Counselling & Coaching

07/11/2024

Couples Counselling
Some couples come to me to deepen their connection and intimacy. Others know their relationship is over and are looking for guidance on how to break up well.
They don’t want to get lost in arguments, blame or anger. But most importantly, they don’t want their ex to become their enemy. Some couples sincerely wish to stay friends but don’t have the tools to make that happen.
A break-up can feel like the end of the world- and when emotions run high, it is so easy to lose sight of kindness, fairness and understanding.
Often, the separation is not mutual, and the abandoned partner feels complex emotions of abandonment and rejection, while the other may feel guilt and shame. I support couples in navigating these difficult emotions and learning more about themselves.
Couples Counselling:

I welcome all types of relationships and sexual orientations.
I work in either English or German.
A session lasts 90 minutes or, in an
acute crisis, 120 minutes.
Let’s get to know each other during a free
45-minute discovery call.

07/11/2024

As I see it, we live in a society that constantly pushes us to achieve more. As soon as we open our eyes in the morning, we are bombarded with messages to be better, faster, smarter, fitter, younger, and richer.

We are conditioned to want and to keep wanting. The promise is that if we get what we want, we will be happy and worthy.
Constant striving causes stress, frustration, anxiety and even depression.

Many experts say we are facing a mental health crisis.

Stop and check your stress level. Ask yourself:
What am I seeking?
What am I chasing?
What am I pursuing?

Every day, allow time to do nothing, think nothing, chase nothing, and plan nothing. It will refresh you.

Close your eyes, and try those words:
I am enough.
I have enough.
I do enough.
I know enough.

These words have the potential to slow and calm you down!
The sages say that what we truly long for cannot be found by achieving or accumulating more. It does not come from the outside.
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sabine

07/11/2024

Byron Katie:
Who would you be without the thought that you need to make an impression?

When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result. Manipulation is separation, and separation is painful.
If you act from fear, there’s no way you can receive love, because you’re trapped in a thought about what you have to do for love. Every stressful thought separates you from people.

But once you question your thoughts, you discover that you don’t have to do anything for love. It was all an innocent misunderstanding. When you want to impress people and win their approval, you are like a child who says, “Look at me! Look at me!”

It all comes down to a needy child. When you can love that child and embrace it yourself, the seeking is over.

Byron Katie
Excerpt from the book:
I need your love – is that true?
How to find all the love, approval and appreciation you ever wanted.

14/09/2024

The latest German Newsletter is out: Sorge, Angst & Panik

02/09/2024

Angst, Leistungsdruck, Stress, Eifersucht, Einsamkeit, Neid, Wertlosigkeit, Depression, Traurigkeit, Wut...wir allen kennen diese unangenhemen Gefühlszustände.

Aber wie geht man am besten mit diesen schwierigen Gefühlen um? Was macht man mit ihnen?

Oft ohne es zu bemerken, wollen wir diese Gefuehle loswerden. Wir wollen sie unterdrücken, bekämpfen, verstecken, dramatisieren, betäuben, bearbeiten oder analysieren.

Gerne sind wir bereit, Liebe, Kreativität, Freude, Glück auszukosten- aber wer will schon ‚negative‘ Gefühle 'genießen'?
Mittlerweile bin draufgekommen, dass das Weglaufen nicht funktioniert. Die Gefühle kommen immer wieder, sobald meine Knöpfe neu gedrückt werden. Es ist Zeit für einen neuen Weg: Mit den schmerzhaften Gefühlen zu sein, sie ganz zu fühlen und freundlich anzunehmen.
Das ist nicht leicht. Aber wir können es üben, Schritt für Schritt. Wenn wir nicht weglaufen, sondern uns auf das Gefühl einlasse, kann etwas Besonderes passieren. Das unangenehme Gefühl kann sich in etwas ANGENEHMES verwandeln.

08/08/2024

I am reading an excellent book atm:
Addicted to Drama, by Dr Scott Lyons.

I know I was addicted to drama, meaning I was addicted to pain, suffering, bad news and catastrophes. I was also addicted to chewing on my pain, worrying over it and analysing it.

