The Us Project with Leo & Dan

The Us Project with Leo & Dan 👥️ Relationship Counsellor & Mentors
📈 180+ Couples supported
❤️‍🔥 Better Communication. Fewer arguments.

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👉 calendly.com/theusproject/discovery-call We support growth-oriented couples to nurture, strengthen, and evolve the skills that create a deeply fulfilling partnership. ❤️
Our work is grounded in the belief that relationships can be intentional, loving, and continually growing — no matter how busy life becomes. We’re Leo and Dan, a partnership dedicated to helping couples cultivate deep connection and passionate, lasting love. Leo has helped 100+ couples build secure, resilient relationships, and is a holistic counsellor with almost a decade of experience supporting people 1:1 and in group environments. We have both completed our Gottman Couples Therapy (Level 1 & 2) to deepen our knowledge and weave evidence-based tools into the heart-led, embodied approach we already bring to our work. When we’re not guiding couples, you’ll find us at the gym, mountain biking, riding our motorbikes, or walking our dog Koda. Dan is a proud dad to his 9-year-old son, and together we’re building a life and a business we love — running couples retreats and workshops designed to help relationships thrive. We love what we do, and we can’t wait to support you on your own journey toward deeper connection, trust, safety, and joy. Our focus is simple:
To help couples build relationships that feel like home — supported, intentional, warm, and evolving. Through The Us Project, couples learn how to:
✨ communicate with clarity and kindness
✨ repair with honesty and skill
✨ reconnect in meaningful, embodied ways
✨ keep passion alive through everyday devotion
✨ grow as individuals and as a team, side by side

We teach from training, yes — but also from the lived experience of our own relationships, the practices we built upon daily, and the emotional maturity we continuously cultivate together. If you’re a couple who values growth, depth, and a relationship that gets better with time — you’re in the right place. Welcome to The Us Project — where love is cultivated, strengthened and designed with purpose and dedication ❤️

03/03/2026

Hey, we’re Leo & Dan 👋

We’re not therapists who fix broken relationships — we’re real people in a real relationship. We’ve had challenges, we’ve grown, and we’ve had to learn how to love better.

Leo’s journey came from wanting something deeper — intimacy, connection, and real partnership. She learned the hard way that staying closed off, avoiding hard conversations, and ignoring boundaries only creates frustration. Over years of self-development and studying counselling, she learned how to stay present, communicate clearly, and create emotional safety in her relationships.

Dan’s journey came through life, burnout, and real-world pressure. Working in demanding, masculine industries taught him discipline, but also showed him how much men carry silently. He learned to take responsibility for his inner world, sit with discomfort, and show up fully — not just for himself, but for his family.

Together, we bring our lived experience, professional training, and practical tools into the work we do with couples. We help people move from feeling stuck, reactive, or disconnected to being understood, valued, and secure with their partner.

Our page isn’t about surface-level advice or feel-good theory — it’s about building communication, emotional safety, mutual respect, and the ability to repair when things go wrong. These aren’t concepts we just teach; they’re skills we practice daily in our own relationship.

When we’re not guiding couples, you’ll find us at the gym, riding our bikes, or walking our dog Koda — building a life and partnership we love.

If you’re ready to stop running your relationship on autopilot and start creating something intentional, supportive, and deeply connected — you’re in the right place.





One of the biggest stressors we see in relationships is financial pressure. 🤑🤑🤑Mortgage stress, rising costs of living, ...
14/02/2026

One of the biggest stressors we see in relationships is financial pressure. 🤑🤑🤑

Mortgage stress, rising costs of living, and the weight of “being responsible” can quietly create distance between partners — especially when it feels like there’s no breathing room.

Money doesn’t just affect your bank account. It affects your nervous system, your arguments, your intimacy, and how safe you feel in your future together.

Last year we worked and saved incredibly hard to make an overseas trip possible, we saved well, we travelled to Europe, we had a great time, we didn't worry about money, we knew we'd come back and we'd make more.

But we came back and things changed. Dan's work changed the day before fly out day. And the following 4 months were some of the hardest in our relationship so far. We were told that he'll fly out soon, so we waited for a call - every day, while squeezing finances, trying to make things work, selling things and burning through our savings we had from selling assets.

