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18/12/2020

Some studies on a psychopaths

Psychopaths are usually missing a part of the brain called a ‘spindle neuron and people that lack these neurons. Psychopaths also show differences in their structure and function of their brain (2017. School of Medicine and Public Health. University of Wisconsin-Madison) They do not behave badly to hurt and harm you that is a by product of their behaviour, they are however pursuing their self-centred narcissistic goals.

We need to reiterate here not to confuse a psychopath with a person suffering from Asperger’s because a person suffering from Asperger’s can also lack empathy. A person suffering from Asperger’s can lack cognitive empathy yet can have plenty of emotional empathy. They may feel our hurt or happiness but do not know why. They may also feel our emotions intensly but have know idea why and can have trouble controlling their expression. Psychopaths on the other hand do not feel these emotions but are very good at telling when we are feeling them.

A Psychopath may not have the ability to sense fear so they may continue to hurt a person until they are not around. Functional MRI’S were used on psychopath’s and the amygdala (emotions part of the brain) did not show activity of fear within a psychopath. A study in Los Angelis in 2009 on 59 people in a database from a temp employment agency showed the amygdala is 17% smaller on the left hand side and 19% larger on the right hand side on psychopaths.

Another study in 2012 was performed on 17 psychopaths, 27 violent offenders who were not psychopaths and 22 law abiding non psychopaths. The differences were not limited to the amygdala. It was found the diagnosed psychopaths all had less structural grey matter and research suggests it is involved in complex planning and reasoning, although it is stated they are still not 100% sure of the purpose of this grey matter.

18/12/2020

The charm of a psychopath

A psychopath is charming in front of a person they chose, because they focus on what they can get form the person they are talking to rather than the possibility of rejection. They are also impulsive because rewards loom larger than punishments and so they see little point in delaying gratification. A psychopath needs stimulation (are easily bored) because the ‘need for speed’ is great as they get a significant greater reward from risk than the rest of us do. A psychopath has a grandiose sense of self-worth because they don’t remember negative experiences, e.g. they will not remember asking 99 girls out and their response being no, just the one response being yes.

I know this paints a picture of the psychopath as an impulsive, focused reward chasing, risk-ignoring go-getter with an extreme lack of empathy to others and may seem to the empath that I am being negative. I am not however; these blogs in regards to the psychopath are hopefully education to help understand people around them, whether they live or work with a psychopath to understand them more rather than feel the hurt as much because they will not do anything different.

Remember we can all lack something and these blogs that I am writing on the Psychopath are not for Psychopaths to read because they will not see anything to grow from or lack a part of. A matter of fact anyone can suffer any of the areas on discussion and not be a psychopath. A Psychopath lacks empathy towards others and please do not place autistic people within this stream as it is unfair, unprofessional and unfound and is based on a different criteria.

17/12/2020

Psychopaths are different to other disorders

The word ‘psycho’ means deceased mind and ‘path’ means mind, spirit or soul and ‘path’ is suffering or disease in the Greek pathos. Personality disorders cover 40 to 60% of all diagnosed mental disorders.

Typical disorders:
Paranoid – irrational, suspicion and mistrust.
Schizoid – detached from social relationships
Schizotypal – extreme discomfort with social interaction.
Dramatic disorders:
Antisocial – disregard for others, lack of empathy and manipulative behaviour.
Borderline – instability in self -image, behaviour and relationships.
Histrionic – attention seeking behaviour.
Narcissistic – need for admiration and lack of empathy.
Anxious disorders:
Avoidant – feelings of inadequacy and extreme sensitivity
Dependent – need for care from other people.
Obsessive-compulsive – rigid conformity to rules and perfectionism.

Hare’s psychopathy checklist has a maximum score of 40.
People usually average a score between 3 and 6.
Non psychopathic criminals average between 16 and 22.
A score of over 25 in the UK or over 30 in the USA is regarded as a positive diagnoses of psychopathy.

I need to state here that there is no diagnosis for psychopathy in the DSM. and I get it that most of us would not describe them as mentally normal. They don’t however suffer from hallucinations, are not anxious or compulsive and don’t hear voices, they do not however show remorse for their victims.

Psychopaths often like having multiple sexual partners (often at the same time but without the others knowing, like to use a greater amount of drugs and do not fear negative consequences.
Psychopaths fear conditioning.

Winning can be nice if you’re an empath but its fantastic to win if you’re a psychopath. Psychopaths have a strong behavioural activated system and are much less concerned about punishment. It is rare for a psychopath to become depressed because they thrive on the challenge to be dominant.

