Amy Doyle

Amy Doyle Holistic counsellor | Brisbane & Online
Helping thoughtful people untangle anxiety, overthinking & relationship patterns
👇 Counselling + resources Counsellor.

Mentor. Wife. Mother. Speaker. Living and breathing Gentle Boldness.

More Autumn vibes from me today… swipe for Autumn bingo and some of my favorite practices for letting go (and so much mo...
16/03/2024

More Autumn vibes from me today… swipe for Autumn bingo and some of my favorite practices for letting go (and so much more). ❤️

Saboteurs that use assertiveness to get what they want (independence, acceptance or security) look like:🥊 Controlling: t...
16/03/2024

Saboteurs that use assertiveness to get what they want (independence, acceptance or security) look like:

🥊 Controlling: taking charge and controlling situations and people’s actions - often at the cost of other feeling controlled and resentful.

🥊 Hyper achieving: seeking validation and respect from others (and also self) through constant performance and achievement - often at the cost of happiness and deep connection with self and others.

🥊 Restlessness: constantly searching for greater excitement or constantly busy - often leading to surface level fun and relationships; and projects with unsustainable foundations.

Have you checked out the free Self Sabotaging Quiz on my website yet? Link in the bio.

So it’s 6 days to go until Autumn Moon gently pulls us into the season. And I can see all these Autumn Equinox themes pl...
15/03/2024

So it’s 6 days to go until Autumn Moon gently pulls us into the season. And I can see all these Autumn Equinox themes playing out in my life and those of my clients in different ways.

🍂 Some are gathering strength, going inwards, ready for rebirth
🍂 Others are taking stock of their lives and realigning with purpose and values
🍂 Many are feeling disconnected from themselves and their partners and working on deeper connections
🍂 So many are looking at family bonds and family tension
🍂 Others are looking into their anxiety and loneliness
🍂 Others intently looking for moments of deeper gratitude and appreciation
🍂 Some exploring patterns of disappointment and connecting with their inner child

Are you noticing these Autumn themes playing out in your life too?

Every time I enter my workspace, there is a part of me that I touch in with. The young teenage girl who felt like she ha...
13/03/2024

Every time I enter my workspace, there is a part of me that I touch in with. The young teenage girl who felt like she had no one to talk to, no one to sit with and certainly no place that she could just be with all her messy emotions without them being a problem to solve, or something to move on from.

I remember feeling so alone and so unsure of the pain I felt inside. I didn’t understand the intense feelings nor was I equipped to actually feel them.

I didn’t know that people like me now existed. I didn’t know that there were spaces to go where I could be with my feelings and express my thoughts and not be judged for them. I thought I had to do it all alone, I thought I just had to get on with it, which meant that I actually repressed a lot of myself.

This is why I do what I do. I was led to do this work by my desire to ensure that my kids never felt like that, however I didn’t realize what I would uncover within myself. A craft that is so deeply fulfilling on so many levels, and something that I feel so compelled to share with the world so they too can look after those younger parts that so desperately needed someone to see them.

At some point in your childhood or teenagehood you realised you had to survive emotionally… Even if you didn’t have a di...
12/03/2024

At some point in your childhood or teenagehood you realised you had to survive emotionally… Even if you didn’t have a difficult childhood, life would have still presented many challenges where you felt the need to protect yourself.

…sick parents, family issues, other siblings or school kids favoured over you, others taller, smarter, faster or funnier then you… failure… rejection… betrayal… abuse… injuries… death… world issues… and so on.

In order to protect yourself, you developed internal protectors. The ones that promised to keep you safe. And for a time whatever mental strategies (conscious or unconscious) you put in place seemed to work.

Yet, enter adulthood… these same mental strategies that kept you safe back then, are likely to be wreaking havoc on your life… keeping you stuck in stress, anxiety and overwhelm.

Perhaps some have quietly lingered in the background, others more prevalent to the point where you accept that may just be who you are.

We all have these protectors, there’s no need to hide it! It’s more about exposing the one’s that sit in the driver’s seat of your life and disarming them so you can feel more love, joy, empathy and compassion.

Stay tuned over the next week as we discover more about these 9 Saboteurs that either demand, earn or avoid in order to fulfill your needs for independence, acceptance and security. Or check out the new self sabotaging quiz in bio link .

I am so good at keeping peace but why do I keep experiencing negative emotions?… boy have I been there. Ever heard of th...
11/03/2024

I am so good at keeping peace but why do I keep experiencing negative emotions?… boy have I been there.

Ever heard of the child's story ‘The Little Red Hen’? You know the one where she asks all the farm animals to help her sow the wheat, cut the wheat and mill it into flour… and then bake it into bread? And they all refuse.. Leading to the classic line of ‘Fine, I’ll do it myself’.

