Anchoring Your Life Counselling

18/02/2026

If you truly valued yourself… what would you stop tolerating?

The late-night overthinking.
The way you shrink to keep the peace.
The constant apologising for having needs.
The conversations that leave you feeling small.
The “it’s fine” when it really isn’t.

We often think self-worth is something we feel.

But more often, it’s something we practise.

It shows up in boundaries.
In what we allow.
In what we no longer explain away.

Valuing yourself doesn’t mean becoming harsh or rigid.

It means recognising that your emotional wellbeing matters too.

So take a quiet moment today and ask yourself honestly:

If I truly valued myself… what would I stop tolerating?

You might be surprised by the answer.

If you’re ready to build stronger boundaries, healthier relationships, or feel more confident in who you are, support is available -

https://www.anchoringyourlife.com/womens-counselling

15/02/2026

Ever feel like no one really sees or hears you? 😔
You’re not alone and it’s not just “in your head.”
Watch this to understand why feeling unsupported happens and what you can do about it. 💛

https://www.anchoringyourlife.com/couples-counselling

13/02/2026

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♂️Do you or your partner often interrupt each other?

It can seem small.
But over time, it can quietly erode connection.

Interrupting usually isn’t about disrespect.
It’s often about:

• Wanting to be understood
• Feeling defensive
• Trying to fix the problem quickly
• Worrying you won’t get a chance to speak

But when one partner is cut off, what they often feel is:
“I don’t matter.”
“You’re not really listening.”
“What I’m saying isn’t important.”

And that’s where hurt begins.

💛 Quick relationship reset: Practice the Pause.

Next time your partner is speaking:

*Notice the urge to jump in.
*Take one slow breath.
*Let them finish completely.
*Reflect back one sentence:
“So what you’re saying is…”
*No fixing.
*No defending.
*Just understanding.

When people feel heard, they soften.
When they soften, connection returns.

Small shifts like this can prevent big misunderstandings.

If you and your partner find yourselves talking over each other, escalating quickly, or feeling unheard, you’re not alone and these patterns can change. 💏

https://www.anchoringyourlife.com/couples

11/02/2026

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09/02/2026

Ever feel like life is on autopilot and you’re just reacting to everything around you? 💛

In this short video, I share how being intentional - even in small ways - can shift your choices, your relationships and how you feel in your day-to-day life. ✨

https://www.anchoringyourlife.com/womens-counselling

28/01/2026

When couples stop feeling like a team, everyday challenges can start to feel overwhelming.

This week’s blog explores why being a team matters in relationships, how that sense of partnership can quietly break down and what helps couples rebuild connection, communication and trust. 💛

If you’ve been feeling like you and your partner are on opposite sides lately, this one may really resonate.

👉 Read the full blog here:

One of the most common things I hear from couples is, “It feels like we’re on opposite sides.” When this happens, even small issues can turn into ongoing conflict, distance, or resentment. At the heart of many relationship struggles isn’t a lack of love - it’s a breakdown in teamwork.Being...

23/01/2026

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m not enough,” or comparing yourself to everyone else and feeling like you fall short? 🙋‍♀️ We've all been there. Many women quietly carry this feeling of inadequacy, and it can quietly affect your confidence, relationships, and how you show up for yourself each day.

The good news? Feeling inadequate doesn’t define you and there are small, practical steps you can take to shift how you see yourself.

Start by noticing when these thoughts arise without judging yourself. Then, remind yourself of your strengths and what you’ve already achieved. Even tiny wins like saying yes to something you’ve been avoiding or speaking up for yourself help build self-worth over time. Over weeks and months, these small actions compound into building confidence.

Imagine feeling lighter in your own skin, showing up authentically in your relationships and trusting yourself to make choices that feel right for you. That’s the outcome we’re aiming for - less self-doubt, more clarity and a stronger sense of self. 💛

https://www.anchoringyourlife.com/womens-counselling

19/01/2026

Old pain shows up in new arguments for a reason - and it doesn’t have to control your relationship.

In this short video, I talk about why old wounds get triggered and what couples can do to move forward together.💛

16/01/2026

“Why are we arguing about this again?”
If old hurts keep resurfacing in present-day arguments, it’s rarely about the moment you’re in - it’s about something that never fully healed.

I’ve just shared a new blog on why the past shows up in current conflicts, what it’s really trying to tell us, and how couples can break these cycles with care and understanding.

If this feels familiar for you or your relationship, this blog may offer some clarity. 💛

Have you ever found yourself in an argument with your partner thinking, “Why are we talking about this again?” or “That happened years ago - why is it coming up now?”This is one of the most common questions I hear in couples counselling in Brisbane and the Redlands, and it can feel confusing...

14/01/2026

Have you ever felt so angry, anxious, or overwhelmed that you can’t see straight?

In those moments, it’s easy to say things we don’t mean, feel completely stuck, or make decisions we later regret. When our emotions take over, our world can shrink down to this one moment, this one feeling and everything feels urgent and intense.

One simple but powerful tool I often talk about with clients is psychological distancing.

It’s the ability to pause, take a step back, and look at a situation from a wider lens instead of reacting straight from the heat of the moment. It doesn’t mean dismissing your feelings. It means creating just enough space to ask, “What’s really happening here?”; "What button has just been pushed of mine and why" or “How might this look a week, a month, or a year from now?”

When we zoom out, emotions often loosen their grip. Perspective returns. Choices feel clearer.

Think of it like switching from a zoom lens to a wide-angle one - suddenly you can see the bigger picture, not just the sharp edge of what hurts right now.

And that space? That’s where calmer, more grounded responses live.

09/01/2026

Financial infidelity doesn’t always look dramatic, but its impact can be deeply painful.

It happens when one partner hides spending, debts, accounts, or financial decisions and the secrecy, not just the money, is what hurts most. Many people describe the emotional toll as similar to physical or sexual infidelity because it breaks the same core foundations: trust, safety, and partnership.

Money is tied to security, future plans, and shared values. When financial truth is hidden, it can leave the other person feeling blindsided, anxious, and questioning what else they don’t know. The sense of betrayal isn’t about dollars - it’s about being excluded from decisions that affect both lives.

Like any betrayal, financial infidelity can create shame, defensiveness, and disconnection. Healing requires honesty, accountability, and space for the emotional impact to be acknowledged - not minimised.

If this resonates, know that you’re not overreacting. Trust can be repaired, but it starts with bringing the hidden into the open and working through it together.

05/01/2026

As the new year begins, I find myself feeling deeply grateful.

Grateful for the work that has brought me here. For the clients who showed up - not perfectly, but honestly. For the hard conversations, the meaningful moments, the goals reached, and the quiet shifts that changed everything.

This work holds the good, the heavy, and the messy and it’s exactly why I do what I do. Because growth isn’t neat. Healing isn’t rushed. And showing up for yourself takes courage.

As 2026 unfolds, I’m looking forward to meeting people exactly where they are. To walking alongside new and returning clients through whatever this year brings. To holding space for reflection, repair, hope, and forward movement.

A new year doesn’t ask us to be different - just willing.

Here’s to beginning again 💖