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07/11/2025

It’s S*x on and tonight we're measuring up with some Pythagoras Theorem.

Angles, angles, angles. Not something we always associate with eggplants but here’s a fun fact they didn’t teach you in maths class: er****ons have geometry, and it changes over time.

When you’re younger, er****ons tend to be more upward-pointing - a strong 10 or 11 o’clock angle, thanks to firm blood flow and elastic pe**le tissues. As men age, testosterone levels shift, blood vessels stiffen, and connective tissue loses a bit of spring.

The result?
Your er****on may start to curve, tilt, or point more forward or downward, think 9 o’clock sliding to 7 o’clock.

But here’s the important part:
👉 This is normal.
👉 It doesn’t mean your s*x life is over.
👉 And it definitely doesn’t mean you’ve lost your “performance.”

Erections aren’t about angle, they’re about adaptability. Pleasure doesn’t depend on geometry, it depends on presence, creativity, and connection.

So, if your compass points a little differently these days, don’t panic. Learn the new map. Bodies evolve, and so should our understanding of what pleasure looks (and feels) like.

Important note! Sometimes, the shape changes due to conditions like Peyronie’s disease, where scar tissue causes curvature. Normative changes start at the base, Peyronie's tends to effect the shaft causing a more obtuse curve. Those types of changes can be more sudden and effect anyone of any age and warrant a visit to the doctor for a looksie.

Up next Friday: Grow-er or Show-er

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05/11/2025

✋ What’s Your Other Hand Doing?

Be honest ... when you ma******te, what’s your other hand doing?

For most men, it’s holding a phone. Scrolling, swiping, fast-forwarding. Basically acting as your D.O.C. (Director of Photography that is 🎥)

But what if that hand had a new job?
What if it wasn’t scrolling through tabs or gripping a screen, but exploring you instead?

Your thighs. Your stomach. Your chest. The places you forget are capable of pleasure because all your attention’s focused on one small part of your body. What if your other hand was touching your body, tracing sensations, getting curious about what you actually feel ... not what someone on a screen looks like.

Mindful ma********on isn’t about being slow or serious, it’s about getting curious. What does your skin actually feel like? How does arousal build when you’re not chasing a finish line? What happens when both hands are in on the fun?

This month, try a simple experiment:
📱 Put the phone down.
🖐️ Use both hands.
💭 Stay present.
👉Notice where your body wants to be touched, not just where it’s “supposed” to.
😏 See what surprises you.

When you stop watching pleasure and start feeling it, things get a lot more interesting.

So… what’s your other hand doing tonight? 😉

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03/11/2025

🏈 The Performance Trap: When S*x Becomes Pressure Instead of Pleasure

Let’s talk about performance anxiety.
Not the kind that happens under stadium lights, the kind that happens under the sheets.

Somewhere along the way, many men started treating s*x like a sport:
➡️ Score the goal.
➡️ Keep your stamina.
➡️ Don’t fumble.
➡️ Always be ready to play.

But s*x isn’t a competition. It’s connection.

When you start “training” to perform rather than feel, you lose the spark that makes s*x intimate, playful, and satisfying. The body tenses. The mind races. The pleasure zone turns into the pressure zone. It's this pressure that tends to lead to problems like erectile dysfunction and premature ej*******on.

Here’s the truth:
You don’t need to "perform".
You need to participate.

Pleasure isn’t about the stats, it’s about the sensations. It’s not a test of endurance, it’s a practice of presence.

So, this Movember, let’s rethink what it means to “play the game.”
Throw away the playbook.
Slow down. Breathe. Tune in to your body and your partner.
Because the best moments in s*x (like in sport) happen when you’re fully in the moment. 🏆

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01/11/2025

💪 Movember is here it’s all about men’s health, from the balls to the brain! 🧠🍆

This month, we’re diving deep (pun intended) into the world of men’s health, s*xuality, and wellbeing: exploring what it really means to be healthy, s*xy, and emotionally connected in 2025.

We’ll be unpacking topics that don’t always get the spotlight, like:
👀 Understanding your testicles, testosterone, and prostate, and how they shape mood, desire, and vitality.
🧔‍♂️ Masculinity and vulnerability: redefining strength beyond the six-pack.
🍑 A**l pleasure and prostate play: pleasure isn’t gendered, and curiosity is healthy.
💬 Mental health and connection: how shame, silence, and stress affect your s*x life.
💦 Ma********on myths and self-touch: pleasure as self-care and emotional regulation.
💞 Intimacy after 40: changes in desire, er****ons, and confidence (and how to adapt).

