Nested Hearts

Nested Hearts Nurturing growth, healing & connection. Identity & neuro-affirming, attachment & trauma-responsive care. Supervision/ Consultation/Training

Accredited Mental Health Social Worker/Registered Play Therapist/Relational Integrative EMDR/Therapy for all ages. Nested Hearts is the therapeutic practice of Sarah Daley, an experienced Child & Family Therapist, Registered Play Therapist (APPTA) and Accredited Social Worker (AASW) with a Bachelor of Social Work and a Master of Child Play Therapy. Sarah provides child and family therapy with children and young people aged 2 to 16 years of age and their families. Sarah is now also working with adults offering Relational-Integrated EMDR. RI-EMDR is a powerful therapeutic approach that combines the proven effectiveness of attachment informed EMDR with the depths of Resource Therapy (parts work) and Somatic/Polyvagal work. If you are struggling to be the parent you want to be because of childhood wounds, RI-EMDR is an incredibly effective approach that helps you heal from past wounds and improve current relationships so you can be the parent you want to be. This is an incredibly nurturing and gentle therapy, and as an experienced child therapist, I am skilled at nurturing those child parts in you that are still hurting. Nested Hearts is a neuro-affirming and inclusive practice, where cultural humility is practiced at all times. Nested Hearts provides therapeutic services for children and young people under the NDIS and Sarah is also an accredited NSW Victim Services provider specialising in working with children, young people and adults who have experienced developmental and relational trauma. Sarah has experience in individual, family, group and community work and is available to facilitate training on request.

Yesterday morning was a big one for my daughter. Her worst fear came true. She vomited on the school bus.It was really d...
23/02/2026

Yesterday morning was a big one for my daughter. Her worst fear came true. She vomited on the school bus.

It was really distressing, but she got through it. Her sister stayed with her and looked after her, and she was able to come to my work and spend the morning with me in the playroom. That time together felt very special.

She chose to play in the sandtray and said I could film and share on here with all of you to help you understand the healing qualities of play.

In her tray, the vomit emoji was locked safely inside a jail, with guards nearby. Around it she placed the things that help her feel safe and like herself again. Bunnies, books, sewing, cups of tea, and comforting food. Her world of comfort and joy surrounding the fear.

Later she added anxiety too, symbolised as a volcano, and put that in the jail. Once anxiety had been “trained”, it was released and transformed into a green monster. No longer overwhelming, but something she could see, understand, and relate to.

What stayed with me is this. Her worst fear happened and she survived.

Children have such a natural capacity to move toward regulation, meaning, and a sense of mastery when they are given safety, presence, and a way to express their inner world.

Sandtray can be such a powerful tool for children, and for adults too. It allows big feelings to be externalised, held at a distance, and sometimes transformed.

Sometimes courage looks like getting through the thing you feared most. Sometimes healing happens through play. The most important thing was she was not alone through out this process.

Thanks We Al-li Programs "We’ve been taught to “regulate our nervous system” as if the work is to control ourselves howe...
22/02/2026

Thanks We Al-li Programs "We’ve been taught to “regulate our nervous system” as if the work is to control ourselves however our bodies are not problems to fix. They are responding to context, history and relationship. What looks like dysregulation is often wisdom shaped by experience. In our Culturally Informed Trauma Intergated Healing Approach (CITIHA) we shift the frame from regulation to relationship. Instead of asking someone to calm themselves, we ask:

What would help your body feel safe?

What support or connection is needed?

What environment will allow settling?

The nervous system steadies in safety, it softens in connection, it settles when it is met. Healing is not self-management...it is relational"

We’ve been taught to “regulate our nervous system” as if the work is to control ourselves however our bodies are not problems to fix. They are responding to context, history and relationship. What looks like dysregulation is often wisdom shaped by experience. In our Culturally Informed Trauma Intergated Healing Approach (CITIHA) we shift the frame from regulation to relationship. Instead of asking someone to calm themselves, we ask:

What would help your body feel safe?

