Addiction Makes Three

Addiction Makes Three I help women who have been impacted by their loved ones' addiction take back control of their lives.

I help women who have been impacted by their loved ones' addiction take back control of their lives so they can live wholeheartedly for themselves and their family. You can book in a free confidential chat to learn how you can take the first steps to take back control of your life and and start living by clicking here:

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11/12/2025

If you’ve been believing your entire Christmas depends on whether they drink or don’t drink…
you’re not alone.

Most women in addiction-impacted relationships quietly hand their peace, their joy, their steadiness…
to the most unpredictable person in the room.

Not because they’re weak.
But because they’ve been surviving for so long that it feels normal to brace, anticipate, adjust, over-function, and hope for the “good version” of their loved one.

But here’s the truth I shared in today’s episode ↓
Your happiness is not supposed to live in their behaviour.
Your peace is not supposed to hinge on their sobriety.

Everything shifts when you shift.
When you reclaim the keys you’ve been handing away.
When you decide:
“My Christmas gets to be peaceful, no matter what they do.”

And if that feels impossible right now…
you’re exactly who I made this holiday series for. 💛

✨ FREE WORKSHOP TOMORROW

The Holiday Survival Guide: How to Navigate Your Loved One’s Addiction Through the Holidays
Get grounding tools, scripts, boundaries, and a plan you can rely on - even when they’re unpredictable.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat now

🎧 LISTEN TO THE PODCAST

Episode 77 is now live:
“Why Your Christmas Doesn’t Depend on Their Sobriety.”
A reframe that will lighten your whole nervous system.


If you’re secretly planning Christmas around your husband’s drinking …If you’re quietly dreading which version of him wi...
07/12/2025

If you’re secretly planning Christmas around your husband’s drinking …
If you’re quietly dreading which version of him will show up this year…
If December already feels like something to survive more than enjoy…

You’re not imagining it.
You’re not failing.
And you’re definitely not the only one living this behind the scenes.

Women in addiction-impacted relationships carry a different kind of December:

✨ The invisible planning
✨ The constant risk-assessing
✨ The rehearsing of excuses and lies you wish you never had to tell
✨ The pretending
✨ The grief woven into every tradition
✨ The exhaustion no one sees
✨ The emotional safety of an entire household on your shoulders

And still… you’re expected to smile for photos.
Show up.
Keep it all together.
Make magic for everyone else while your heart is quietly breaking.

That’s why I created the Holiday Mini-Series on the podcast, to name what so many of you are carrying alone.

🎧 Episodes 72–74 are now live:
1️⃣ When everyone thinks you’re fine (and you’re not)
2️⃣ The dread of Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde
3️⃣ The silent mental load that’s breaking you

If these episodes feel like I’m describing your December…
it’s because you’re not the only one living this reality.

And you don’t have to move through this month alone.

🎄 Join the free Holiday Survival Guide Workshop next week.
Learn how to stay grounded, protect your peace, reduce conflict, and walk into this season with an actual plan, not hope and guesswork.

📅 Thu 11 Dec — 3pm PST / 6pm EST
📅 Fri 12 Dec — 9am AEST

⏳ Limited-time replay available.

👉 Save your free seat here through the link in the bio or comment/DM “holidays” and I’ll send you the link.

You deserve a holiday you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through.

And you deserve support too.

Amanda 🩷

07/12/2025

When someone’s drinking becomes worrying…
it doesn’t just impact them.

It impacts you, the one carrying the late-night fear, the broken promises, the unpredictable Decembers, the emotional load no one sees.

You’re the one adjusting plans…
calming kids…
covering for them…
and trying to keep the peace while your heart is breaking and you’re silently falling apart.

And the truth no one tells you?

💛 Your concern is valid.
💛 Your voice matters.
💛 And you deserve support too, not just more holding, more coping, more pretending, more surviving.

If you’ve been whispering to yourself,
“I can’t keep doing holidays like this…”
please take this as your sign.

🎄 I’m hosting a free Holiday Survival Guide Workshop next week for spouses, families, and women in addiction-impacted relationships who are exhausted from doing Christmas in crisis mode after another year of struggle, confusion, exhaustion and heartbreak.

Inside you’ll learn:
✨ grounding tools for chaotic moments
✨ scripts for tricky family conversations
✨ boundaries that actually protect your peace
✨ how to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells
✨ and a plan you can rely on, even if nothing changes on their end

📅 Thu 11 Dec - 3pm PST / 6pm EST
📅 Fri 12 Dec - 9am AEST
⏳ Replay available for a limited time.

👉 Save your free seat via the link in my bio. Or comment/DM “holidays” and I’ll send you the link.

You deserve a holiday that doesn’t hinge on someone else’s behaviour.

You deserve peace too.

Amanda x

06/12/2025

The real cost of addiction isn’t what happens to them.
It’s what happens to you.

The forgotten fallout.
The part no one sees.
The price partners and families silently pay:

💔 Losing access to the best version of yourself.
💔 Becoming someone you don’t recognise.
💔 Living in survival mode instead of your own life.