This month isn’t just about moustaches, it’s about men making time to check in, open up, and tune into their bodies.

So, whether you’re growing a mo, flexing your emotional muscles, or just curious about what’s going on down there, stay tuned - November’s going to be full of tips, truths, and a few cheeky surprises. 😏

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31/10/2025

It’s S*x on and tonight we're taking it off, doing the big reveal, and looking at what lies beneath as we explore the realms of masks.

Halloween is the night of hidden identities and shadow selves. When we don a mask or costume, something remarkable happens: the usual rules of social behaviour loosens, and erotic imagination thrives.

✨ The Power of Anonymity
A mask offers permission to explore without consequence. The shy become bold, the restrained become playful, and curiosity becomes action. For many, Halloween is the night where flirting, roleplay, or subtle erotic games feel socially sanctioned.
Masquerades blur lines between who we are and who we wish to be. Lovers and strangers alike can step into new personas, experiment with power dynamics, or explore forbidden desires, all under the guise of play.

💋 Masks as Erotic Tools
Masks themselves can be objects of desire. Leather, lace, feathers, or intricate Venetian designs stimulate the imagination and heighten sensuality. In erotic contexts, masks amplify mystery, power, and submission, making touch, gaze, and proximity more electric. They allow for roleplay, fe**sh exploration, and arousal.
Masks reduce inhibition, heighten anticipation, and amplify sensory perception. When the eyes are the only visible part of a face, a glance, a smirk, or a touch carries extra weight. Desire is magnified by what is concealed, not just revealed.

🕯️ Unmasking – The Erotic Reveal
Unmasking transforms fantasy into reality: the playful anonymity ends, and the full presence of the person (their expressions, reactions, and vulnerability) is revealed. This shift can intensify intimacy, heighten arousal, and create deep erotic resonance between participants. In essence, the mask builds tension, and unmasking releases it.

Beyond fun and fright, Halloween is a cultural ritual: it lets us step outside ourselves, explore fantasy safely, and connect with others in playful, erotic ways. The mask isn’t just a disguise: it’s a tool for self-expression, boundary-testing, and sensual discovery.

Up next Friday: Geometry of the 🍆

**sh

30/10/2025

Wishing everyone a spooktacular ! 🎃✨

Long before costumes and candy, this night was known to the ancient Celts as Samhain (pronounced “Sow-in”), a time when the veil between the living and the spirit world was said to thin. Fires were lit (in turnips, instead of pumpkins), disguises were worn, and people gathered to honour their ancestors and protect themselves from wandering spirits.

Whether you're trick or treatin' on the streets, or trick or treatin' in the sheets, may this Halloween invite you (like the Celts of old) to step between worlds and escape the mundane for just one magical night.

So grab your wands, your witch’s hats, your handcuffs and your whips, and transport yourself somewhere deliciously otherworldly.

Dress up and role play.
Walk the streets and meet your neighbours.
Watch a scary movie and snuggle up with a friend or lover.
Get your freak on in something devilish.
.. And if all else fails, you can always reach for the bowl of candy ... it doesn’t count on Halloween, or so the candy goblins tell me. 🍬👻

27/10/2025

🪞 The Doppelgänger Fantasy – Double Selves, Shadow Desires, and Erotic Reflections

In folklore, the was an omen: a spectral twin said to herald death or deceit. But in s*xology and psychology, this double becomes something far more tantalising: a mirror of our shadow self, the version of us that refuses to behave.

✨ The Shadow and the Self
Carl Jung described the Shadow as the hidden side of the psyche, the home of our disowned impulses: lust, envy, aggression, and taboo cravings. The Doppelgänger fantasy is what happens when those impulses gain form, when our reflection steps out of the mirror and takes on a life of its own.

In today’s world, the idea has evolved. Our doubles aren’t just supernatural, they’re look-alikes, avatars, online personas, or even AI versions of ourselves. They’re the digital or imagined “others” who do what we won’t. The fantasy isn’t only about meeting your ghostly twin; it’s about confronting your duplicate, the “you” that’s freer, s*xier, darker, or more daring.

💋 Erotic Echoes of the Double
This theme plays out in countless ways:
-Roleplay that lets us embody a different self: unrestrained, mischievous, or morally fluid.
-Voyeurism and exhibitionism, where we see ourselves as both subject and object: a lover and their mirror.
-Attraction to look-alikes or twins, the uncanny thrill of sameness made sensual.
-Mirror fe**shes and digital doubles, where reflection becomes arousal and recognition becomes obsession.

