16/11/2025
TA**RA TRAINING 101... Know Thy Pucker... did you know there are five levels of clench and relax to your pucker?! Understand your pucker to use it better, and how to make your interactions with others work better 😋
Level 1 - Clench as hard as you can
Level 2 - This is how much you clench when you are standing and walking around
Level 3 - Completely relax your pucker, no clenching, no pushing
Level 4 - Give a little push outward
Level 5 - Push bitch push!
If you stop to think about it, it all makes sense... from Level 1 to 5 you're basically looking at Clench Hard, Clench Soft, Neutral, Push Soft, Push Hard... it's a spectrum from fully clenching at one end, to fully pushing at the other.
Often we find that if you're having difficulty being in a receptive role, your pucker is sitting at Level 2 or even Level 1, when ideally Level 3 or Level 4 is where you want to be when you're interacting, especially at the beginning of an interaction (throw in a little Level 2 or even Level 1 once you're 'settled in', and have comfortably received your partner).
We also often find that if you're not used to being receptive, that Level 4 and Level 5 can be confused or feel the same... and Level 5 is the one at which a bathroom activity is happening, so confusing the two can feel very wrong!
There are techniques you can use to help you find all 5 levels and make your pucker work for you, drop us a line to book in for an Intimacy Therapy session and understand your body better 😄