No one warns you about that part.

They talk about his drinking.
His behaviour.
His unpredictability.

But no one talks about the moment you realise:
“I’m not me anymore.”

The exhaustion.
The resentment.
The overthinking.
The snapping.
The “I hate who I become around him.”
The shame spiral afterwards.
The emotional hangover that outlasts his.

That’s the real cost.
That’s the impact no one prepares you for.

And during December?
Everything gets louder.
Heavier.
More unpredictable.
More exhausting.

✨ That’s why I’m releasing a 5-part Holiday Mini-Series. A daily episode because spouses and families navigating a loved one’s addiction deserve support during the season that hits the hardest.

🎧 Episode 73 is out now:
“The Dread of Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde”
(aka the emotional whiplash of not knowing which version of them you’ll get)

And if this hits your nervous system like a punch of truth?

Please come to the free Holiday Survival Guide Workshop next week.
We’re building the plan that gives you back your grounding…
no matter what they do.

➡️ Link in bio to save your seat.

You deserve to get YOU back.
This December and beyond.

Amanda xx

In no way are you responsible for someone else’s actions, recovery, behaviour, demeanour, mood, mindset, mental health…A...
06/12/2025

In no way are you responsible for someone else’s actions, recovery, behaviour, demeanour, mood, mindset, mental health…

And I know this still hurts and you don’t yourself endlessly.

Tirelessly.

If his drinking is already shaping how you’re planning December…

I have a free workshop is for you.

The holidays hit different when you’re a spouse, parent, or woman in an addiction-impacted relationship.

You’re not thinking about outfits and dessert platters.
You’re thinking:
“Which version of him will show up?”
“Do I need a backup plan?”
“Will the kids’ Christmas be ruined?”

You’re not imagining the heaviness.
And you don’t have to manage it alone.

🎄 Join the Holiday Survival Guide Workshop
How to navigate your loved one’s addiction through the holidays…
(while staying grounded, reducing conflict, and protecting your peace)

You’ll learn:
✨ What to do in chaotic moments
✨ Scripts for tricky conversations
✨ Boundaries that actually help
✨ A plan for unpredictable behaviour
✨ Tools that bring YOU back to calm

📅 Live Thursday 11th/aFriday 12th (with replay)

👉 Save your free seat - link in bio (or comment/DM “holidays”

And if you want support right now?

Listen to the Holiday Podcast 5 part Mini-Series on Addiction Makes Three The Podcast starting with Ep 72

It’ll help you feel less alone until the workshop.

You deserve a holiday you don’t have to survive.

05/12/2025

If you’re tired of waiting for the next crisis…
If your whole body is bracing for what his behaviour might do to the holidays…

🩷 This episode is for you.

You deserve more than survival mode.
You deserve peace.
You deserve a season that isn’t determined by addiction and addiction behaviour.

🎧 Listen to Episode 72: When Everyone Thinks You’re Fine - But You’re Not.

✨ Tap the link in bio or search Addiction Makes Three in your podcast app.


26/11/2025

The moment you realise… You are not the safe parent.

💔 Sometimes the deepest heartbreak isn’t his drinking, it’s recognising your own destructive behaviour in the middle of it all.

The yelling, the snapping, the moments you wish you could take back… and the way your kids look at you afterwards.

If this hit something tender, Episode 71 is for you.

I share the story I’ve never told publicly, and what helps you come back from that heartbreaking behaviour.

Episode 71 is where we go there, honestly. And where you’ll hear what helps you find your way back to yourself.

🎧 Listen to Episode 71
The Moment I Completely Lost It

✨ Tap the link in bio or search Addiction Makes Three in your podcast app.


If this line hit you in the chest… it’s probably because you’re living it.When someone you love is struggling with alcoh...
20/11/2025

If this line hit you in the chest… it’s probably because you’re living it.

When someone you love is struggling with alcohol, the whole house learns to organise itself around their behaviour.

Their moods.
Their unpredictability.
Their drinking cycles.

And somehow you end up being the one who:
🩷 keeps the routines going
🩷 makes sure the kids feel safe
🩷 anticipates the next slip
🩷 absorbs the emotional fallout
🩷 holds the resentment
🩷 carries the guilt for reacting “wrong”

Even though none of this is yours to carry.

I say this with love:
This role you’ve taken on… you weren’t meant to carry it alone.

You weren’t designed to be the emotional shock absorber for the whole family.

And it’s no wonder you’re exhausted, resentful, or not recognising who you’ve become.

If this is you, two episodes will help you breathe again:

🎧 Ep 70 When You Don’t Like Who You’ve Become

A conversation about the version of you that survival mode created… and what it looks like to come back to yourself.

🎧 Ep 71 The Moment I Completely Lost It

The part of the story most women never talk about.

You deserve to feel like yourself again.
You deserve support too.

👉 If you’re ending the year thinking “I can’t keep doing this…” send me the word “SUPPORT” and I’ll help you figure out your next 3 smallest steps to take

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