18/11/2025
Everything improves when we improve.
Ten years into my parenting journey — and having done it solo the entire time — I’ve learned something the hard way:
When I let my wellness slide…
everything else in the house follows.
No backup.
No one to tag team discipline.
No one to share the workload or reinforce routines.
It’s all me — which means my state sets the tone.
And over the years of slow, steady self-development, I’ve noticed the same pattern every time:
When the house turns chaotic…
When the kids melt down…
When routines fall apart…
When listening drops, emotions spill over, and the sass level hits 200%…
It’s always when I haven’t been looking after myself.
Not because I’m a “bad mum.”
But because I’m simply not emotionally, mentally, or physically resourced enough to be the leader, the anchor, the calm in the storm.
When I’m drained, overstimulated, impatient, running on fumes —
I don’t have the capacity to de-escalate, guide, hold space, or navigate big feelings.
But when I’m regulated and well?
Everything shifts.
I can empathise.
I can teach.
I can connect.
I can lead.
I can be the grounded source of comfort I always wanted to be.
It all comes back to this one truth:
Looking after yourself first isn’t selfish — it’s the most responsible thing you can do for your family.
Because when you thrive, your whole household feels it.
✨ If you want some regulation tools or tips that I still practice today, personalised for you (no cost), DM me. I’m happy to help. ✨