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16/02/2026

🚨 If You Do Not Build Secure Attachment Between 0–6 Years Old… Read This 🚨

I’m going to be direct.

If a child does not develop a secure and safe attachment in the first six years of life, the impact does not disappear.
It follows them.

Here is what is more likely to show up.

In childhood and adolescence
⚠️ Chronic anxiety
⚠️ Emotional dysregulation with big reactions or shutdowns
⚠️ Aggression or oppositional behaviour
⚠️ Constant reassurance seeking
⚠️ Difficulty trusting adults or authority
⚠️ Poor boundaries
⚠️ Ongoing friendship breakdowns
⚠️ School refusal or disengagement
⚠️ Risk taking behaviours

In adulthood
⚠️ Fear of abandonment
⚠️ Clingy or emotionally distant relationships
⚠️ Attraction to unhealthy or chaotic partners
⚠️ Difficulty expressing emotions
⚠️ People pleasing or emotional withdrawal
⚠️ Low self worth
⚠️ Poor anger regulation
⚠️ Substance misuse as a coping strategy
⚠️ Difficulty parenting their own children securely

Unresolved attachment becomes relationship dysfunction.

What is not healed in childhood gets repeated in adulthood.

Birth to six is when the nervous system wires around safety, trust and connection.
If safety is inconsistent, the brain adapts for survival instead of secure connection.

This is not about blame.
It is about awareness.

The early years shape the adult your child becomes.

16/02/2026

🚨 If You Do Not Build Secure Attachment Between 0–6 Years Old… Read This 🚨

I’m going to be direct.

If a child does not develop a secure and safe attachment in the first six years of life, the impact does not disappear.
It follows them.

Here is what is more likely to show up.

In childhood and adolescence
⚠️ Chronic anxiety
⚠️ Emotional dysregulation with big reactions or shutdowns
⚠️ Aggression or oppositional behaviour
⚠️ Constant reassurance seeking
⚠️ Difficulty trusting adults or authority
⚠️ Poor boundaries
⚠️ Ongoing friendship breakdowns
⚠️ School refusal or disengagement
⚠️ Risk taking behaviours

In adulthood
⚠️ Fear of abandonment
⚠️ Clingy or emotionally distant relationships
⚠️ Attraction to unhealthy or chaotic partners
⚠️ Difficulty expressing emotions
⚠️ People pleasing or emotional withdrawal
⚠️ Low self worth
⚠️ Poor anger regulation
⚠️ Substance misuse as a coping strategy
⚠️ Difficulty parenting their own children securely

Unresolved attachment becomes relationship dysfunction.

What is not healed in childhood gets repeated in adulthood.

Birth to six is when the nervous system wires around safety, trust and connection.
If safety is inconsistent, the brain adapts for survival instead of secure connection.

This is not about blame.
It is about awareness.

The early years shape the adult your child becomes.

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15/02/2026

🚨 Parents & Caregivers… This Is Important 🚨

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to be unpacking something that most families don’t realise until it’s too late.

What actually happens when we don’t understand:
🧠 Brain development
🧩 Attachment
⚡ Executive functioning
🎯 Behaviour and reinforcement
💬 Emotional regulation

I’ve been educating around this for years, not for content, not for clicks, but because I’ve seen the heartache that comes when parents don’t have the right knowledge early enough.

If you ignore this education, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.
It just means you’re parenting without a roadmap.

And without a roadmap, things can escalate:
❌ More conflict
❌ More emotional disconnection
❌ More behavioural challenges
❌ More stress in the home

But it doesn’t have to go that way.

These next few weeks posts, could genuinely save you years of frustration, confusion, and regret. 💭

Watch. Learn. Apply.
Your future self and your child, will thank you. ❤️

Make sure you’re following along and don’t miss what’s coming.

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13/02/2026

Masking in Autism 🎭🧠

Masking is when an autistic person hides or suppresses their natural behaviours to blend in socially 🤝

It can look like:
• Forcing eye contact 👀
• Copying peers’ tone, jokes or body language 🪞
• Rehearsing conversations in their head 🗣️💭
• Suppressing stimming ✋
• Pretending to understand confusing social rules 🤯

From the outside they may look “fine” or “coping.”
On the inside they’re working overtime ⚡

Masking is exhausting 😮‍💨
It increases anxiety 😰
And over time it can lead to burnout or shutdown 📴

Many children mask all day at school 🏫
Then melt down at home 🏠

That’s not bad behaviour.
That’s a nervous system that has been under pressure all day 🚨

Look out for:
• Extreme fatigue after social settings 💤
• Irritability in safe spaces
• Anxiety before school or events
• Perfectionism and fear of getting it wrong 📚

Our job isn’t to teach better masking.
It’s to create safety, predictability and acceptance so masking isn’t needed 💙

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11/02/2026

🧠❤️ ATTACHMENT BETWEEN 0–6 YEARS SHAPES EVERYTHING ❤️🧠

If you have a child between newborn and six… this stage matters more than you realise. 👶👧

Attachment theory shows us how your child bonds with you — and that bond wires their brain for life.

