19/11/2025
As we move through adulthood, friendships don’t disappear because we stop caring. They often shift because our lives shift. Different routines, responsibilities, cities, and priorities mean we lose the automatic moments that used to keep us close.
This doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It also doesn’t mean the friendship is failing. It reflects the reality that adult connection takes more intention and structure than it did when life naturally placed us in the same spaces every day.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re always the one initiating contact, it may not be a sign that you’re “too much” or that your friend doesn’t value you. Many people are overwhelmed, stretched thin, or unsure how to reconnect.
A gentle reminder: meaningful friendships can evolve and still be strong, even if they look different from before. It’s normal for adult relationships to need more communication, clarity, and effort to stay connected.
You’re not alone in feeling this shift.