Society feeds our addiction to drama, pain, and catastrophes. As soon as we turn on the TV or open the newspaper, we are bombarded with bad news and fictional entertainment.

I did not know I was addicted to the ups and downs of my drama. And I am not totally over it. There is still a part of me that feels drawn to it.

This book helped me understand myself and the people around me. It gave me a different perspective. Scott Lyons writes very compassionately, which makes this book an easy and valuable read.

10/06/2024

This is a touching and meaningful description of trauma and how to heal it. I only recently discovered Dr. Mate, I am reading one of his books and have signed up for an online course.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgJJDBNkoQ8
"You've always made yourself believe that if for you to be happy or to experience joy is to betray all that suffering."
"But what creates the trauma is not that something hurts,
but that we don't know how to be with that pain."
"And the nature of this society is to give us so many distractions from ourselves. And so many people are so uncomfortable to spend even a moment with themselves."

Dr. Gabor Mate shares his personal journey of healing the trauma he experienced as an infant baby when his Jewish family was subject to N**i occupation in Hu...

25/04/2024

NEW Blog Post in English and German:
Change the way you see your Body

You might not believe it, but freeing ourselves from our critical attitude towards our bodies is possible. I would like to share some of my insights and reflections and an excellent documentary that is a must-watch.
I hope it will inspire you to take a new look at your body image.

https://www.sabinebrosche.com/body-image-change-the-way-you-see-yourself/

16/07/2023

EMBRACE! (Netflix Documentary)
Finally, I watched 'Embrace'. It took me a few years - it was released in 2016. Please watch it if you have not seen it.
Taryn Brumfitt talks about loving the body we have and much more. She also explores the societal pressure we put on women's looks.
I believe the fashion and beauty industry is consciously targeting our low self-worth and attempting to make us feel bad about ourselves. Then they offer us the solution to our insecurity: spend money on fashion, cosmetics, procedures, diets etc.
It has been a long time since I touched a fashion magazine, and when I get a glimpse, I still feel shocked. The models keep getting thinner and younger - not at all representing real women. And using false messages like 'You are worth it' we are being sold stuff, so this industry can make huge profits on our insecurities.
'Embrace' brings back sanity and reminds us how to regain a healthy attitude toward our bodies. There is also a second amazing part now that is a must-watch: 'Embrace Kids'.
English
Body image activist Taryn Brumfitt explores the global issue of body loathing after sparking a media frenzy in 2013 when she posted an unconventional before-and-after photograph.
Deutsch:
Medien, Werbung und Gesellschaft geben ein Körperbild vor, nach dem wir uns selbst und andere immer wieder bewerten und verurteilen. Die australische Fotografin und dreifache Mutter Taryn Brumfitt wollte das nicht mehr hinnehmen. Sie postete ein ungewöhnliches Vorher/Nachher-Foto ihres fast nackten Körpers auf Facebook und löste damit einen Begeisterungssturm aus. Durch ihren Post, der über 100 Millionen Mal in den sozialen Netzwerken angesehen wurde, rückte sie das Thema Body Image in den Fokus der Weltöffentlichkeit. Gleichzeitig befreite sie sich selbst von dem ungesunden Streben nach dem "perfekten" Körper. Mit ihrem Dokumentarfilm möchte Brumfitt allen, die unter den vermeintlichen Schönheitsidealen leiden, einen Gegenentwurf vorstellen: EMBRACE!

08/04/2023

Hello dear friends,

I am very happy to finally announce my new website!
I am very grateful for the support I have received. I want to thank the talented Esther Cornils who is my web designer. Working with Esther was so easy, pleasant and professional. Her Zen style designs are very beautiful.
I also want to thank Esther Norman for her help editing my German. It seems over the years, my German got a bit rusty. And a big thank you to all my girlfriends who have given me their feedback and support.
I love to write and therefore I included a Blog section on my site. Over the next few months, I will keep publishing more and more content.
The new site exists in German and in English. If you have any comments and feedback I love to hear from you.
https://www.sabinebrosche.com