What support or connection is needed?

What environment will allow settling?

The nervous system steadies in safety, it softens in connection, it settles when it is met. Healing is not self-management...it is relational.

I’m in Sydney for a short but really worthwhile trip to deepen my learning in attachment-informed EMDR.As a Relational I...
22/02/2026

I’m in Sydney for a short but really worthwhile trip to deepen my learning in attachment-informed EMDR.

As a Relational Integrative EMDR (RI-EMDR) therapist, my work is grounded in two key foundations: Resource Therapy (parts work) and Attachment-Informed EMDR. What I value about this approach is the way it holds space not only for distressing memories, but also for the earliest attachment wounds, not just what happened, but what was missing.

I attended Day 3 of the training, advanced AI EMDR on intergenerational trauma and working with dreams. Much of it affirmed the way I’m already practicing, and it was meaningful to come away with some new tools and perspectives to support the work even further.

It was also lovely to reconnect with colleagues in the field and make some new connections along the way. Grateful for the learning and the community.

Reconnecting with Timor-Leste this week through online learning with the incredible NABILAN team and feeling grateful to...
17/02/2026

Reconnecting with Timor-Leste this week through online learning with the incredible NABILAN team and feeling grateful to be part of this shared work.

We have been preparing for our upcoming in-country training with shelter staff in March.

Day 1 focused on the foundations of safety, trauma awareness and decolonising practice. Together we explored how to centre Timorese knowledge, culture and community strengths while strengthening trauma-responsive support for women and children.

Day 2 focused on expanding play-based approaches within shelter settings. We explored how play therapy can support not only children, but also shelter staff and parents, strengthening relationships, building felt safety, and supporting rehabilitation and transition back into community after trauma.

Our conversations included filial and Theraplay-informed approaches to strengthen attachment and connection, narrative practices that support meaning-making and dignity, and integrative ways of working that honour Timorese wisdom, collective cultures and community healing.

I always come to this work not as the expert, but as someone sharing ideas in partnership. What matters most is creating space for Timorese practitioners to adapt, reshape and make this work their own. To me, a truly decolonising approach means local leadership, cultural grounding, and knowledge growing from within community.

A big thank you to Carlie Atkinson from We Al-li whose frameworks helped guide our reflections on adapting and reframing Western psychological concepts, including moving from a window of tolerance to a window of choice. I was also reminded of Bruce Perry’s reflection that some of the most powerful healing practices already exist within Indigenous cultures around the world. It feels so important to honour the role of rhythm, ritual and culturally held ways of healing.

Even online, the care, insight and commitment of the NABILAN team continues to inspire me. I’m really looking forward to being back in Timor-Leste in March to continue this journey together in person.

Reconnecting with Timor-Leste this week through online learning with the incredible NABILAN team and feeling grateful to...
17/02/2026

Reconnecting with Timor-Leste this week through online learning with the incredible NABILAN team and feeling grateful to be part of this shared work.

We have been preparing for our upcoming in-country training with shelter staff in March.

Day 1 focused on the foundations of safety, trauma awareness and decolonising practice. Together we explored how to centre Timorese knowledge, culture and community strengths while strengthening trauma-responsive support for women and children.

Day 2 focused on expanding play-based approaches within shelter settings. We explored how play therapy can support not only children, but also shelter staff and parents, strengthening relationships, building felt safety, and supporting rehabilitation and transition back into community after trauma.

Our conversations included filial and Theraplay-informed approaches to strengthen attachment and connection, narrative practices that support meaning-making and dignity, and integrative ways of working that honour Timorese wisdom, collective cultures and community healing.

I always come to this work not as the expert, but as someone sharing ideas in partnership. What matters most is creating space for Timorese practitioners to adapt, reshape and make this work their own. To me, a truly decolonising approach means local leadership, cultural grounding, and knowledge growing from within community.