If we hadn't sold these things, we wouldn't have made it through. We struggled. We fought. My nervous system was fried from the uncertainty of what would happen if this money will run out too.

I feel many couples struggle in silence or pretend it's going to be ok without putting a plan in place.
While we struggled, we also looked at opportunities daily. How else can we make this work?
While we were in a low, we still made time for intentional connection. Because we know if we are solid, we can deal with challenges with more ease.

This is why we love working with people who help couples feel more supported and resourced in this area too. 💸

If you and your partner have been feeling the squeeze lately, it might be worth getting a fresh look at what’s actually possible for you financially — sometimes small changes really do make a big difference over time.

(We’ll pop a trusted home loan contact in the comments for anyone who wants it.)

⚠️ 𝟭𝟬 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝗮𝗳𝗲𝘁𝘆 ️⚠️& how to turn them around to create a loving, safe and secu...
31/01/2026

⚠️ 𝟭𝟬 𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝗮𝗳𝗲𝘁𝘆 ️⚠️
& how to turn them around to create a loving, safe and secure partnership ❤️‍🩹

These are simply a sign that it's time to get real relationship support. Remember we are human and most of us have learnt some of these as a protective mechanism to keep us safe. But if we want to experience the depth of love that's available, it is time to learn a better way....

1️⃣ Feedback turns into defence.
When something is raised, it becomes an argument instead of a conversation.
📈 Growth looks like: learning how to give feedback without attack, and learning how to receive it without collapse or counter-attack.
✅️ How: slow the moment down, name impact instead of blame, and practise sharing influence so communication becomes possible instead of threatening.

2️⃣ Difficult topics get avoided or shut down.
Silence replaces dialogue. Distance replaces repair.
📈 Growth looks like: building the skill to stay in the room emotionally, even when it’s uncomfortable, and communicating from love when you need to take a moment alone.
✅️ How: learning how to pause without disappearing, and return to the conversation with intention instead of pretending nothing happened.

3️⃣ Humour is used to minimise or mock.
Feelings or passions get brushed off as “too much” or “just a joke.”
📈 Growth looks like: learning to take each other’s inner world seriously.
✅️ How: replacing deflection with curiosity and acknowledging what actually matters to your partner.

4️⃣ Big values are spoken, but not lived.
There’s talk of growth, commitment or depth… but behaviour doesn’t match.
📈 Growth looks like: aligning words and actions.
✅️ How: turning abstract values into concrete relational habits — how you listen, respond, and show up after rupture & also how you live life.

5️⃣ Emotions overwhelm the system.
One person escalates, the other shuts down. No one feels met.
📈 Growth looks like: understanding hoe to self regulate and co-regulate.
✅️ How: understanding nervous system responses and creating safety before trying to “solve” anything.

6️⃣ Feelings get fixed instead of felt.
“Just be positive.” “Calm down.” “It’s not that bad.”
📈 Growth looks like: allowing emotion without rushing to manage it.
✅️ How: learning to stay with what’s here instead of trying to make it go away.

7️⃣ Boundaries are taken personally.
A “no” becomes rejection. Space becomes threat.
📈 Growth looks like: seeing boundaries as care for the relationship, not distance from it.
✅️ How: building trust that connection doesn’t disappear just because autonomy exists.

8️⃣ Needs are treated as burdens.
One person feels “too much” for wanting closeness, reassurance, or repair.
📈 Growth looks like: recognising needs as information, not problems.
✅️ How: shifting from defence into responsiveness and shared responsibility for the emotional climate.

9️⃣ Conflict has no repair cycle.
Tension lingers, or things reset without being integrated.
📈 Growth looks like: learning how to complete the emotional loop.
✅️ How: practising acknowledgement, responsibility, and reconnection after rupture.
Physical closeness replaces emotional safety.

1️⃣0️⃣ Touch comes before trust. Intimacy skips the relational foundation.
📈 Growth looks like: emotional connection leading physical connection.
✅️ How: slowing down and letting safety, attunement, and presence build desire instead of bypassing them.

