What Happened To You? with Krissy (2025)

28/10/2025

If you’ve ever felt like healing is “taking too long” or that you keep ending up back where you started… you’re not failing… you’re just moving through the phases of trauma recovery.

Healing isn’t linear.

It happens in cycles:

moments of safety, release, and integration.

Each one takes you deeper into freedom from survival mode.

💫 Phase 1: Safety + Stabilisation
Your body needs to feel safe before it can process pain. This phase is all about nervous system regulation, grounding, and creating stability… so your body realises the danger has passed.

💫 Phase 2: Processing
Once you feel safe, the deeper work begins, releasing stored survival energy and processing the root causes through somatic therapy. This is where you face what once felt too big to handle, but now you have the capacity to move through it.

💫 Phase 3: Integration
This is where you rebuild self-trust, create healthy patterns, and step into a life that feels good… not just one that feels safe. You move from surviving to thriving.

🧠 Healing takes time because your brain and body are literally rewiring themselves for peace after years of living in protection.

Every time you regulate, express, or rest…you’re teaching your nervous system that safety is possible.

✨ Your story isn’t over. You’re just in the phase of becoming who you were always meant to be.

Comment REWIRE if you’re ready to move from survival mode into real healing. I’ll send you a free connection call link 💫

28/10/2025

If you find yourself drawn to people who can’t meet you emotionally… you’re not broken. You’re repeating what’s familiar.

When love and connection were unpredictable growing up, your nervous system learned to chase it.

To earn it.
To work for it.

🧠 Your brain wires attachment and adrenaline together: so inconsistency starts to feel like chemistry.

Your body mistakes anxiety for attraction.
Because in your past, love was the thing you had to fight for.

💔 Emotional unavailability feels magnetic because it mirrors the nervous system state you grew up in… the push and pull, the waiting, the longing.

Your subconscious is just trying to recreate what it knows, hoping this time it ends differently.

But healing starts when you stop chasing and start noticing what safe love actually feels like.

It’s steady.
It’s calm.
It’s not something you have to earn… it’s something you’re worthy of by existing.

✨ You don’t need to keep chasing love that keeps running.

Your nervous system just needs to learn that peace ≠ danger.

The real work isn’t in finding someone new… it’s in teaching your body that love doesn’t have to hurt to feel real.

🧘‍♀️ With somatic healing and nervous system work, you can rewire that pattern from chasing love to receiving it.

Comment REWIRE if this resonates and you’re ready to move from anxious attachment into secure, grounded love. I’ll send you a free connection call link 💫

15/10/2025

Hearing stories like this from clients always break my heart.

The number one thing that’s important and healing is the belief that someone can heal !!! The patient and Client need to believe they can heal in order for it to happen.

And then I wonder why people coming to me have such a doubt about themselves getting better, because psychologist and psychiatrist in a broken system are constantly telling them they are broken, flawed and will never get better ❤️‍🩹

Lets unbreak this system together 😭

14/10/2025

When your nervous system spends years in survival, stillness can feel like a threat. ‼️

That’s why you might call yourself “lazy” or “unmotivated” when really…you’re just frozen.

You might:
- Have big dreams but keep numbing out with TV, food, or scrolling.
- Feel detached from joy or love, even when life looks “fine.”
- Struggle to rest because rest feels like giving up.

That’s not who you are… that’s your body remembering that safety once meant shut down.

This isn’t about forcing motivation.
It’s about slowly teaching your nervous system that calm doesn’t mean danger.

That presence doesn’t mean pain.

Healing isn’t about doing more.
It’s about feeling safe enough to feel again.

✨ Comment REWIRE for a free connection call (normally $22.22)… let’s start thawing what’s been numb for too long.