🦇 From Gothic to Modern Desire
From Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde to movies like and even , the double haunts erotic imagination because it touches on something universal, the tension between control and surrender, purity and corruption, self and shadow. In our hyper-visual, digital age, that theme only deepens. Online, many of us craft doubles daily: versions of ourselves who flirt, perform, or confess things our real-world selves never would. The Doppelgänger fantasy isn’t only about narcissism, it’s about integration. To confront your erotic double is to stop pretending that desire lives in the dark.

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24/10/2025

It’s S*x on and tonight we're choosing truth as we spill our guts on the history of that ol' faithful party game

Before it was a cheeky party classic whispered at sleepovers and Halloween gatherings, Truth or Dare had a surprisingly long and risqué history.

✨ 17th–18th Century Origins
The earliest versions appeared in England in the 1700s, known as “Questions and Commands.” In this parlour game, players either answered a question honestly or obeyed a command. Think of it as a way for young people to test social boundaries under the guise of a game, especially in an era of strict courtship rules.

✨ 19th Century Parlour Games
By the Victorian era, “Questions and Commands” evolved into a staple of parlour entertainment. Though society was conservative, these games gave people permission to flirt, confess secrets, or perform bold acts, all within a structured, “innocent” format.

✨ 20th Century Transformation
In the early 1900s, the game crossed into the U.S. and became popular among teenagers. By mid-century, “Truth or Dare” became a tool for s*xual exploration in private gatherings, often overlapping with kissing games, spin the bottle, or campfire rituals.

✨ Halloween Connection
Halloween has always been a time for rule-bending and playful transgression: costumes, darkness, and masks encourage people to take on new personas. Truth or Dare fits naturally into this tradition: it blends confession, risk, and performance, creating both fear and erotic tension.

✨ S*xology Perspective
At its core, Truth or Dare works because it balances vulnerability (truth) and thrill (dare). It’s a social script that lets people explore intimacy, flirtation, or taboo desires in a semi-safe, ritualised way. The game’s endurance over centuries shows how deeply humans crave both honesty and erotic play, especially when wrapped in a little danger.

🎃 From candle-lit parlours to modern Halloween parties, Truth or Dare has always been about testing limits, sparking desire, and revealing what usually stays hidden in the dark.

Up next Friday: Behind the mask

**sh

22/10/2025

👻🤖 AI, Ghosts, and the Digital Afterlife – Desire in the Age of Disembodied Connection

What happens to desire when the body is absent? When the touch, warmth, and scent of a lover are replaced by pixels, code, or the whisper of a ghost? In our hyperconnected age, s*xology confronts a new frontier: the eroticism of disembodied presence.

✨ Digital Ghosts
From haunted emails to AI chat companions, modern technology allows the dead, absent, or fictional to linger in intimate ways. People report emotional attachment to deceased partners’ digital traces: their texts, social media profiles, or AI reconstructions. In a sense, the digital afterlife is a realm of erotic projection, where longing, grief, and desire intertwine.

🖤 AI and Erotic Fantasy
AI-driven partners (i.e. chatbots, virtual reality avatars, and deepfake simulations) can mimic conversation, touch, or personality, blurring lines between consent, fantasy, and emotional connection. They allow safe exploration of taboo desires, identity play, and roleplay, but also challenge us to ask: what is intimacy when the “other” is a program?

💀 Ghosts of the Self
Both AI and ghostly presences are mirrors. They reflect the parts of ourselves we crave, fear, or suppress. The erotic tension comes not from flesh alone, but from imagination, the mind’s ability to animate absence with longing, anticipation, and forbidden curiosity.

🔮 S*xology Perspective
Desire is more than physical connection; it thrives in imagination, risk, and projection. In the digital age, the erotic expands into virtual, spectral, and AI-mediated spaces. The haunted, the ghosts in the machine, and the intangible all become vessels for intimacy and fantasy.

In a world where love, lust, and grief can co-exist online, disembodied desire is real, potent, and often unnervingly compelling.

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20/10/2025

🌙 The Moon and Desire Through History and Science

For centuries, the moon has been entwined with s*xuality, fertility, and erotic imagination. Across cultures, lunar cycles were believed to shape lust, conception, and intimate behaviour...long before modern science explored how hormones, sleep, and circadian rhythms influence reproduction and desire.