A big thank you to Carlie Atkinson from We Al-li whose frameworks helped guide our reflections on adapting and reframing Western psychological concepts, including moving from a window of tolerance to a window of choice. I was also reminded of Bruce Perry’s reflection that some of the most powerful healing practices already exist within Indigenous cultures around the world. It feels so important to honour the role of rhythm, ritual and culturally held ways of healing.

Even online, the care, insight and commitment of the NABILAN team continues to inspire me. I’m really looking forward to being back in Timor-Leste in March to continue this journey together in person.

Its true! If you have done emdr with me it can absolutely look like this! Thanks Jem Bloom Well-being for showing the wo...
13/02/2026

Its true! If you have done emdr with me it can absolutely look like this! Thanks Jem Bloom Well-being for showing the world that trauma processing can actually involve playfulness!

05/02/2026

One of the hardest truths in parenting is this:
You do not control your child.

Not their thoughts.
Not their emotions.
Not their nervous system.
Not their identity.
Not their inner world.

You can guide.
You can teach.
You can reassure.
You can model.
You can regulate.
You can lead.

But unless you choose fear-based methods —
punishment, manipulation, intimidation, threats, emotional withdrawal —
you will never have 100% control.

And here’s the part most people don’t want to face:

Even if you do choose control…

It’s temporary.

Because one day they get bigger.
Stronger.
Smarter.
More independent.
Less afraid.

And when that happens, control collapses.

If your relationship was built on power instead of trust, obedience instead of connection,
fear instead of safety —

You lose influence.

Because they don’t see you as a safe leader.
They see you as someone to escape.
Resist.
Withhold from.
Protect themselves from.

That’s the real danger zone.

Complete Disconnection.

When a child stops trusting you.
Stops coming to you.
Stops believing you are safe.
When they feel like property instead of personhood.
Like something owned instead of someone loved.
That’s not leadership or parenting —
that’s control culture.

True parenting power isn’t dominance.
It’s relationship.
It’s trust.
It’s emotional safety.
It’s influence.
It’s presence.
It’s respect.
It’s consistency.
It’s regulation.

You don’t raise humans by owning them.
You raise humans by leading them 🙌🏽

By seeing them as whole people.
By guiding without breaking.
By holding boundaries without fear.
By building safety instead of submission.

Because the goal was never control.

The goal was connection.
The goal was influence.
The goal was trust.
The goal was relationship.

And the parents who understand this don’t raise obedient children.

They raise secure humans.
Resilient humans.
Connected humans.
Humans who listen — not because they’re scared but because they trust.

And trust with influence - That’s true power.
Not force-based power.
Relational power. The only kind that lasts.

This is so true for so many kids and so hard as a parent. Ill be honest, I have supported parents and kids for years aro...
04/02/2026

This is so true for so many kids and so hard as a parent. Ill be honest, I have supported parents and kids for years around what use to be called school refusal. It wasn't until I experienced a season with my own child in which she literally jumped out of the car as we were heading down the driveway and said "I just cant do it mum, I cant!". Her whole body just went into shut down. I had all the "tools" yet I literally couldn't get her there! This is so real for so many parents. Something like 90 percent of kids who school cant are also neurodivergent and so often schools blame parents, threaten or bribe, and i have seen time and time again this not working. Its complex and so often a change of environment and school has often been the best outcome or honouring the child is in burn out and supporting their nervous system restoration and a gentle and supported return. Its a complex balance of two hands one full of compassion and the other gently pushing them through and some days you have wins and others like the day my daughter jumped out of the moving car, you just have to surrender and be with them and start again the next day!

Thousands of Australian parents are struggling with children who cannot go to school. A new podcast and e-book have been released to help support them.

04/02/2026

Many parents have asked what the 𝙏𝙝𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙆𝙞𝙙𝙨 / 𝙉𝙤 𝘾𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙇𝙚𝙛𝙩 𝘽𝙚𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙙 report could mean for families.

