15/01/2026
The other day my sister messaged me to let me know she’d completed her will.
In short:
If mum and dad are still alive when she passes, they inherit everything.
If they’ve already passed, everything goes to me and Isabel.
In all honesty, it triggered me, and not in a rational way.
At first, I felt angry.
Judgemental.
Resentful.
Thoughts like:
“Why would you leave everything to our parents?”
“How does that make sense?”
That evening, after an invitation from Tim to zoom out and feel into what was really being touched, I lay in bed and chose not to stay in the story. I opened myself to what was underneath the anger.
What surfaced was something very different:
deep sadness,
heaviness,
a quiet sense of rejection.
As I stayed present, a childhood memory emerged.
When I expressed anger as a child, my father would lock me in my bedroom with a mop against the door. Outside stood my mother, father, and sister.
I remember raging, begging to be let out, while they walked away, saying I could come out once I’d calmed down.
Tapping into the agony of my inner child was intense - being left alone with emotions far too big for a child to hold (especially with secretive abuse happening at the time
In that moment, I could see clearly:
this trigger wasn’t about my sister.
It was scratching an old scar of feeling rejected, left out, unsupported, and treated differently. A wound tied to not belonging, unworthiness, and being alone with big feelings.
This awareness created a profound shift. I was able to release more of the blocked emotion I’d been carrying from that time.
Yesterday, I lay in bed sobbing, holding space for myself to feel and release.
This is re-parenting.
In that moment, I became the parent I needed - offering safety, presence, and permission to feel.
It was also a meeting of my inner child (the sadness) and my protective part (the anger), the part that came online to keep her safe.
These realisations change everything.
Inner child healing has been a pivotal part of my journey, with deeply positive, life-changing effects on my life, my relationships, and my daughter’s life.
Sometimes our reactions are messengers, not problems 🙏🏼