12/10/2025

When we think about trauma we often think about a car accident or a war veteran but really the type of trauma that I am often most worried about is developmental trauma

And not because it is discrediting the pain and psychological effects of PTSD

But because developmental trauma makes people vulnerable to actually getting PTSD

If someone had a supportive, loving and really healthy upbringing and close relationship relationships with very minimal trauma in younger years, they have a protective barrier around them to actually developing PTSD

And this is because of the vulnerabilities of how much developmental trauma affects the way that you see the world, hypervigilance, the way that you connect in relationships and how you attach or detach from others. Honestly, relationships is a critical piece here. Studies have found that if someone goes through a horrific incident like a car accident but they have strong social support around them afterwards they are at a low chance of developing PTSD.

but if you were someone who was living with the effects of developmental trauma it’s unlikely that your relationships around you are super supportive and loving to be able to provide you with what you need after an incident like that. Or maybe you push away support as a protective mechanism when something goes wrong in your life and therefore that vulnerability to incidences increases .

And although that all sounds super overwhelming and heartbreakingly. If you have developmental trauma you are very likely to be misdiagnosed with mental health disorders lack I mentioned in the video. Making it difficult for you to get the right support.

I personally love the ACEs assessment (adverse childhood experiences). And I think this should be used in every GP appointment, psychiatrist, psychologist etc as it is one of the most useful tools for picking up on developmental trauma

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08/10/2025

life goes by quicker than you think. It’s funny how people avoid diving into healing their trauma or emotional wounds until it really is too late.

Most people will invest 50,000 to 100,000 on a university degree, that often most of the time they barely use, but those same people won’t invest even 10,000 into therapy to heal roots of things that are actually cause the term loyal in life.

Don’t be one of those people that leave your healing until it’s too late. Somatic therapy and the work that I do is hard to show up for but I can tell you right now it is life changing and it will align you with more ways and then you ever realised was possible.

Comment the word REWIRE and I’ll send you a code for a discount for a connection/introduction call. Normally these calls are $22.22 but you will get for free with this code.

08/10/2025

Lets dive into this! 👇🏼

if at any stage in your life you have studied research or done a course in marketing or neuroscience or anything like that that’s human based, you know that a fundamental and huge factor in all areas of us living, thriving and building wealth… is the people closest to you, your relationships, and particularly the person that you choose as your partner

Now in the video I talk about some research and there’s so many longitude or studies that highlight the married men are the happiest group of individuals within the human race … I don’t think at this point anyone can argue that with how strong the research is!

Now am I saying that this individual isn’t unhappy? Or wealthy? No.

I’m saying that from watching that video and the way that he talks about women slightly disrespectfully, I’m going to assume there’s relational trauma there, as well as by the sounds of it some intergenerational trauma that was passed down from his mum (watch the full video on page for contect) but he mentioned his mum warning him about women.

It’s my opinion that the men that I look up to most in the world generally have stable loving partners. Not everyone, but generally I think more healthy men are naturally drawn to marriage because of their stability within themselves.

In other words if you’re a male reading this and you feel resistant to putting yourself out there with women, maybe you need to dig deeper. If you’re a woman and you know that you want marriage and your partner is resistant to that, maybe be asking yourself if you deepdown feel they can love and support you and hold you in all of the highs and lows of life.

Relationships are the greatest gift. But if you don’t feel that way, it’s often trauma blocking you as a form of protection. Allow yourself to heal through trauma based therapies to feel the support of those loving relationships and for the first time ever 🥹

Follow along on my account for more psychological breakdowns, somatic therapy, trauma knowledge, and all-round mental health support 🥰

11/03/2025

Why Do You Keep Sabotaging Yourself? 🤯💭 (It’s Not What You Think!)

You set a goal… but then procrastinate.
You start a new habit… but abandon it.
You get close to success… but somehow mess it up.

This isn’t laziness or lack of willpower. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you. 💡

If you grew up with unpredictability, criticism, or conditional love, your body learned that safety = staying small. Because when you were visible, successful, or happy… maybe love was withdrawn, chaos followed, or failure felt inevitable. 😞

So now, as an adult, your subconscious “protects” you by:
❌ Procrastinating on opportunities
❌ Downplaying your achievements
❌ Overcommitting & burning out
❌ Attracting toxic relationships
❌ Quitting before you win

🔥 How to Break Free:
💫 Regulate Your Nervous System – Try shaking, breathwork, or tapping (EFT) to release stored fear. Develop routines and discipline to help your body feel safe.
💫 Rewire Your Story – Ask: “What’s the fear behind my self-sabotage?” Journal on it.
💫 Create Safety in Success – Visualise yourself thriving while feeling grounded & safe. Comment “DREAM” for a discounted personal meditation to do just that!
💫 Small, Safe Steps – Instead of overwhelming goals, take micro-actions & let your body adjust.
💫 Reparent Yourself – Give yourself the encouragement & support you didn’t receive as a child.