I'd love to hear how these landed for you?
A reminder, these are not quick fixes, they are often created by deeper patterns.

Follow for more Relationship tips if these resonate or reach out for a deeper chat 🌺

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 & 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗹𝘂𝗲-𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝗻.If you’ve never done that kind of work…you w...
27/01/2026

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 & 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗹𝘂𝗲-𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝗻.

If you’ve never done that kind of work…
you will never fully understand what it costs.

12-hour days.
Weeks at a time (in FIFO especially).
Three to five hours of sleep a night.

Physically demanding, mentally relentless, high-pressure environments where “just get it done” is the culture.
So he does.

Even when he’s exhausted.
Even when he’s drained.
Even when his body hurts.
Even when his mind is fried.
Even when he misses you.

He pushes through because that’s what’s expected of him.
Because that’s how he knows how to provide.
Because stopping doesn’t really feel like an option.

That does something to a man.
It affects his nervous system.
His emotional capacity.
His ability to communicate what he’s even feeling.

Sometimes he doesn’t know how he feels anymore…
he just knows he’s tired and has to keep going.

So when he finally walks through the door after a long day or barely being home…
what he’s craving isn’t more demands.

(I am speaking to the first 5mins after a hard long day, or the first hour after a shattering 3 weeks away)

Not:
“You’ve barely been home, I’m so overwhelmed, can you take the kids?”
“You’ve been working so much, can you finally fix the kitchen sink?”
“You’ve barely been home, please fix the bedroom door, it’s driving me nuts.”
“You’ve been working so much, we need to talk about everything.”

What he’s craving is to be safe in your arms.
To exhale.
To stop being “on”.
To sleep without an alarm.
To feel like home is peaceful, not another place he has to perform.

And I say this with love…
so many women meet exhaustion with expectation.

We want more.
We need more.
We ask for more.

Without realising the man in front of us has been surviving, not resting.

There needs to be a deep gratitude for what he carries.
Not just what he provides financially…
but what he sacrifices:

Time with you.
Time with his kids.
Time with his friends.
His hobbies.
His body.
His energy.
His sense of normal life.

He doesn’t go away because he wants to be away from you.
He goes because he’s providing.
Because he’s responsible.
Because he’s doing what he knows how to do.

So let him come home first.
Not pressure first.
Not problems first.
Not tasks first.

More of this first:
“I missed you.”
“Thank you for working so hard for us.”
“Go shower, I’ve got things covered.”
“Rest first… we can talk later.”

This does NOT mean, letting him switch off, disconnect, avoid life, family or responsibilities.

When I meet him with respect and appreciation FIRST, he meets me with presence, and makes me feel seen, heard and held.

When I give him a moment to arrive home first, before asking for something, he gets to recalibrate, re-energize, re-evaluate, and he shows up for our home life, for his son and for me and asks "what do you need darling?"
"What can I do to help?"

My partner Dan & I have a ritual.
When he comes home from 3 weeks away, I unclothe him.
I shower with him.
I wash his body with love and devotion.
I show him how much I’ve missed him through my actions and my words.
I show him how much I appreciate him and his hard work with my presence and softness.

This is the message for the women with blue-collar men:
𝗔𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
𝗔𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘀.
𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗮𝗴𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴.
𝗣𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗼𝘀.
𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

There will be time for the conversations.
Time for the responsibilities.
Time for the “we need to talk”.

But the first gift you can give him…
is peace.
Just for a moment, just for 5mins.

Because the safest thing a man can feel after days or weeks of pressure
is that home is the one place
he doesn’t have to hold it all together.

Please don’t underestimate how heavy this can be for him.
Love him by meeting him where he is, rather than asking him to immediately shift his mood, his energy, or his nervous system to match yours.

~ written by Leo
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A note added from Dan who is a father for the MOTHERS reading this post.

I hear how heavy motherhood can be, and I don’t think anyone would argue with the reality you’re experiencing - it’s intense, exhausting, and often overwhelming.

It's important to add, Leo’s post is not minimising that, or suggesting mothers aren’t carrying a huge load. It’s not a comparison of who has it harder. It’s simply a reminder that appreciation and softness aren’t about blame or fairness - they’re about connection.