Kids First founder, Sonja Walker, has reviewed the 80,000-word document released today and below are some of the key areas we have raised with our local MP for parliamentary discussion.

It's important to note that the intention behind the report is a positive one. Everyone wants children to get the right support earlier and to see better outcomes over time.

We’re sharing our feedback because we’re concerned that some of the recommendations rely on assumptions that don’t always reflect family life on the ground, and that the real-world impact for children and parents hasn’t been fully considered.

𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘃𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁

The report recommends increasing access to information, resources and online programs to build parent capacity.
Many parents already know what their child finds hard. What’s often missing is time, energy and hands-on support to turn advice into real change at home, school and in the community. Online programs can be helpful, but they don’t replace skilled professionals working alongside children and families over time.

𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲

The report suggests that parent capacity can be expanded indefinitely through access to education and online programs.
In reality, many parents are already carrying a heavy load. Between work, siblings, appointments, school meetings and daily challenges, families are doing their best with limited reserves. Expecting parents to absorb even more responsibility without enough professional support risks burnout and could leave children without the help they need.

𝗨𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 “𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗱” 𝗼𝗿 “𝗺𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲”

The report relies on terms such as “mild to moderate” developmental delay or autism to guide decisions.
These labels don’t always match daily life, and they do not reflect clinical practice. Children described as “mild” can still struggle significantly with learning, friendships, behaviour, sleep, toileting or emotions. When decisions rely on labels rather than how a child functions day to day, some children miss early support at the point it could make the biggest difference.

𝗣𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲 𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀

The report often refers to large Non-Government Organisations (NGOs) as the primary voice of best practice and service delivery.
Many of these organisations hold charitable status, which gives them access to funding structures, tax exemptions, grants and pilot program opportunities that smaller providers simply don’t have. This allows them to trial new models, absorb financial risk and operate at scale in ways that are not possible for most local services.

However, many of these organisations no longer operate consistently within local communities. (The NGO that Sonja once served as a Board member, Lifestart, moved out of the northern beaches years ago to redirect supports to other areas of Sydney.) When this kind of thing happens, families rely heavily on smaller, local services that know their child, their school and their area, and who can respond flexibly as needs change. These relationships are built over time and are central to effective support. If local services that are dedicated to their community disappear, that trust and knowledge can’t be replaced quickly or easily.

𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲

The report implies that private or unregistered providers are more 'transactional' or higher risk than NGOs.
In reality, private practice clinicians are regulated by exactly the same professional bodies and bound by the same strict codes of conduct as NGOs. Many experienced therapists choose not to register with the NDIS because of cost and complexity, not because of poor or unethical practice. This distinction matters to families who depend on these services. We encourage the Thriving Kids committee to ask the question: 'If 92% of NDIS providers are unregistered, why is this so?'

𝗠𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

The report supports mandatory registration without clearly outlining a timeframe or how services will transition safely. There are insufficient resources in the sector to allow this to happen, even with a January 2028 floated as a 'done by date'.
If changes are introduced too quickly, some local services may be forced to close. Families won’t simply move elsewhere, because there often isn’t anywhere else to go. Once local services are lost, rebuilding them is extremely difficult.

𝗔𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀

The report focuses heavily (and rightly so) on the challenges that are experienced by families living in Australia's regional and rural areas - however it also assumes that children in metropolitan areas have enough services and capacity.
City families face the same workforce shortages, waitlists and burnout as regional areas. Many parents already ration therapy or go without support because services are stretched.

𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆

The report assumes the workforce can expand quickly to support new models of care.
Therapists take years to train, and many experienced clinicians are leaving the sector due to workload and uncertainty. New systems can’t succeed unless there are enough skilled people available to deliver care.
Switching responsibility to educators, teachers and schools is not the answer to these challenges. Educators are already stretched and are not trained or resourced to provide disability-specific assessment or intervention. Expecting them to fill workforce gaps risks pushing people beyond their scope, increasing pressure in classrooms, and leaving children without the specialised support they need.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗶𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲

Support for children isn’t just about programs or policy frameworks. 𝗜𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲, 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲. 𝗜𝗳 𝗲𝘅𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝘁, 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗹𝘆.

𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲) 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘂𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁. Without careful planning, broad consultation and agreement across systems, there is a real risk that well-intentioned changes could unintentionally make things harder for the very children they aim to support.

To all the mothers out there!! because this is so true! I see you! One of the greatest things missing is real support fo...
02/02/2026

To all the mothers out there!! because this is so true! I see you! One of the greatest things missing is real support for parents in this system, and particularly mothers! Yes, I'd say I deal with primarily mothers! actually I'd say 100 percent mothers at the moment on my caseload! Dad's come in, after the mothers give me their numbers so they can connect as well! I see you!!!

02/02/2026

For many families, children are back at school this week. And this time can bring a mix of excitement, worry, and adjustment as routines settle in. ⁠

Wherever you’re at, our events are here to offer space to connect, share experiences, and feel supported. ⁠

THIS WEEK⁠

🔶All About Me - Interactive Workshop⁠
📅Tue, 3 Feb | 8:00pm⁠
Our children are so much more than a report or diagnosis. Join other families for an interactive workshop to create a positive, strengths-based introduction that shows who your child really is and what helps them thrive. ⁠
🔗 Register: https://events.humanitix.com/allaboutme0302

⁠🔶Under 8 Years: Routines That Fit Your Family - Virtual Autism MyTime⁠
📅Wed, 4 Feb | 8:00pm⁠
In this session we’ll talk about gentler, more flexible routines and how small changes can bring more ease to everyday moments for your child and for you. ⁠
🔗 Register: https://events.humanitix.com/virtualmytime0402

🔶Connect & Chat - Virtual MyTime⁠
📅Thu, 5 Feb | 7:30pm⁠
This group is a space to share experiences, ask questions, and find support with others who know the unique joys and challenges of raising a child with disability. ⁠
🔗 Register: https://events.humanitix.com/virtualmytime050226

🔶Navigating School with Medical Needs⁠ - Medical Webinar⁠
📅Fri, 6 Feb | 12:00pm⁠
This webinar will look at how to help everyone understand what your child needs to feel safe, included, and ready to learn. ⁠
🔗 Register to attend live or receive recording: https://events.humanitix.com/mwebinar0602

SAVE THE DATE⁠

🧡 Upcoming Webinars⁠

🔶Understanding School IEPs⁠
📅Mon, 16 Feb | 8:00pm⁠
🔗 Register to attend live or receive recording: https://events.humanitix.com/webinar1602x

🔶Understanding Adjustments & Supports at School⁠
📅Mon, 2 Mar | 8:00pm⁠
🔗 Register to attend live or receive recording: https://events.humanitix.com/webinar0203

🧡Upcoming Interactive Workshops ⁠

🔶Healthy Mothers Healthy Families⁠
⁠📅Tue, 17 Feb | 7:30pm or Wed, 18 Feb | 12:00pm⁠
⁠🔗 Register: https://collections.humanitix.com/hmhf

🔶ENVISAGE⁠
📅Wed, 18 Feb | 10:00am or Tue, 24 Feb | 9:30am⁠
🔗 Register: https://collections.humanitix.com/envisage

🔶Partnering with Your Child’s School ⁠
📅Mon, 23 Feb | 8:00pm⁠
🔗 Register: https://events.humanitix.com/partnerships2302

🔶Advocacy at School⁠
📅Mon, 16 March | 8:00pm or Thu, 26 March | 10:00am⁠
🔗 Register: https://collections.humanitix.com/advocacy

🔶From Childhood to Teens⁠
📅Tue, 17 March | 8:00pm⁠
⁠🔗 Register: https://events.humanitix.com/teens1703


👩🏻‍💻 All sessions are FREE and online. Times shown in NSW / AEDT. 🧡

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