Yonilicious

23/02/2026

One of the most fascinating things about contraception is how dramatically different the mechanisms are across bodies.

Many common contraceptives used by women work by altering systemic physiology. Hormonal methods, for example, suppress ovulation, change cervical mucus, and influence the uterine lining. These interventions can be incredibly effective, but they also involve continuous endocrine modulation, which is why side effects and individual variability are so common.

Barrier methods operate completely differently, relying on mechanical prevention rather than hormonal influence. Their effectiveness is highly dependent on consistent and correct use, which introduces a behavioural variable that rarely gets enough attention.

And then there’s fertility awareness-based methods, which work by tracking the fertile window. Biologically elegant, but cognitively demanding, and often misunderstood in terms of both effectiveness and practical application.

Vasectomy sits in yet another category altogether: targeted interruption of s***m transport, without systemic hormonal changes.

It’s genuinely interesting how differently we tend to psychologically frame these options, especially considering how invasive or systemically disruptive some methods can be compared to others.

I actually wrote a full paper on contraception and its history back at uni. If anyone’s curious and wants to read it, pop a 💗

If you’d like my deeper Substack breakdown on vasectomy pop a 📖 (I’d very much love to have you over there)

May the pleasure be with you alll
Kiki xx

19/12/2025

Pleasure Class is back! 🍑💦

And as your resident s*xologist, I’m VERY happy to chat today about keeping it juicy (hi ) with adequate st*mulation and added lubr*cation if need be.

And on the topic of adequate stimulation, I wanna break down what that means for p*eps with vulvae!

MOST v^lva-havers need more time to get juicy / puffy for envelopmental readiness than our culture expects generalllyyy due to cultural heteronormativity + phallic-centric sxx (where fast sxx is mostly okay).

This doesn’t mean we are broken, it is very much simply due to normal physiology! Yayyyyy!

Even though the cl*toris is homologous to the pen*s (built from the same embryonic tissues), the arousal job is verrrry different: a pen*s er****on is mainly one organ reaching rigidity, where’s vag*nal readiness is a whole pelvic process..

We have:
Blood flow to multiple tissues (cl*toris + vestibular bulbs + l***a)

Vag*nal-wall lubrication via transudation (fluid moving through tissue as blood flow rises) + glandular lubrication

Internal expansion/space-building (hello comfort)

Which is why it often takes longer for us to be fully ready for envelopmental sxx… more tissues need time to engorge, soften, and become spacious (not just “get wet”)

I’ve popped below a VERY rough timing guide (which varies by person/day):

• 5–10 min: early warmth/fullness, initial lubrication may start
• 10–20 min: deeper engorgement + more reliable lubrication (FOR SOME)
• 15–30 min: many bodies reach clearer “ready” cues (softening, comfort with depth , easier envelopment,)

Stress, pain history, or performance pressure can certainly impact this timing and take even longer, because the nervous system is what truly sets the pacefor our arousal and readiness—we need to be in a parasympathetic activation for arousal to occur.

This doesn’t mean to slip into hyper vigilance, self monitoring, or that there’s anything wrong with you if you are DTF without adequate arousal.. It’s simply permission to check in with YOUR own envelopmental readiness, and to experiment with not overriding your body because of culturally rushed, misinformed expectations.

19/11/2025

Enrol before the end of November to save $500 and become certified by the end of 2026!

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12/11/2025

I don’t know about you, but if you’re like me—and many others—you grew up believing “tight” was desirable.

Studying S•x•logy and practising S•x•logical Bodywork and gaining in/depth understanding on the function of the pelvic diaphragm has completely shifted that.

A common reason clients seek y•ni massage is pain with s•x (dyspareunia)—often described as burning or stinging at the vaginal entrance, tenderness in the G-zone, pain with deep penetrati•n, or other internal/external discomfort.

What I see repeatedly in many of these cases is that there is more tension at rest, minimal descent on inhale, and oftentimes bracing against anticipated pain.

Many other clients who come for other reasons also disclose discomfort they’ve long normalised. Culturally, vag*bal or vulv*ar pain—especially during first-time sxx —is framed as “normal,” when it often reflects insufficient arousal/engorgement and lubr*cation.

This is what happens when we’re not taught how our bodies work, and that our pain is normal.

If you’re navigating painful sxx, you’re not broken—your body is letting you know you need attention and care and I cannot recommend to continue to seek support until you find a team that supports you.

If you are a bodyworker and feel called to be trained in this area, comment PRACTITIONER and I’ll send through the details.

03/11/2025

Jesse recently created this beautiful promo video for the therapeutic yoni massage training 🥰

I would appreciate it so much if you could head over to YouTube and give it a little watch and like/comment 🤗 it’s only 2 mins long.

For those of you interested in this training feel free to send me a dm or comment with a 🌹 on this post.

Hugs from China!
Kiki xx

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02/08/2025

Pl*easure Class is back for An*l Health Month 🍑
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For our first lesson I wanted to highlight how interconnected our 🍑 is to our vag*na & vulva… what impacts one, impacts the other: tension, pleasure, posture, blood flow, nerve health etc.⁠
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Things to be mindful of for an*l and vag*nal health:

1. Do not focus solely on activating your pelvic diaphragm (during yoga/pilates/dance/strength training/ pelvic floor exercises) be sure to also focus on softening the muscle completely. A healthy muscle has a full range of motion.

2. Keep your hydration & fibre up for softer stools.

3. Do not push p**p or p*e.

4. Connect with your pelvic diaphragm though visual exploration (anatomical models/looking with a mirror as you squeeze your muscles and see your vul*va move) & interoceptive awareness, get a felt sense of your muscles.

5. Self massage and self release with professional guidance.

Be sure to like and save this so future posts show up on your feed!

May the healthy pelvic diaphragm be with you allll
Kiki xx