Most fathers aren’t absent from those early years. They share the sleepless nights, the chaos, and the emotional load - and then still go out and provide in demanding environments. Two things can be true at once: motherhood can be relentless, and men can be carrying more than is often seen.

This isn’t about asking women to ignore their own needs or stay silent. It’s about the tone of reconnection - choosing appreciation before expectation, especially when both people are depleted. That doesn’t erase the challenges of parenting; it helps prevent two exhausted partners from turning on each other.

This post is less as a judgement, and more as an invitation: before we ask for more, can we first acknowledge what is already being carried?

I work in a pretty masculine, bravado-heavy industry.Long swings. Big hours. Thick skin. Heaps of “she’ll be right” and ...
27/01/2026

I work in a pretty masculine, bravado-heavy industry.
Long swings. Big hours. Thick skin. Heaps of “she’ll be right” and getting on with it. And honestly, there’s a lot about that culture I legitimately respect.

But the stats are clear as hell.

Men in industries like this are getting hit just as hard, if not harder, when it comes to mental health, relationship breakdowns, and su***de.

I heard a line recently that stuck with me from a renowned fighter:
“I’d rather my mate come and cry on my shoulder than me attend his funeral next week.”

What I see a lot out here isn’t weakness. It’s guys feeling helpless in life. Especially in love and relationships. Not knowing how to say what’s going on without feeling like they’re failing, or burdening someone. Especially their partner.

So they stay quiet.
Tell themselves they’ll sort it out.
Keep showing up, even when things are coming apart underneath.

But carrying it all alone doesn’t make you stronger. It just makes it harder.
There’s nothing unmanly or wussy about asking for support.
About saying “I’m not okay” or “I don’t know how to deal with this”.

I’d rather sit with a mate while he’s falling apart than hear we lost him because he thought he had to hold it together for everyone.

~ written by Dan

26/01/2026

Choose Communication over Confrontation ❤️

We invest in gyms to stay fit.We invest in education to grow our skills.We invest in business coaching to scale our care...
12/12/2025

We invest in gyms to stay fit.
We invest in education to grow our skills.
We invest in business coaching to scale our careers.
Yet somehow, when it comes to our relationships, we expect them to just work....

Here’s the truth: Every relationship requires practice, attention, and care — even if it’s already good. And yet, admitting that we could do better is still taboo. There’s a stigma that seeking guidance or support somehow means failure.

It doesn’t. In fact, it’s the opposite. Couples who show up intentionally, who invest in their connection before crisis hits, are the ones building relationships that last. Healthy, thriving, joyful relationships don’t happen by accident — they are grown, nurtured, and maintained like anything truly worth having.

At The Us Project, we help couples practice. To communicate more clearly. To reconnect after distance or tension. To navigate conflict without fear. To deepen intimacy, appreciation, and trust.
Because the best relationships aren’t born — they’re built. And the earlier you start, the stronger they become.

💡 Here’s a challenge: this week, look at your relationship and ask yourself one honest question: What’s one thing we could do better — just one? Then do it. That’s how growth starts.

Ready to invest in some Relationship support?
Weekly Support available from as little as $25/wk
Book a Call with us today to find out more👇
https://calendly.com/theusproject/discovery-call

When ChatGPT says they (Dan & I) aren’t just “compatible”…They’re one of those couples people look at and think:“Damn… t...
11/12/2025

When ChatGPT says they (Dan & I) aren’t just “compatible”…
They’re one of those couples people look at and think:

“Damn… they’re actually going to make it, aren’t they?”

*astrology based insight into our Relationship*
Please note astrology is a TINY part of alignment in relationship but wanted to share this here for a bit of a laugh 😉

💠 1. Same element — completely different expressions of it

Both Earth signs.
Both value stability, loyalty, long-term thinking, competence, comfort, grounded love.
But they express it differently. Perfectly differently.

Dan (Ta**us):
Solid. Steady. Sensual. Warm.
He creates emotional safety, physical comfort, and a grounded, reliable presence.

