We Mind, Brisbane (2026)

12/02/2026

Identity doesn’t just predict one behaviour. It predicts behaviour patterns across multiple areas of life.

When you see yourself as “a healthy person,” you don’t just eat better. You also:
• Move your body more naturally
• Prioritize sleep
• Manage stress differently
• Make different choices in relationships

Because identity creates coherence across all domains.

The Integrated Self: How Identity Holds Everything Together
A 2019 Frontiers in Psychology study introduced a concept called the “integrated self.”

They found that people with a strong integrated self show:
1. Cognitive self-integration - Your brain prioritizes information that aligns with your identity and filters out what doesn’t fit
2. Emotional coherence - You experience more positive emotions and higher self-esteem when your actions align with your identity
3. Motivational alignment - You’re naturally drawn toward goals that fit who you believe you are
4. Behavioural consistency - Your actions flow naturally from your identity without constant decision-making

The study concluded:
“When habits relate to feelings of identity, this comes with stronger cognitive self-integration, higher self-esteem, and a striving toward an ideal self.”

This is why identity transformation is so powerful.
Check out The IDENTITY SHIFT SESSION https://bmdbook.com/Identity-shift 😁

REFERENCE
Verplanken, B., & Sui, J. (2019). Habit and Identity: Behavioral, Cognitive, Affective, and Motivational Facets of an Integrated Self. Frontiers in Psychology, 10, 1504.

10/02/2026

This was the moment everything changed for one of my clients.
She’d been fighting her body for 15 years. Ignoring hunger signals. Overriding fullness cues. Following diets that felt punishing.

Then in one session, I asked her: “What is your body trying to tell you right now?”

She paused. Closed her eyes. And then tears started flowing.

“It’s exhausted,” she said. “It’s been screaming at me to rest, and I just keep pushing harder.”

We started the discussion about how she could tune into her body and discover her own innate intelligence about what her body needed. That was when she stopped treating her body like the enemy - and started treating it like a partner.

Every client who’s achieved lasting weight freedom started here - with reconnecting to their body’s intelligence.

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08/02/2026

Your body has been trying to tell you something… are you listening?
For years, you’ve been following diet rules, ignoring your body’s signals, and treating it like the enemy that won’t cooperate with your weight loss efforts.

But here’s what I’ve discovered working with women: Your body isn’t against you. It’s been WAITING for you to start a conversation.

Body Talk is the missing piece that most weight loss programs ignore. It’s not about “mind over matter” or forcing compliance. It’s about reconnecting with your body’s unique intelligence so you can:
✨ Know exactly what YOUR body needs (not what some one-size-fits-all plan says)
✨ Make food decisions with confidence and autonomy
✨ Break free from all-or-nothing thinking and perfectionism
✨ Work WITH your body instead of fighting against it

Your body has over 100 million neurons in your gut alone. It’s constantly communicating what it needs to thrive. When you learn to listen, weight freedom becomes natural - not forced.

This is the firm foundation of lasting transformation. Because you can’t hate your body into the shape you want. But you CAN love it into wellness.

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05/02/2026

The forbidden places you are hiding:
→ The secret eating when no one’s watching
→ The late-night binges you don’t tell anyone about
→ The times you’ve hidden food wrappers or lied about what you ate
→ The fact that you sometimes use food to numb feelings you don’t want to feel
→ The shame spiral that happens after you “break” your diet (again)

Here’s how the shame spiral works:
1. You emotionally eat (or binge, or sneak food, or whatever your pattern is)
2. You feel intense shame about it
3. The shame weakens you - your confidence, your self-worth, your resolve
4. Because you’re weakened, you’re MORE vulnerable to doing it again
5. You do it again
6. More shame
7. Repeat

SHAME DOESN'T CREATE CHANGE. It creates hiding.

Instead of: “I’m so disgusting. I have no willpower. Why do I always do this?”

Try: “I ate a whole packet of biscuits last night. That happened. I’m curious about what was really going on.”

See the difference?
One keeps you stuck in the cage. The other opens a door.

