26/10/2025
It really is hard to find the time to connect meaningfully, sometimes even with good friends we know we’ll enjoy, the mental load of reaching out and planning can feel overwhelming if you’re at capacity, but this is when we can actually do the self- care we genuinely need.
It takes effort to create these moments but let’s be real, everything takes effort - so you may as well use your effort to create an opportunity of laughter, joy, shared grief, or just time to simply talk. It’s worth it.
I see so many reels and influencers talking about keeping their ‘peace’ but at the end they’re just create opportunities for bitterness and isolation, let’s not do that to ourselves and our loved ones. Especially if you have children, model the etiquette of checking in with others, of inviting others, of showing up; this is their little window into community and being a villager.
Some of us didn’t really grow up with communities, maybe we were part of a judgemental community that looked at us as the ‘others’ - being from a single parent family I can really understand that grief of never having anyone show up for our parents, so in someways acting differently to all the judgemental aunties and uncles gives us healing where we’re showing up for our little selves too 💕
Don’t wait for kind people to be a kind person.