✨ Ancient Civilizations
-In Mesopotamia, the moon god Sin was associated with fertility and love, while rituals timed to lunar phases were thought to enhance s*xual potency.
-In ancient Egypt, moon phases were linked to menstrual cycles, with full moons considered particularly potent for conception and passionate encounters.
-Greek and Roman myths depicted Selene/Luna and Artemis/Diana as lunar deities influencing both desire and protection, embodying the moon’s duality: nurturing yet wild.
-In Medieval & Renaissance Europe the moon was thought to amplify passions and arousal, especially during full moons. Folk remedies and aphrodisiacs were timed with lunar cycles to increase fertility or ignite desire. Astrological texts instructed lovers to plan intimacy according to lunar positioning.
-Celtic traditions associated waxing moons with growing desire and waning moons with reflection and restraint.

✨ Science of Lunar Influence
Modern research shows that while the lunar cycle doesn’t directly control ovulation, there are interesting correlations:
-The average menstrual cycle (28 days) roughly mirrors the lunar cycle, meaning some women may experience heightened fertility around the new or full moon, though it varies individually.
-Studies suggest sleep and mood can fluctuate with lunar phases, indirectly affecting libido and s*xual behaviour.
-The moon may act as a symbolic cue, focusing attention and rituals on intimacy and conception

💡 S*xology Perspective
Historical beliefs and modern science together reveal that humans have long used natural rhythms to structure s*xual activity and fertility awareness. Desire, imagination, and biological cycles have always danced together under the watchful eye of the moon.

17/10/2025

It’s S*x on and tonight we're so spooked we're toey!

Why do haunted houses, horror movies, and late-night ghost stories sometimes leave us feeling… turned on? It’s not just you, fear and desire are biological cousins.

✨ The Chemistry of Terror and Turn-On
When we’re scared, the body floods with adrenaline, dopamine, and endorphins. Heart racing, breath quickening, skin hypersensitive, i.e., the same physiological markers of arousal. Sometimes, the brain confuses (or blends) fear and lust, creating a potent cocktail of thrill + desire.

✨ Dating in the Haunted House
Ever notice that couples often emerge from scary movies or rollercoasters more affectionate? Psychologists call this misattribution of arousal: your body thinks you’re excited by fear, but your mind links that arousal to the person next to you. Cue the cuddles (and maybe more).

✨ The Kink Connection
From a s*xological perspective, this overlap helps explain why some people eroticise fear, whether through horror fantasies, B**M, or risky scenarios. Fear, in the right context, can intensify intimacy by pushing us to the edges of vulnerability and control.

✨ The Dark Side
Of course, not everyone experiences fear as s*xy! Trauma, phobias, and unsafe scenarios can shut desire down completely. Context, consent, and safety are what make the difference between terrifying and tantalising.

👻 Fear and s*x share the same nervous system wiring. Sometimes what sends shivers down your spine can also make sparks fly. Which begs the question: is that monster in the closet really fear… or something you secretly want to play with?

Up next Friday: Truth or Dare

**sh

15/10/2025

🦇 Vampiric Seduction

Vampires have haunted folklore, literature, and cinema for centuries, but beyond the horror lies a rich erotic subtext that is fascinating. The imagery of blood, bite, and immortal intimacy reflects some of humanity’s deepest s*xual fantasies and fears.

✨ Feeding as Erotic Exchange
Biting and blood-drinking symbolise intimacy, and transgression, and play around with concepts of consent. The act of feeding blends pain with pleasure, dominance with surrender, creating a potent metaphor for s*xual connection. The exchange of bodily fluids heightens the intensity, mirroring eroticised rituals in some s*xual subcultures.

✨ Pe*******on and Desire
Vampire myths often intertwine biting with s*xual pe*******on or symbolic violation, reflecting the thrill of forbidden desire. The vampire’s kiss or bite can serve as both an act of possession and an intimate merging of self with other, blurring boundaries between love, lust, and danger.

✨ Immortality and Erotic Fantasy
The vampire’s eternal life taps into fantasies of limitless desire, enduring passion, and timeless beauty. Immortality allows desire to be endlessly replayed, amplifying both erotic tension and forbidden allure. It also reflects anxieties about aging, loss, and s*xual potency, common themes explored in s*x therapy.

✨ S*xology Perspective
Vampiric seduction is more than gothic fantasy; it’s a lens into human desire, taboo, and the interplay of fear and pleasure.🩸 From folklore to modern erotica, vampires remind us that the line between fear and arousal is thin, and that transgression often fuels desire. 🩸

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