Get curious…..
Ask yourself (with genuine curiosity, not self-attack):
→ “What was I feeling right before I reached for food?”
→ “What was I trying NOT to feel?”
→ “What did I really need in that moment?”

Your late-night eating isn’t a character flaw.
Your emotional eating isn’t proof you’re broken.
Your secret behaviours aren’t shameful - they’re human.
They’re coping mechanisms. They worked (at least temporarily). That’s why you do them.

The only way to change them is to look at them clearly, without shame, and ask: “What do I really need here?”

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04/02/2026

Here’s why “should” doesn’t work:
When you tell yourself you should do something, your brain hears one of two things:
1. Obligation - Someone else expects this of me. I have to. I don’t have a choice.
2. External pressure - This is what I’m supposed to want, even if I don’t really want it.

Either way, you’re operating from need, not want.

And need feels like a burden. Want feels like freedom.

Here’s what this looks like in real life:

NEED/SHOULD: I need to lose weight because my doctor said so. I should eat better for my health.
→ How it feels: Heavy. Obligatory. Like homework you don’t want to do.
→ What happens: You resist. You procrastinate. You self-sabotage. You rebel by eating the entire packet of biscuits.

WANT: I want to feel strong in my body. I want to age well and be active with my grandchildren. I want to wake up with energy.
→ How it feels: Exciting. Purposeful. Like you’re moving toward something you genuinely desire.
→ What happens: You’re motivated from within. The work feels worth it. You push yourself because you want to, not because you “should.”

Want creates passion. Want creates drive. Want creates transformation.

When you’re doing something you genuinely want - not something you think you need to do to meet external expectations - everything shifts.

The work still requires effort. But it doesn’t feel like drudgery anymore. It feels like you’re building the life you actually want to live.

Your practice this week:
1. Catch your shoulds - Notice every time you say or think I should…
2. Ask the honest question - Do I actually want this, or do I just think I should want it?
3. Reframe to want - What do I genuinely WANT here?
Write down your answers. Put them somewhere you’ll see them.

Then act from THAT place - the place of genuine wanting.
Watch what changes.

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03/02/2026

So much of our struggle with food and weight isn’t really yours (or mine) at all. It was handed to us.

The invisible rules you never agreed to:
✗ That you should weigh what you did at 25 (even though your body is fundamentally different now)
✗ That emotional eating means you’re “out of control” (when it’s actually a learned survival mechanism)
✗ That thinness equals worthiness (a lie sold to you by people profiting from your insecurity)

So how do you get free?
The first step is recognizing which thoughts are actually yours - and which ones were installed by the social order.

Try this exercise this week:
The next time you have a thought about food, your body, or weight, pause and ask:
→ “Is this what I truly want, or what I think I’m supposed to want?”
→ “Who taught me to think this way?”
→ “Does this thought move me toward freedom, or toward shame?”

Start dismantling the invisible prison:
Stop outsourcing your food decisions.
Diet culture trains you to ask: “Is this allowed? How many calories? What would [insert guru name] say?”

Freedom asks: “How does my body feel? What do I actually want? What will nourish me right now?”

Start making one food choice per day based on what YOU want to nourish your body with, not what you think you “should” do.

The truth is:
You don’t need another diet plan.
• You need permission to define your own rules.
• You need to remember that your body is not a problem to be solved - it’s YOUR body, and you get to decide what health, vitality, and freedom look like for you.

The cage door is unlocked. You just have to see the open door.

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28/01/2026

The emails are piling up. 📧
Your boss just added three more things to your plate.
You have back-to-back meetings for the next four hours.
And suddenly, you're standing in front of the pantry, eating handful after handful of crackers, even though you just had lunch an hour ago. 🍪

What is HAPPENING?

YOU'RE NOT WEAK. YOU'RE WIRED. 🧠
Here's what's going on:
When stress hormones (cortisol) flood your system, your brain sends out an urgent message:
"Quick! Get easy energy! We need fuel for this fight-or-flight situation!"

Your body doesn't know the difference between:
• Running from a lion 🦁
• Dealing with a passive-aggressive email from Karen in Accounting 📧
Both trigger the same biological response: Find glucose. NOW.
So you reach for the crackers. The chocolate. The chips. The bread.

