Ellygurx Counselling

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30/03/2026

Most of your relationship conflict comes from this. because you’re seeing the same relationship through completely different lenses.

So one person reaches in, while the other pulls away.

One experiences disconnection.
The other experiences pressure.

Same moment. Different reality.

And this is where the cycle begins.

Can you relate?

Modern dating isn’t failing because people don’t want love. It’s failing because people don’t have the capacity, skills,...
26/03/2026

Modern dating isn’t failing because people don’t want love. It’s failing because people don’t have the capacity, skills, or courage to sustain it.

Can you relate?

24/03/2026

Can men and women be friends? Are finances getting the way of us dating?

22/03/2026

Inconsistency creates obsession.

When someone is hot and cold, your brain keeps trying to “solve” them. It becomes a loop of “what did I do wrong?” or “how do I get them back?”.

You’re struggling because your system is trying to close an unfinished loop.

What emotional experience are you still hoping to get from them? (even subconsciously) so you can finally feel okay?

Because usually it’s one of these:
Validation → I was enough
Reassurance → It was real
Safety/consistency → I’m chosen and secure
Closure → This makes sense now
Repair of rejection → He comes back and chooses me properly.

Can you relate?

18/03/2026

Are finances getting the way of us dating?

Replying quickly, showing interest, and wanting to spend time together aren’t unattractive. What is unattractive is tole...
16/03/2026

Replying quickly, showing interest, and wanting to spend time together aren’t unattractive. What is unattractive is tolerating inconsistency, over-accommodating, or shrinking your needs just to maintain the connection.

Healthy attraction comes from being warm and interested while still respecting your own boundaries.

Can you relate?

11/03/2026

What do you think?

I hear and read about this often. When someone feels they must care less to keep power, it usually means that vulnerabil...
09/03/2026

I hear and read about this often.

When someone feels they must care less to keep power, it usually means that vulnerability has been punished before and closeness has led to loss of control.

It may signal not to be emotionally disengaged in order to maintain “control” over your vulnerability. It might mean to have stronger boundaries and standards for when someone isn’t reciprocal in their efforts towards you.

Because the real power isn’t you adjusting yourself to make someone else feel comfortable. It’s you being yourself AND removing yourself when you are not truly met.

Can you relate?

09/03/2026

What do you think about this?

You can explain your feelings.You can communicate your needs.You can give insight.But if someone’s behaviour still works...
05/03/2026

You can explain your feelings.
You can communicate your needs.
You can give insight.

But if someone’s behaviour still works for them, there is no reason for them to change.

That’s why boundaries matter.

Not because they force someone to change, but because they change the conditions around the behaviour.

Can you relate?

When someone is emotionally unavailable, they signal “limited access” which triggers our brain to assign higher value to...
04/03/2026

When someone is emotionally unavailable, they signal “limited access” which triggers our brain to assign higher value to them.

This is why people who reject us can feel “rare” or “special” even if they’re not emotionally capable.

We unconsciously assume that if someone we desire rejects us, it must mean they’re better in some way.This is actually a reflection of our own self-worth anxiety.

Can you relate?

Unconditional love is for children and animals. Adult love is conditional on respect, effort, reciprocity, emotional saf...
03/03/2026

Unconditional love is for children and animals. Adult love is conditional on respect, effort, reciprocity, emotional safety.

When you shrink your needs to keep someone, you are accepting imbalance.

If someone can only stay when you’re easy, quiet, undemanding..They want comfort of access without responsibility.

Stop allowing people to determine the level of closeness you’re allowed to receive.

Can you relate?

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A lil about me

Hello lovelies, I'm Elle.

I am an accredited therapist with lived experience (anxiety).

I am passionate about empowering people to live fulfilling lives by equipping them with the certain skills to overcome the obstacles they face and enabling clients to realise their own strengths and value in sessions, so they can feel confident to tackle life’s problems head on.

Your feelings are valid, your experiences matter. You are more than what you are going through, your are magic.