Holistic Sands Psychology

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17/12/2025

Ever noticed how shouting back seems to happen in a split second?
That’s not attitude — it’s the brain acting sub-consciously.

Mirror neurons fire before thinking begins, copying tone, volume and emotional energy automatically. A child isn’t choosing to escalate. Their nervous system is reflecting what it senses in yours.

This visual explains why regulation is caught, not taught — and why calm has to go first.










15/12/2025

Free 50 COPING SKILLS POSTER FOR TEENS: THE (MOSTLY EFFECTIVE) GUIDE TO NOT LOSING IT

This free poster gives young people 50 simple coping skills they can use when they feel stressed or overwhelmed. It covers brain breaks, movement, creative ideas, sensory activities, ways to connect with others and ways to plan ahead. It is easy to use in schools, homes and support sessions. Many workers use it to help young people talk about what works for them and to build healthier coping habits.

If you would like this as a free PDF, comment COPING and we will send you a link to the website where you can download it.

15/12/2025

Distressing news and hearing about other people's traumatic experiences, like what has happened at Bondi, can contribute to secondary trauma. When the world feels dark it's really important to check in with yourself.

Did this hit home for you? Learn more about dealing with trauma: https://kidshelpline.info/3WByyut

13/12/2025
28/11/2025

If you're doing your best to stop self-harming, we're proud of you. Self-harm can be addictive, and while it feels hard to stop, it's totally possible.

These tips might help. And don't forget, we're open 24/7 if you want to get in touch. 🤍

27/11/2025
This is such an important initiative normalising and supporting men's mental health! Men are allowed to feel emotion and...
24/10/2025

This is such an important initiative normalising and supporting men's mental health! Men are allowed to feel emotion and reach out for support too!

22/10/2025

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Exposure to family violence affects a significant minority of children: estimates of physical abuse range from 4 to 16%,...
28/09/2025

Exposure to family violence affects a significant minority of children: estimates of physical abuse range from 4 to 16%, while intimate partner violence affects between 8 and 25% of children. Maltreated children show same pattern of brain activity as combat soldiers. Link to the research https://www.cell.com/current-biology/fulltext/S0960-9822(11)01139-0?_returnURL=https%3A%2F%2Flinkinghub.elsevier.com%2Fretrieve%2Fpii%2FS0960982211011390%3Fshowall%3Dtrue

Recent brain scans have revealed that children living with unstable families where the child is exposed to constant arguing between the parents or themselves are abused/neglected, have brain changes similar to combat solders after returning from active duty. In some cases, the brains of abused children are in even worse shape than the combat soldiers.

Childhood trauma and the trauma experienced by combat soldiers can create similar, long-lasting changes in the brain’s structure and chemistry. The core reason is that the brain, whether developing or mature, adapts to a high-stress, unpredictable environment by entering a persistent state of hypervigilance, prioritizing survival over other functions.

The key difference lies in the context of the trauma. A child’s brain is still developing, making it highly susceptible to having its core structures and functions altered. A soldier’s brain, which is already mature, is changed by extreme stress but is less fundamentally altered than a child’s.

The shared neurobiological process: an over-activated internal alarm system.

Trauma forces the brain to initiate a “fight or flight or freeze” response for survival. When this state becomes chronic, it changes the brain’s baseline functioning, creating a state of constant, heightened alert. This process affects key brain regions involved in emotion, memory and rational thought.

I am running out of rom here but I will put a breakdown in the comments section of each brain region affected and altered by trauma.

If you have children, it is best to never argue in their presence and always treat your child with love, patience, respect and tender care, punish gently when necessary and use bad behavior as a teachable moment instead of harshly punishing your tiny creation.

If you experienced trauma as a child and never actively did intentional work to heal your brain or nervous system, you are likely experiencing chronic symptoms well into adulthood as a result. The good news is, any damage done is likely not permanent if you’re willing to do the work. Your trauma was never your fault, but healing has become your sole responsibility. See comments for exercises.

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UPDATE: I will be in the Illawarra full-time from the beginning of November, offering nature walk-and-talk therapy for o...
26/09/2025

UPDATE: I will be in the Illawarra full-time from the beginning of November, offering nature walk-and-talk therapy for older children and adolescents, accompanied by my two therapy dogs, Bindi and Coco.

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