I loved reading this book to my kids when they were little. I can just feel the pent up anger, bitterness and resentment as the Red Hen says those words. I didn’t know it then but it closely resembled my Avoider part… you know the part of you that tries to keep the peace, avoid conflict and confrontation, the part that tells you ‘you are a good person’, sparing the other of those uncomfortable feelings. Pushing all those feelings down, down, down…

Ahh… yes, numbing all those feelings unbeknownst to the fact that what is avoided doesn’t go away.. It actually festers.

If you don't know the Little Red Hen story, she eventually bakes the bread on her own and asks who would like to eat it… of course they all do! But she eats it all herself. Classic avoidance. Instead of learning how to express needs and feelings and having conversations that lead to win-win outcomes, she buries it, makes the others ‘wrong’ and devours her misery and pain all on her own, before we close the book… and of course re-play over and over again.

Working with my Red Hen part has been a huge learning curve… I needed to put effort into building safety, connection and trust through small daily actions with my loved ones so that I can have uncomfortable conversations and nip things in the butt before they fester…. Has my Red Hen gone away… nope… BUT I now have AWARENESS, tools and TECHNIQUES and the MENTAL FITNESS to move her out of the driver's seat and actually FEEL all the negative feelings that arise, take care of myself and the situation at hand.

I am guilty of gliding through these Autumn dates with not much care or attention. The last few years, I have been worki...
07/03/2024

I am guilty of gliding through these Autumn dates with not much care or attention. The last few years, I have been working on attuning more with Winter and what that means to me…. albeit far from perfect. The seeds for an ideal Winter have been planted and will require more care and attention in the years to come before I suspect they truly flourish… It's a work in progress.

This year however, it seems a veil lifted… perhaps the Family Constellations Facilitator training I embarked upon earlier in the year… it’s a grounded feeling that yearns to go beyond the hard surface and into the depths of the nourishing Earth, roots seeking connection not only to the Land but also the richness of what lies in my ancestry.

There is a part of me that is largely driven by my relationship with my children. And as they move through their teenage years, I wonder what will bring them home when they have left. It is in these moments I realize the importance and richness of family rituals that can connect us on more than just a physical level. And so this journey of seasonal living deepens and grows ever more prevalent in my thinking, doing and being.

Are you a master of seasonal living? I’d love to know your favourite routines or rituals that are must in the Autumn months.

Xx

I am thoroughly enjoying tuning into the Autumn season with more presence ~ balancing inner reflection amongst the day t...
06/03/2024

I am thoroughly enjoying tuning into the Autumn season with more presence ~ balancing inner reflection amongst the day to day tasks. Grateful for the knowledge I have about myself so that when I am knocked off balance, I can name the feeling, be with it and find ways to meet the unmet need underneath it.

I’ve recently put together an Autumn Reflections Guide to keep my own ponderings and information I gather in one place for the season. If you’d like a free copy, simply DM ‘Autumn’ and I’ll send you the link.

Hey there, are you noticing the move towards Autumn?Maybe you’ve started to notice the change in the weather… from hot a...
01/03/2024

Hey there, are you noticing the move towards Autumn?

Maybe you’ve started to notice the change in the weather… from hot and humid to a slightly softer warmth (no matter how subtle)… or the frizz beginning to leave your hair, or the almost wanting to move your fan dial from 2 to 1 in the early mornings…

Or maybe you’re feeling the gentle pull to reassess your goals, to check in and make changes so you can reap your ‘harvest’ of the last 9-12 months of work before Winter arrives.

Other changes or thoughts you may have noticed as we move towards the Autumn Equinox in Australia:
• Reflecting on your resources and finances
• Letting go of what’s no longer needed including decluttering
• Renewing your sense of purpose
• Reclaiming personal power
• Quietly giving thanks
• Reflecting on fears, guilts and regrets
• Solidifying relationships

Perhaps you feel your world speed up or become whirlwind-like as you rush to put things in place so you can move into a deeper rest and restore phase when the weather cools.

I’d love to know how you are noticing the subtle shifts of the Season… is it via food, your garden, sounds, sights, smells, tastes, routines, rituals, thoughts, change in energy or focus?

25/11/2023

“Devote yourself to your partner's sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you. Your job is to know what matters to your partner and how to make him or her feel safe and secure.”​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​📖 Wired for Love, by Stan Tatkin

Would we beat ourselves up for procrastinating if we could just see the unmet need behind it?​​​​​​​​​.​​​​​​​​​.PS Have...
23/11/2023

Would we beat ourselves up for procrastinating if we could just see the unmet need behind it?​​​​​​​​​.​​​​​​​​​.
PS Have you checked out the latest blog on procrastination? Link in bio.

The beauty of life 🎨​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
20/11/2023

The beauty of life 🎨​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

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