Sound familiar? 😞
It’s not because you're weak.
Not because you lack discipline.
Not because you're emotionally broken.
Because you're biologically WIRED to seek quick energy when stress hormones are high. 🔬

WHY "JUST DON'T EAT IT" DOESN'T WORK:
You can't willpower your way out of a biological response.
When cortisol is screaming at your brain to find fuel, willpower is like trying to hold your breath underwater indefinitely.
You might last a little while, but eventually, biology wins. 🌊

SO WHAT DO YOU DO INSTEAD?
The solution isn't to FIGHT the stress eating.
The solution is to INTERRUPT the stress response BEFORE it triggers the eating.

3 STRATEGIES THAT ACTUALLY WORK:

1️⃣ THE PAUSE
• Take 3 deep breaths (in for 4, hold for 4, out for 6)
• Name the emotion ("I feel overwhelmed")
• Ask: "What do I actually need right here?"
Often the answer is:
→ A break (even 5 minutes)
→ A walk around the block
→ A glass of water
→ Permission to stop for the day NOT food. 💧

2️⃣ STRESS-PROOF YOUR BLOOD SUGAR
• Eat protein at every meal (30g minimum at breakfast)
• Never eat carbs alone (pair with protein or fat)
• Don't skip meals when work is busy
• Keep high-protein snacks at your desk
When your body has stable fuel, the cortisol-driven "FIND FOOD NOW" signal is much quieter. 🔇

3️⃣ GIVE STRESS A PHYSICAL OUTLET
Cortisol is meant to fuel physical action (like running from that lion).
But when you're sitting at a desk, it has nowhere to go.
Give it an outlet:
🚶‍♀️ Walk for 10 minutes
🧘‍♀️ Stretch or do yoga poses
💪 Do 20 squats or push-ups
🎵 Dance to one song
🤛 Punch a pillow (seriously!)
Movement metabolizes cortisol and reduces the "I NEED TO EAT" signal. 🔥

Remember: You're not failing. You're not weak. You're just human.
And stress eating is a symptom, not the problem.

Be kind to yourself. 💚
Who else stress-eats when work gets crazy? Drop a 🙋‍♀️ below so we know we're not alone!

27/01/2026

Here's the truth about sleep that nobody wants to hear:
You CANNOT out-diet, out-exercise, or out-willpower bad sleep. 😴

When you sleep less than 6 hours per night, your body:
❌ Becomes 30% LESS sensitive to insulin (hello, blood sugar chaos)
❌ Increases ghrelin (the hunger hormone)
❌ Decreases leptin (the fullness hormone)
❌ Craves high-calorie, high-carb foods
❌ Stores more belly fat
❌ Breaks down muscle tissue instead of fat

Research shows: Just ONE NIGHT of poor sleep can impair insulin sensitivity by up to 30%. 😳
That's as bad as being pre-diabetic.

For one night.

THE IDEAL SLEEP PROTOCOL:
🌙 7-9 hours per night (non-negotiable)
🌙 Cool room (63°F / 17°C ideal)
🌙 Dark environment (blackout curtains or eye mask)
🌙 No food 2-3 hours before bed
🌙 Consistent bed and wake times (even weekends)

WHY SLEEP MATTERS FOR WEIGHT LOSS:
When you're sleep-deprived:
• You eat 300-500 MORE calories the next day (research-backed!)
• Your willpower is depleted
• Your stress hormones spike (cortisol → fat storage)
• Your body prioritizes survival over fat burning

When you're well-rested:
✅ Better food choices come naturally
✅ Cravings decrease
✅ Energy increases (so you move more)
✅ Recovery improves
✅ Fat burning optimizes overnight

YOUR SLEEP CHALLENGE THIS WEEK:
1️⃣ Set a bedtime alarm (1 hour before lights out)
2️⃣ Dim lights after sunset
3️⃣ No screens 30 minutes before bed
4️⃣ Keep room cool and dark
5️⃣ Track how you feel after 7+ hours vs.

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