In behavioural games including looking at different shapes and colors a psychopath will only care about what they got right and will not focus or be concerned about the one’s that were incorrect an empath will. Even if the rules change and become harder, e.g. match the shapes and include matching the colour, an empath will slow down, but a psychopath will remain the same speed or even get faster to get more correct and will not think about the ones they got incorrect.

This can also be a factor at work from a psychopathic manager, if money is only looked at and the safety of staff is not a factor to be concerned about. Additionally a psychopath can find it difficult to change their direction and resistant to change their response.

14/12/2020

Working with Psychopaths.

Psychopaths confuse the hell out of normal people.
People tend to worry about how to deal with them rather than running our own lives.

A Psychopath can tie us in knots for months, years or even decades causing emotional and often financial harm that we are unlikely to ever recover from unless we leave and gain support from a profession.

A psychopaths lack of empathy is the key to understanding why they are so dangerous. They gravitate towards certain industries and positions of power and they usually get them because psychopathic traits are often very close to what we look for in leaders.

We have changed our society to be the perfect breeding ground for psychopaths. We have changed from societal rules and collective cultures that have kept them in check to now individually is the highest common denominator. And profit is more important than safety or health.

A psychopathic boss can drive away their best workers, become obsessive with micromanagement and be completely absent on other things, eg. Empathetic feelings towards others, not want to explain how to do something but will advise the order and not not care about the consequences of others, when they do not know about the task, they will dismiss them rather than want to show them.

A psychopath can be meddling by always changing things and not creating any clear direction. They create in house fighting and take away harmony and focus in the workplace. A psychopath will deflect blame onto others and staff would be fired or leave the business and their decisions can be made on impulse with very little input from others. They have favourites (those that support and do not speak against their ruling). Staff that are favourites still have to walk on a fine line because it can be removed in an instant.

Psychopathic traits are included in both a sociopath and a person suffering from narcissistic disorder yet both can differ. A sociopath can become a little more dangerous because they will not move away from someone if they cannot suck all the empathy from a person. They will continue to fight for clear domination of anyone they feel is a threat to them, and that includes their people on the same level as them and above them. When they are looking at employing someone it is about how much the applicant likes the boss at the interview rather than what they know.

14/12/2020

Antisocial personality disorder - Criteria's & Features

According to the DSM- 5, antisocial personality disorder is defined as [a] pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others occurring since the age 15 years, as indicated by three (or more) of the following:

Failure to conform to social norms concerning lawful behaviours, as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest.
Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure.
Impulsivity or failure to plan.
Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults.
Having no regard for the safety of self or others.
Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behaviour or honour financial obligations.
Lack of remorse, or inability to feel guilt, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another."

Many adults who have been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) have a history of symptoms of conduct disorder before the age of 15 years. Additionally, impairments in both self-perception and interpersonal personalities are present as well as pathological traits. Symptoms tend to begin in adolescence or early adulthood and continue over many years. Other symptoms someone with Antisocial Personality Disorder may exhibit are:

Being very charming or witty in order to manipulate someone or get what they want
Exudes a sense of superiority or arrogance
Impulsive and prone to taking risks or engaging in dangerous behaviour with little regard to how it may affect others
Lack of empathy or feelings towards others or a situation
May display hostile, aggressive behaviour, or become violent
Being dishonest or lying to people
No regard or care for what is right or wrong
Being irresponsible
Inability to maintain healthy relationships
Lack of regard for rules or societal norms and may have a history of criminal behaviour
When someone is consistently exhibiting these symptoms, and there is cause for concern, you may wonder what's going on and seek medical help. After an initial conversation and a physical evaluation, the doctor may refer the patient to a mental health professional who will look at the following things in order to render a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).

Significant impairments in self (identity or self-direction) and interpersonal (empathy or intimacy) functioning.
One or more pathological personality traits.
The impairments in personality are stable across time and consistent in situations.
The personality impairments are not better understood as a normative part of a developmental stage or social environment.
Substance use or a medical condition is not the only cause.
Once antisocial personality disorder has been diagnosed, the diagnostic evaluation moves on to determine the specific personality disorders. There are many different types of personality disorders listed in the DSM-5. Therefore, only a mental health professional who specializes in personality disorders can properly diagnose the illness and provide a treatment plan. Keep in mind that not all personality disorders require medication, and some can be treated using evidence-based therapies.

02/08/2020

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09/05/2020

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