunderstood.

You open your heart honestly, explaining what hurts, what you need, what makes you feel safe — and he looks back at you blankly, defensive, or withdrawn.

It’s like trying to build connection in two different languages: you’re speaking feeling, and he’s speaking survival.

But here’s what most people miss — he didn’t choose not to learn that language.
He learned silence as safety.
He learned control as love.
He learned performance as worthiness.

No one consciously taught him the language of his emotions.

Maybe he had a father who said, “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”
A mother too overwhelmed and disregulated or unsupported herself to hold his feelings (neurospicy perhaps).

Or parents who praised achievement but never emotional truth.

He survived by shutting off — by becoming useful, strong, detached — because that’s how love stayed accessible.

So when you share your emotions now, his body still remembers: this isn’t safe or how can I keep the peace.

Your tenderness can feel like threat; your truth can sound like criticism.

He’s not avoiding you to punish you — he’s avoiding the flood of emotion he was never taught to face.

Still, loving someone who isn’t equipped to meet you emotionally will drain you if you try to be both teacher and partner.

You can model emotional honesty, but you can’t walk his healing path for him.

Patience is not the same as self-abandonment.
Love can hold compassion and boundaries.
It can say:

“I can still love you from afar and accept the space you need to grow.”
Be gentle — with him, yes — but especially with yourself.

Because healing the wounded masculine doesn’t begin with fixing him.

It begins with no longer carrying his pain as your purpose.

✨
This isn’t about blame — it’s about understanding the origins of emotional disconnection, and choosing compassion without self-sacrifice.
May we all learn to love without losing ourselves. 🌿💛

29/10/2025

Hi all

I just wanted to drop in and let you know I am still here. Life's just gotten very lifey lately.

Between supporting a close friend through seizures and FND diagnosis to my own relationship break down, its been a wild ride these last few months.

Ive needed to bring my focus back in to me and do alot of my own healing. Which honestly is confronting as f because its been so intense.

However i know that this process always yields the most beautiful changes, growth and a new magnetic pull for the good s**t i deserve to gravitate in.

I am still doing sound healing Bauple Recreation Ground every Wednesday night 5pm

And the photo is a session I do weekly now at my sons school. Its just a precious time to share my passion with the kids and staff.

I dont have much capacity for 1:1 clients at the moment but happy to field questions, offer support as i can. So please do reach out if you a struggling.

I am collaborating in a women's retreat in Dec at Widgee if you are local and want more details let me know.

Much love to you all. Xx Sarah

27/09/2025

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Real love is scary but worth the vulnerability