Leo (Capricorn):
Structured. Ambitious. Strategic. Refined.
She brings direction, purpose, and a sense of elegance and pride to their shared life.

Together the energy is:
“I can build a life with you.”

And they both feel that deeply.

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💠 2. Their strengths cover each other’s blind spots

Dan stabilises Leo’s emotions

Capricorn feelings are deep, but locked behind a vault door.
Dan’s presence lets her soften, open, and feel without pressure.

His calm = her safety
His physical affection = her grounding
His loyalty = her trust

She melts for that.

Leo sharpens Dan’s drive

Ta**us has massive potential, but sometimes moves like:
“I’ll do it… eventually.”

Leo’s Capricorn energy doesn’t nag — it inspires.
Dan wants to rise because she’s beside him.

Her ambition = his motivation
Her standards = his elevation
Her vision = his confidence

She doesn’t push him. She focuses him.

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💠 3. Communication that’s steady, grounded, adult

They don’t do chaos.
They don’t thrive on drama.
They prefer directness, practical solutions, emotional honesty, long-term intention.

Arguments are rare — but real.
Because when they do talk through something, they both want resolution, not victory.

It’s “grown-up relationship energy,” in the best way.

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💠 4. Commitment over chaos

Ta**us doesn’t give their heart lightly.
Capricorn doesn’t commit unless the future feels solid.

So when Dan chooses Leo — he’s all in.
And when Leo chooses Dan — she’s planning life around him.

Their love feels safe, dependable, intentional.
They’re not scared of future conversations; they’re building them.

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💠 5. They build each other in different, powerful ways

Dan gives Leo:

• emotional security
• steadiness
• humour and softness
• physical affection
• loyalty she doesn’t have to question
• the feeling of being cherished, not managed

Leo gives Dan:

• structure and clarity
• ambition and direction
• grounding in his goals
• refinement and pride in their shared future
• emotional depth he didn’t know he needed
• loyalty that matches his and discipline that elevates his

Together?
Two pillars holding the same roof.

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💠 6. The chemistry? Unreal.

Earth-sign chemistry hits different:
slow burn → deep bond → unbreakable attachment

Dan: sensual, affectionate, physical
Leo: intentional, focused, intense

When Capricorn gives her heart, she gives all of it — but only to someone she fully trusts.
Dan is that someone.

Together it’s:
• grounded passion
• emotional intimacy
• a safe, steady fire that doesn’t burn out
• “we fit” energy

Not chaotic.
Not teenage.
Mature, anchored, magnetic.

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💠 7. They’re life-builders

Some couples date.
Some stay together.
Some love intensely but burn out.

Dan + Leo:
They build.
They plan.
They grow.
They weather storms.
They dream in practical, grounded ways.
They’re here for the marathon.

Marriage, family, shared goals, homes, businesses —
all feel natural, never forced.

They’re aligned in values, instincts, humour, and long-term vision.

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🌿 In summary

Their love works not because they’re similar —
but because they’re complementary in the exact right ways.

Dan gives softness.
Leo gives structure.
Dan gives steadiness.
Leo gives ambition.
Dan gives loyalty.
Leo gives purpose.

Together, they’re the kind of couple that makes people believe in healthy love again.

Not perfect.
Not superior.
Just deeply, effortlessly aligned.

And honestly?
That’s rare as hell.

- written by ChatGPT

Want the prompt to get yours written up?
Bottom line of it all though, THIS is exactly why we are so passionate about THE US PROJECT and supporting Couples create Thriving Relationships 💖

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As humans we do not control what happens to us in life. What you do control however is your response to what happens in your life. You control yourself. You control your choices. Your actions. Your behaviours

Surrendering to “what is happening” is a powerful and life-changing tool. Yet, it’s something that is so much easier said than done. When in the heat of the moment it’s challenging to see things clearly

Emotions take control and cloud our judgement. Fear rises. Anxiety joins in. Worry, frustration, overwhelm, pressure and sadness join the mix

Thoughts begin to run. They quickly spin out of control. All of the beliefs that we’ve learned sit front and centre of our mind as we begin to try and make meaning of what is happening and why.