30/09/2025
“Will you try again for a girl?”
This is a question I’ve been asked more than once, and while I know it’s rarely meant with anything but a genuine curiosity, as an advocate for those on any fertility journey I want to gently highlight why it can land so heavily for me and so many others.
For me, my journey to motherhood wasn’t straightforward.
IVF, miscarriage, complex pregnancies, and the very real fear that I might never hold a baby of my own are all part of my story.
Today, I feel so much gratitude for my two beautiful boys, they are more than I ever dreamed I would be blessed with 🩵🩵
When someone asks if I’ll try again for a girl, it can brush past that difficult path, as if what I’ve walked through isn’t already a miracle.
It also implies that my beautiful family, just as it is, might not be enough.
For anyone who has faced fertility struggles, pregnancy loss, or different paths to parenthood, these kinds of questions can unintentionally reopen wounds.
We never really know what people are going through.
So, instead of asking about trying again or hoping for a certain gender, the most loving thing we can do for everyone is celebrate families exactly as they are , complete, unique, and deeply cherished in their own way. 💫
I am so so lucky to have the children I do. They are my whole world, and I wouldn’t change a thing 🙏✨🩵
