Anchoring Your Life Counselling

10/11/2025

It doesn’t happen overnight.

Resentment builds quietly - through unspoken hurts, small disappointments, and the moments where you stop feeling seen or appreciated. Over time, it can quietly corrode the love and safety between you.

But it’s not too late to turn things around. 💛
In my latest blog, I share how resentment forms, how it affects your relationship, and gentle steps to start rebuilding trust and connection again.

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Resentment doesn’t usually appear overnight. It builds quietly - in the sighs, the rolled eyes, the conversations left unfinished, and the moments where one partner feels unseen or unappreciated.Maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking: • “Why do I have to be the one who always puts in the effo...

31/10/2025

💛 Betrayal can leave us feeling shaken, confused, or unsure of what to do next.

In this video, I explore betrayal, understanding the emotional impact it creates and some steps you can take 🌿

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27/10/2025

Many of us worry about what others think - fearing judgment or people-pleasing. Over time, this can affect how you feel about yourself and how you show up in your life and in your relationships.

You might second-guess your choices, avoid conflict, or hold back from speaking your truth. These patterns can leave you feeling stuck or frustrated and can create distance between you, the people you care about and living life with purpose.

In counselling, we explore where these fears come from and work on practical ways to step out of that cycle. The goal is to help you live authentically, make choices that feel right for you, and build stronger, more honest and fulfilling connections.

When you stop letting the fear of others control your actions, you free yourself to show up fully - and your life and relationships benefit from your honesty and confidence.

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24/10/2025

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦Parenting can feel hard enough on its own - but when you and your partner aren’t on the same page, it can feel impossible.

One of you wants more structure. The other wants more flexibility. Before long, it’s not about the kids anymore - it’s about feeling like you’re on opposite sides.

21/10/2025

Behind every “nag” is someone who feels unheard. 💔

If you caught my recent video, this new blog goes deeper - exploring what drives the pattern and how couples can shift from frustration to understanding. Time for a ☕....

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It usually starts small. A reminder to take the bins out. A nudge to help with dinner. A gentle, "Can you please call the plumber?"But somehow, the same request ends up on repeat - and what began as a simple ask starts to feel like an ongoing battle.If you've ever found yourself caught in this cycle...

17/10/2025

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to carry someone else’s feelings? 💭

It can start out as care, or love, or wanting to help. But somewhere along the way, it starts to feel heavy… and you begin to lose your own calm in the process.

This one’s about finding balance - staying kind and connected, without taking on what isn’t yours to hold. 🌿

14/10/2025

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I feel like a bad friend, so I must be one” - even though your actions and the people around you show otherwise? That’s called emotional reasoning, a common thinking trap.

It’s when feelings take over and we treat them as facts. Feeling guilty or insecure doesn’t automatically make it true. Your kind words, thoughtful actions, and feedback from friends often tell a very different story.

Two ways to remind yourself of the facts:
✅ Check your actions - did you reach out, support, or show care? That’s evidence.
✅ Notice feedback from others - friends often see what we can’t.

Remember, feelings are signals, not verdicts. Your actions and intentions show the real story. 🌿

09/10/2025

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a loop of asking… and asking… and asking again? 🔄

In this video, I break down why it happens and share practical relationship tips for:
✨ Expressing needs without blame
✨ Feeling supported in partnership
✨ Reconnecting instead of arguing

If you and your partner want to feel closer, rebuild trust, and improve communication, start by shifting the small patterns today. 🌿

03/10/2025

Many of us grow up with ideas about relationships that simply aren’t true - and holding onto them can make connection feel harder than it needs to be.

Disagreements are normal and can actually help you understand each other better when approached with curiosity and respect. Conflict doesn’t always need immediate resolution; sometimes it requires space for reconnection to occur. Similarly, intimacy and s*x don’t always come easily - desire and closeness can ebb and flow, and that’s okay. Spending every moment together or agreeing on everything is neither possible nor necessary.

💏 What truly matters in a relationship is mutual respect, emotional safety, and a consistent effort to understand and support each other. Focus on connection, not perfection, and your relationship can thrive even when life feels complicated.

30/09/2025

✨ Feeling stuck under the weight of “shoulds”?

That’s the should trap — a common mindset pattern that can drain motivation, add unnecessary guilt, and make life feel heavier than it needs to. 💛

In this short video, I share a simple mindset shift to help you:
🌿 Lower pressure and build self-compassion
🌿 Reduce self-criticism and overthinking
🌿 Move forward with clarity and calm today

💾 Save this for the next time your “shoulds” start piling up.
🔄 Share it with someone who could use a little relief from their own self-pressure.

26/09/2025

💛 Counsellors play such an important role in our communities. The recent census highlights the impact we make in supporting mental health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing.

In my work, I specialise in counselling for women and couples who feel disconnected in their relationships, who feel stuck in life, and who are ready to reconnect with themselves, with each other, and with life. 🌿

Counselling provides a safe, supportive space to rebuild trust, improve communication, and find new ways of feeling closer, more secure and confident.

📊 ACA 2024 Counselling Workforce Census – Areas of Practice

Counsellors support clients across a wide range of needs, and the Census highlights the top five practice areas in the profession. Anxiety, stress, depression and self-esteem remain the most common focus, followed closely by trauma, grief, family and relationships, and communication support.

These findings show both the breadth of specialisation within counselling and the central role counsellors play in addressing mental health and wellbeing.

Read the ACA 2024 Counselling Workforce Census here: https://theaca.net.au/viewdocument/2024-aca-workforce-survey-report