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07/12/2025

When a child chooses to not talk to a parent, you consider both sides. But when truth and clarity are nowhere to be found, having distance and peace is manipulation and abuse parading like their the victim in the story while the parent is left wondering what else to do before giving up. The level of young people silencing their parents by isolation, rejecting and going no contact is not brave, its not strength nor peace. It is parent blaming with the intention to hurt, to confuse and to minimise the role of the parent. Its ABUSE. What they dont understand is, doing this without any accountability hurts them in the long run. The isolated parent silently respects their actions and choices, oftening feeling rejected in their attampt to communicate or to seek clarity. What no one sees, is how much this hurts the isolated parent. And often they journey with grief in silence, their hopes dimming with the passing of time and their truth unhead.
The only thing the parent can do is heal their space in a way that allows them to enjoy the small joys in the world and to connect with good people. They learn to move differently, respectfully.

07/12/2025

Call it for what it is, EMOTIONAL ABUSE.

07/12/2025

07/12/2025

We often tell ourselves that we still have time...time to have that conversation, time to build a relationship, time to forgive and renew, time to seek out clarity, time to build understanding...the list of to do later is long. Relationships of any form are hard and require open communication, considerations of each others views and experiences, it requires growth and the opportunity to change and seek better. Being an adult is really about growing as you journey. And every single one of us make mistakes, we struggle, we do our best. So dont leave your conversations unfinished, build that bridge to reach an understanding before time end. The worse feel in the world is having regrets of WHAT IF...becase at the end of the day, shadows dont talk back.

04/12/2025

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03/12/2025

03/12/2025

Dont forget spiritual or faith base advisors/church reps...who dont have context or heard all sides of the story. Now a days its about patting the ego and feeding the inner narc...so we continue to have mentally depended people rather then adults who need to resolve their hurts and talk it out with truth, honesty and care for each other. But no, lets continue to be mentally dependent. 🫩

30/11/2025

Here's to finding a new normal. Holidays use to be hard, now, i welcome the rest to heal from my exhaustion. I embrace the silence it offers so i can discover my passions, i well the alone time so i can sort through things i need and dont need. I welcome the STILLNESS so that i can free my emotions.

🍁 Estrangement & the Holidays: A Parent’s Perspective

The holidays have a way of pressing on the bruises you try so hard to ignore.

Thanksgiving used to mean noise, cooking, laughter, and the small chaos that only family brings. Now, for many estranged parents, the season brings a different kind of quiet — the kind that feels heavy instead of peaceful.

It’s a strange grief…
Sitting at a table with empty chairs that should be filled.
Watching other families post photos while pretending yours doesn’t ache.
Trying to be grateful when your heart is breaking in a way you can’t explain to people who haven’t lived it.

There’s frustration, too — frustration that the story is one-sided, that you don’t get to speak your truth, that the version of you living in someone else’s memory is the only one allowed to exist.

And yet… you still hope.
Hope for healing.
Hope for conversation.
Hope for a day when the holidays feel warm again instead of complicated.

If this season brings up grief for you, you’re not alone. Many parents are quietly carrying this weight, trying to find their own version of “thankful” while navigating a pain that has no roadmap.

You’re still worthy of love.
You’re still allowed to celebrate.
And you’re still allowed to grieve what should have been.

30/11/2025

The saying "time heals all wounds" is often used to offer comfort, suggesting that with the passage of time, the pain of a difficult experience will diminish. I often wonder about that in my reflections. What I have understood over time is that this phrase can oversimplify the complex nature of healing. In reality, time itself doesn't heal; instead, it provides the opportunity to process emotions, reflect, and develop coping mechanisms. It's a period of slient drafting, the unlearning of habits, to adapt to new realities and find ways to integrate one's own experiences into their new journey and life. While some wounds may never fully heal or may leave lasting scars, time can help to make them more bearable, transforming pain into something more manageable. Healing is often more about the growth and acceptance of one's own journey and understanding of self developed along the way, rather than the complete erasure of past hurt, pain or isolation.

30/11/2025

Parental isolation is cruel, when the isolated parent is not given the opportunity to speak their truth. They often move silently, struggling between their disconnected bond with their children and the need to build understanding.
This journey often leaves them overwhelmed by the
rejection and a parents need to still protect their child. So the journey to heal from parental alienation involves addressing the deep grief of disconnection. Recognizing and accepting that your side of the story was never a consideration. No one asked you if you were doing OK in a situation created by another. No one asked you about the many changes you gave before you broke. No one asked you if leaving was about protecting what little courage you had left to fight for YOU. Accepting peace is not just about healing but finding the YOU, that you kept compromising to keep the peace. What they don't ask you, is why you walked away? What finally pushed you over the edge. When your the parent that is alienated, you understand three things quickly:
1. There is a narrative told about you that is manipulative, underpinned by lies told over time. This becomes the new truth, the victim becomes the aggressor and the aggressor becomes the victim. But what no one will do is fact check what their told. They don't, because their comfortable with the lies and they have made their minds up about you.
2. Your truth or side of the story does not matter, because they have already made up their minds about you. It does not matter how many times you reach out.
3. Find your PEACE, holding on only harms you. We often think that time and space will provide an opportunity to reconnect, to have a peaceful exchange...
But even that seems like wishful thinking.
Treasure the memories but move forward regretting nothing. Your peace is not the same as theirs. Let them keep whatever narratives they need too, it means more to them then it does to you. BLESS AND RELEASE!!