20/02/2026
Trigger Warning ā ļø Talk of SUICIDAL THOUGHTS in others and what those signs might look like that you arenāt aware of - many people hide this level of mental ill health because they donāt know an alternative. They donāt want to burden others. They appear normal. They mask it wellā¦..
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Be careful with people who are suicidal.
Pleaseā¦.Let me explain.
1. They still show up. To work. To school. To family events. And then collapse when theyāre finally alone.
2. They listen to everyone elseās problems, but feel like a burden for having their own.
3. Their laughter often sounds real, but itās a shield that theyāve perfected over time.
4. They donāt always want to dieāthey just want the pain, the noise, the heaviness to stop.
5. They function well enough that people assume theyāre fine, so no one looks closer.
6. They may give hope to others while quietly losing it themselves.
7. Their hardest moments happen in silenceālate at night, in the shower, during the drive home, when the noise has died down.
8. They donāt always say āIām suicidal.ā Sometimes they say āIām tired,ā āIām empty,ā āI am beyond exhaustedā, or worse - nothing at all.
9. They apologise for existing, for needing reassurance, for taking up space.
10. They survive the day for othersābut donāt know how to live it for themselves.
So when we say
check on people,
donāt make it a slogan.
This is what YOU as a friend or family member can do:
šŖSit with them (or call āļø) and prepare to stay on the phone, or sit with them until you feel they have finally shared what was needed for them. Dig deeper.
š£ļø Ask twice (or ask them to go deeper, and explain more fully what is happening or what thoughts are reoccurring).
ā Ask what supports do they have in place. What have they considered seeking and do they need help to access these supports from youā
šš» Listen without fixing.
šļø Stay longer than feels comfortable.
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Because they seem āstrong,ā āokay,ā or āused to itāā¦.
These people are often the ones fighting the hardest battles in silence. They donāt want to seem unable to cope, or feel shame that they are not operating at the premium level theyāshouldā be able to do. Or perhaps they are worried of the repercussions of being honest. Sometimes they think their problems arenāt as bad as what others are experiencing. None of that is true of course - but for reasons such as āfamily conditioningā, or the fact they they are the person everyone else turns to (either in a job, or family or community) they feel unable to be vulnerable. They carry the burden in silence.
š¤ And silence can be dangerousā it is connection and communication that saves lives. š
Suicidal thoughts can affect everyone and for lots of different and VERY valid reasons. None of these are shameful or less worthy of support. Caught early - there is a greater chance of recovery and living your best days ahead.
Some supports can be a quick fix, others needs loving kindness over longer periods.
ā¤ļøāš©¹There are tools you can use - reach out to me or to any health care professional to find out how to make it through another hour or day. You are needed in the world.
Tell your friends and family to do the same - vulnerability saves lives.
Please share the post far and wide. It is a message that needs to be seen and saved. We ALL know someone who is in this situation today. (Yesā¦.TODAY) Be the person who isnāt afraid to have THAT conversation.
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