06/02/2026
Most people focus on what they’re saying.
The nervous system focuses on who it’s saying it to.
Before the brain processes language, it has already processed state — safety, threat, urgency, collapse, openness, defence, steadiness.
This explains why the “right words” sometimes don’t land, and why two people can say the same thing with completely different outcomes.
Communication begins in the nervous system.
Words arrive last.