Between 0–6 years your child’s brain is asking one core question:

“Am I safe?”

Safe emotionally.
Safe in connection.
Safe with you. 🤍

When you are responsive, predictable and emotionally available, your child develops secure attachment. 🔐

Secure attachment builds:
✔ Emotional regulation
✔ Confidence
✔ Healthy relationships
✔ Strong self-esteem
✔ Resilience later in life

This is not about being perfect.
It’s about repair. 🔁

When there is rupture — reconnect.
When they’re overwhelmed — regulate first, correct later.

Connection before correction. Always. ❤️

These early years don’t just pass…
They program.

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10/02/2026

Autism & executive functioning 🧠✨🔍
This is one of the most misunderstood parts of autism, yet it explains so much of what people see day to day 👀

Executive functioning is the brain’s management system 🧠⚙️
It’s the set of skills that helps us plan, start tasks, stay organised, shift between activities, regulate emotions, remember instructions, manage time ⏰, and pause impulses ✋

For many autistic people, executive functioning works differently 🌱
This doesn’t mean a lack of intelligence, motivation, or effort. It means the brain processes, prioritises, and initiates tasks in a different way.

What this can look like in real life 👇
• knowing what needs to be done but feeling “stuck” 🧊
• becoming overwhelmed by too many steps or choices 😵‍💫
• difficulty switching tasks or stopping an activity 🔄
• forgetting instructions that were just given ❓
• big emotional reactions when plans change 🌊
• appearing unmotivated when the brain is actually overloaded ⚠️

This is why telling an autistic person to “just try harder”, “be more organised”, or “calm down” often makes things worse 🚫
Their nervous system and executive system are already working overtime 🔥

What actually helps 💛
• clear structure and routines 🧱
• breaking tasks into small, concrete steps 🧩
• visual supports and reminders 🖼️
• predictable environments 🏡
• co-regulation before self-regulation 🤝
• compassion instead of pressure 🌱

When we understand executive functioning, we stop seeing behaviour as defiance or laziness — and start seeing it as communication and brain-based need 🧠❤️

Understanding changes everything ✨

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09/02/2026

🚨🧠⚠️ THE BIGGEST BEHAVIOUR MISTAKE WE MAKE WITH KIDS ⚠️🧠🚨

One of the biggest mistakes we make with children is focusing on their bad behaviour ❌

We watch it 👀
We talk about it 🗣️
We react to it 😤
We punish it 🚫

And then we wonder why nothing changes 🤷‍♂️

Children do not grow through constant correction — they grow through connection 🤝💛

✨ Positive reinforcement of good behaviour works hundreds of times more effectively than focusing only on the negative ✨

Think about it 👇
If you were constantly called into your boss’s office only when you messed up 😟
Would you walk out motivated to work harder? 😒

Now imagine being called in to be praised 🙌
Recognised 🏆
And told you’re doing a great job 👏

You’d walk out fired up 🔥
Motivated 💪
And wanting to do even better 🚀

Children are no different 🧠💡

When we double down on:
🌱 noticing effort
🌟 praising regulation
✅ reinforcing positive choices
👀 catching them doing the right thing

Behaviour changes faster ⚡
Relationships strengthen 💞
And kids feel safe, seen, and capable 🛡️

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09/02/2026

Pretty accurate!

