A Dad's Midlife

16/11/2022

20/10/2022

It's too late!!

How many times have your told yourself this? I know this thought has gone through my head more than once.

BUT it's possible to make the career or job shift.

The positivity in this account is wonderful. What's even better is the thought that there are employers out there who can see beyond a lack of direct experience.

Too often people in their 40's and beyond are 'pigeon-holed' into a career. Lazy management who can't see the possibilities if they applied a little effort to training.

People in their midlife years (and beyond) have so much to offer. Attitude on both sides is everything.

How I achieved a midlife career change despite lacking experience for the job.

11/10/2022

🔥🔥🔥 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠?

I met with the owner of a small building company this morning. He builds around 75-100 homes per year.

Growth has been out of control.

He expects to build double that in the next couple of years.

He's a young guy in his late 20's.

He and his wife live and breathe the business.

The bigger the business gets the more stress he lives with. He told me that his business was more profitable when he built 10 homes a year.

We talked about making a decision to keep the business small and valuing quality of life.

While he agreed, he said that he can't stop growing as business is in his blood.

I wonder where he goes in his 40s & 50s? Does he continue to live with the stress of an ever-growing business?

Does he grow the business but step aside from the day to day running of it?

While he said he has enough money even in his 20s to last the rest of his life, he's driven.

AND there's nothing wrong with that either.

Perspectives change as you get older, but sometimes the desires that drive us are more powerful.

What I do know is that we can't take money, power, prestige etc with us.

What's the legacy you want to leave?

04/03/2022

Reminded again this morning as to how precious life is. We are not owed even 1 more day.

Make the most of the precious gift we've all been given....LIFE.

There is no-one just like you. The world needs your unique gifts and talents.

RIP Shane Warne

Australians have woken in shock and sadness to the awful news of the death of Shane Warne, aged just 52.

Shane was one of our greatest cricketers of all time, one of only a few that could approach the extraordinary achievements of the great Don Bradman.

His achievements were the product of his talent, his discipline and passion for the game he loved.

But Shane was more than this to Australians. Shane was one of our nation’s greatest characters.

His humour, his passion, his irreverence, his approachability ensured he was loved by all.

Australians loved him. We all did.

We are all bewildered today by this sad and sudden loss.

And for this to happen the day after losing the indomitable Rod Marsh, it doesn’t seem imaginable.

There was none like Shane. He lived his life his way. He had his great achievements, but also his regrets. He carried them all the same way. With a cheeky smile and a zest for life.

Our love and condolences go to Shane’s family and particularly his children Brooke, Jackson, and Summer.

28/02/2022

Does this speak to you?

Its often difficult to escape the negative experiences of the past that can feel like an 'anchor' in your midlife years.

Make sure that you're taking steps, no matter how small, to free yourself of what's holding you back.

25/12/2021

Wishing you all a very Happy Christmas & wonderful, safe New Year.

Its been a tough year for many. For those of you who for whatever reason can't catch up with loved ones this Christmas, thinking of you especially at this time.

Thankyou for being a part of my life in 2021. Looking forward to sharing the midlife journey with you in 2022.

If you'd like to join the Facebook Group to connect with other Dads going through midlife, please request to join via https://www.facebook.com/groups/4201233769969646

Steve

26/11/2021

Finding life balance 😎

16/10/2021

A Yorkshire/UK daddy blogger blogging about his experience of living with two kids under three, his love for golf, diy and life.

13/10/2021

Men have lost the 'art' of fostering close friendships with other men!!

Who would you call at 2am who lives within a few blocks of you if disaster struck and you needed help?

I suspect the majority of you reading this will have no-one other than family members would could assist.

Men are in the midst of a loneliness pandemic and its killing us. Research suggests that loneliness has a greater impact on mortality than obesity, yet we do very little about it.

This article by Steve Calechman in Fatherly is important in the sense that it begins to provide some insights in the simple things we can do to create and foster friendships.

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/how-to-become-closer-friends/

Want to turn those casual dad friends into something more? Great. This is what it'll take.

13/10/2021

Comparison is the quickest way to destroy attracting happiness and joy into your life. As midlife Dads we often compare ourselves to the others 'positive news reels' we see on social media. Here are 5 tips to get your life back on track and avoid the 'COMPARISON PIT'.

11/10/2021

What are the things you could do today, to get more out of each moment? We spend so much of our time planning for what we hope will be a better 'tomorrow'. Is there an opportunity for us to live a better 'today'?

What would a better today look like? Would it mean-

* Taking a step to reconcile a relationship?
* Beginning to learn a new skill?
* Opening that book you've been meaning to read for the last 12 months but haven't got round to it?
* Spending 20 minutes having quality time with a child?
* Taking time out for something that's for YOU?

As midlife Dad's, we need to begin focusing on being a little 'selfish'. Taking time to embrace today and look after ourselves will mean that we have more of ourselves to give.

Do you need to find YOU again?