Nicole Jacobsen

22/01/2026

I've nearly finished reading this book and a quote jumped out at me.

"As you know, it's not your fault you use defence mechanisms but-and here's a big but-they are your responsibility to sort out,in order to minimise the harm you cause others. We all have a responsibility to understand our ego for this reason. It's vital we identify our defence mechanisms and when our sense of self feels threatened. When we have this awareness, we'll also have fewer blind spots, and this will help protect our relationship from frequent and intense conflict".

Relationship Reset-Lissy Abraham's

Take time to see yourself with honest eyes and identify areas where you need to grow. Understand that we all created defense mechanisms to keep ourselves safe but now they are keeping us stuck in patterns of unhealthy behaviour. It takes courage to speak your truth and let yourself be vulnerable. Start by simply being aware and noticing how you interact. Treat yourself with compassion and understanding, knowing that you did the best you could and that these defenses most likely developed when you were a child and were the only way to get you through at the time. Yet now you are an adult and you have the power to create a safe space for yourself and to re-parent your inner child. If you find this courage within you, if you are brave enough to be honest with yourself, the change you create will bring great freedom and blessings into your life. It is time to let the old ways go, it is time for new energy to come through, it is time for you to be who you truly are 🪷🌹✨

18/01/2026

31/12/2025

Wishing everyone a Happy New Year. May 2026 be full of love, laughter, prosperity, abundance, good health, happiness, peace and joy. Thanks so much for being part of my journey. I appreciate it!

15/08/2025

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This amazing song of grief and hope was...

03/06/2025

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27/04/2025

Thank you for creating this bright bunch to say thank you to a family member. It's much appreciated 🥰🪷✨

25/03/2025

My plant from Peru is now starting to fully flower, symbolising the ability in all of us to bloom. It is time to show the flowers of your soul to the world. It is time to be who you truly are ☺️🪷✨

19/03/2025

One of my clients has been waiting for this plant from Peru to flower before she gave it to me. Tonight she left it on my doorstep with a lovely shell message 🥰🪷✨

15/03/2025

I really enjoyed this book and what it seeks to do.

Full of both horror and hope and how the goodness remains in people even under the most dire circumstances. The sun will rise!! 🌅

"To spend a week in Ukraine is to fall in love for a lifetime. Her vibrant cultural heritage, physical beauty and complex history are all uniquely captivating and utterly spellbinding. But it is the Ukranian people-who maintain a sense of humour and boundless optimism under unspeakable duress-who are the most magical of all.

With the future of democracy on the line, what happens in Ukraine matters everywhere.

The outcome of Russia's invasion of Ukraine will have an outsized impact on global affairs for decades to come. We cannot simply watch in horror. Our fates are intertwined."

"UNDER A CLEAR BLUE SKY, the sun rose over a free land.

Against all odds, the people had prevailed." 🇺🇦

The Sun will rise by Misha Zelinsky

🇺🇦 💙💛

25/02/2025

Pretty happy with my delivery today 🪷🌿✨

13/02/2025

I really enjoyed reading this book. It not only gives some helpful tips for parents but also calls on the reader to reflect on their own life and childhood and how it could be impacting them in the now.

One of the things I liked was it encouraged parents/caregivers to give their baby the space to cry, as sometimes they just need to release stress. When we try to distract them from crying at these times it can teach them that it is wrong to cry and they may use things like thumb sucking ect to distract themselves from their emotions.

This might carry into adulthood where we might distract ourselves by overworking, developing bad habits and even addiction.

It is important as both a baby(child) and an adult to allow ourselves the space to sit with and express our emotions, for otherwise these suppressed emotions can impact the health of our physical body, our mental health and may result in habits/behaviours that are not healthy for ourselves or those around us.

When all your baby's needs are met and there appears to be unexplained crying, the author suggested holding your baby with love, allowing them to cry and saying to them;

"I'm right here"
"I'm listening"
"I see you're upset"
"I'll stay with you while you cry"

You can also use this kindness with yourself, by being fully present with yourself and listening to what it is you truly need and allowing yourself to express your emotions.

You may also like to write a letter to your past self or speak to your inner child directly, giving yourself the opportunity to be supported in those times of past distress and giving yourself permission to express your emotions as they wished to be expressed at that time.

As this book calls on the reader to trust in their baby, it's also a reminder to trust in yourself, knowing that when we give ourselves the space to truly tune in, we always know what it is that we need.

The Aware Baby
By Alethea J. Solter, Ph.D

27/01/2025

Almost finished reading this book. Really enjoying it and gaining some helpful insights. Suitable for both men and women.

"Yet all of us are vulnerable to intense, nonproductive angry reactions in our current relationships if we do not deal openly and directly with emotional issues from our first family_in particular, losses and cutoffs."

In the book there is also a chance to observe your 'characteristic style of managing anger'.

"In thinking about your own patterns and response, remember that none of the categories re good or bad, right or wrong. They are simply different ways of managing anxiety"

PURSUERS
-react to anxiety by seeking greater togetherness in relationships.
-tend to pursue harder and then coldly withdraw when an important person seeks distance.
-feel rejected and take it personally when someone close to them wants more time and space alone.

DISTANCERS
-seek emotional distance or physical space when stress is high.
-have difficulty showing their needy, vulnerable and dependent sides.
-open up most freely when they are not pushed or pursued.

UNDERFUNCTIONERS
--become less competent under stress, thus inviting others to take over.
-tend to develop physical or emotional symptoms when stress is high in the family or work situation.
-have difficulty showing their strong, competent side.

OVERFUNCTIONERS
-know what's best not only for themselves but for others as well.
-move in quickly to advise, rescue, and take over when stress hits.
-have difficulty staying out and allowing others to struggle with their own problems.
-have difficulty expressing their on under functioning side.

BLAMERS
-respond to anxiety with emotional intensity and blaming
-have a short fuse
-expend high levels of energy trying to change someone who does not want to hange.
-seek others as the sole obstacle to making changes.

(More details in book,only selected a few points)

The Dance of Anger-A woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships.

By Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.