08/02/2026

As an adult with ADHD 🧠, the number one sentence that has genuinely changed how I function day to day is this:

“Slower is faster.” ⏳➡️⚡

ADHD wiring pushes us to rush 🏃‍♂️💨
Rush the morning ⏰
Rush decisions 🤯
Rush conversations 🗣️
Rush tasks 📋

And when I rush… I forget things ❌
Miss details 🔍
Make mistakes 😤
Get overwhelmed 🌪️
Then have to go back and fix it all 🔁

Slowing down feels uncomfortable at first 😬
It feels wrong ❓
It feels like you’re falling behind 📉

But the reality is this 👇
When I slow down 🧘‍♂️
I’m calmer 😌
More regulated 🧠
More present 👀
I make better decisions 🎯
I finish things properly the first time ✅

Slower isn’t lazy 🚫
Slower isn’t weak 🚫
Slower is intentional 💡

If you live with ADHD and feel like you’re always “behind” or “rushing to catch up” 🫠
This is your reminder 🛎️
You don’t need to move faster ❌
You need to move steadier 🧭

Slower really is faster 🐢✨

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04/02/2026

If we can take the emotion out of how we talk about children’s behaviour and development, everything becomes clearer. 🧠✨

Children’s behaviour is not random.
There is strong, evidence-based science behind how a child’s brain develops, how their nervous system responds to stress, and how regulation, attachment and learning actually work.

When you understand a child’s neurology and brain development, you stop asking,
“What’s wrong with my child?”
and start asking,
“What is their brain telling me right now?” 👂🧩

Learning the science behind behaviour removes blame, guilt and guesswork from parenting.
It gives you practical tools, not opinions.
It replaces emotional reactions with informed, calm and consistent responses. 🧠➡️❤️

When parents are taught how the brain works, how regulation develops and how behaviour is shaped by development and environment, it genuinely changes family life.
Not just short-term behaviour… but long-term emotional health, relationships and independence for your child. 🌱

This is why parent education matters.
Because understanding your child’s brain changes the way you raise them. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🧠

03/02/2026

We are handed the most important job in the world…
and given no training for it. 🤯

When we become parents, no one teaches us about:

🧠 how a child’s brain actually develops
📚 Piaget’s stages of childhood development
🗣️ theory of mind and when it emerges
🧩 when children move into concrete thinking
⚙️ executive functioning (emotional control, planning, impulse control)
💥 how stress, trauma, and environment shape behaviour

Most parents are doing their absolute best —
but they’re doing it blind.

Here’s the part that should stop us all for a moment 👇

🚗 You need a licence to drive a car.
👶 But raising a human being — shaping their nervous system, emotional regulation, identity, and mental health — requires nothing.

No education.
No preparation.
No coaching.

If you’re a parent of a young child,
if you’re thinking about having children,
or if you’re currently pregnant 🤍

please hear this:

✨ Get support.
✨ Get coaching.
✨ Learn how the brain and behaviour actually work.

Because prevention is everything.
What you understand early can save your child years of anxiety, emotional pain, and mental health struggles later in life.

Trust me — I know this more than most.

Strong kids don’t happen by accident.
They are raised by informed, supported parents.

💬 Reach out. Learn. Invest in yourself — for them.

21/01/2026

🧠💥 THE ONE THING YOU MUST UNDERSTAND WHEN SUPPORTING AUTISM 💥🧠

If you are a parent of a child with autism 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
If you work with autistic clients 🤝
If you are studying disability, community services, psychology, or education 📚

There is ONE concept I will always say is non-negotiable to truly understand 👇

🧠 THEORY OF MIND 🧠

Theory of Mind is the ability to understand that other people have different thoughts, feelings, intentions, perspectives, and knowledge to your own 🤯
For many individuals with autism, this does not come naturally — and that is not a character flaw ❌
It is a neurological difference 🧠✨

When we don’t understand Theory of Mind, we mislabel behaviour 🚨
We call it defiance 😤
Manipulation 🧩
Rudeness 🗣️
Lack of empathy 💔
Or “they should know better” 🙄

When you do understand Theory of Mind, everything shifts 🔄

💡 They may not know how their words land
💡 They may not understand how their behaviour impacts others
💡 They may not be able to predict outcomes the way we do
💡 They may not even realise that you don’t know what they know

This is why punishment fails 🚫
This is why “just talk it through” often goes nowhere in the moment 🛑
This is why neurotypical expectations lead to distress, shutdowns, and escalation 😔➡️💥

When you truly get Theory of Mind, you stop asking
❓ “Why are they doing this?”

And you start asking
✅ “What information are they missing right now?”

That single shift changes EVERYTHING 💥
👨‍👩‍👧 Parenting
🤝 Supporting
🏫 Teaching
🧘 Responding under pressure

If you work in this space and haven’t deeply studied Theory of Mind yet — start here ⬇️
It will make you calmer 🧘
More effective 🎯
More compassionate ❤️

And most importantly…
It helps the person you support feel understood 🫶

🧠💙♾️

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