You deserve to succeed without fear. You deserve to thrive. 💖

12/01/2025

Becoming my own dream girl means showing up for myself with love, grace, and big main-character energy.

Everything i crave from others, i learn to give to myself. I learn to regulate myself. To make myself smile when i need to be uplifted.

It’s about healing the parts of me that needed saving and realising I had the power all along.

Here’s to embodying confidence, softness, and strength—every single day. 🌸✨

12/01/2025

Toxic relationships can feel impossible to leave, even when we know they’re unhealthy. This is often due to trauma bonds—a psychological and physiological connection that forms when a cycle of abuse is paired with intermittent moments of love, validation, or care.

🫠 Here’s what happens in your brain:

👉🏼 Dopamine hits: When your partner gives you love or approval, your brain releases dopamine (the “feel-good” chemical), creating a reward system.

👉🏼 Cortisol spikes: During conflict or manipulation, your brain is flooded with cortisol (the stress hormone), keeping you in a state of hypervigilance.

👉🏼 Addiction loop: The brain begins to associate the highs and lows of the relationship with safety, leaving you craving the brief “good moments” while tolerating the bad.

This dynamic traps you in a cycle of emotional highs and lows, making it feel as though you need the other person to feel okay.

✨ How to Break Free: ✨

🌙 Recognise the cycle: Acknowledge the patterns of love-bombing, conflict, and reconciliation in the relationship. Awareness is the first step.

🌙 Regulate your nervous system: Practice grounding techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or somatic exercises to calm your fight-or-flight response. Learn somatic tools with a somatic therapist

🌙 Build a support system: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide perspective and emotional support. Get into new healthy hobbies/community

🌙 Detach slowly: Set boundaries, reduce contact, and limit exposure to triggers. Journaling or speaking with a therapist can help you process emotions during this time.

🌙 Heal the root cause: Trauma bonds often stem from unresolved childhood wounds. Therapy modalities like EMDR, somatic therapy, or IFS can help heal attachment wounds and build healthier relationship patterns.

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Remember, breaking free isn’t just about leaving the relationship—it’s about reclaiming your sense of safety, self-worth, and freedom. You deserve love that feels safe and steady 🌼💕🌊😘

COMMENT ‘HEALING’ for a discount code for a free connection call 📞

02/01/2025

Why You People Please (and How It’s Blocking You From The Life You Desire) ✨

People-pleasing isn’t just being “nice” – it’s often a trauma response 🚨.

If you grew up in a home where love felt conditional or conflict felt dangerous, your body may have learned to fawn – to appease, over-give, and avoid rocking the boat.

Here’s the truth: that pattern is still running in the background 🧠.

Your nervous system is wired to believe that:
❤️ Love = performance
🙅‍♀️ Safety = self-sacrifice

👉 And the rea*on things haven’t shifted – in your relationships, career, or self-worth – is because your body hasn’t had the chance to fully process those old experiences.

It’s not just in your head… it’s embodied.

✨ Manifestation happens through the body – not just the mind.

If your body is saying “no” to receiving (through fear, tension, or over-performing), it creates resistance to the very things you desire.

🔄 When fawning is your default:

You attract relationships that mirror old wounds 🪞
Boundaries feel impossible to set 🚪
You give too much and receive too little 🫠
Your body thinks it’s protecting you.

But that trauma loop is keeping you stuck.

💡 The good news? You can break free.

I’ve worked with over a hundred clients in the last 2.5 years of being a somatic therapist and I’ve seen how healing the nervous system creates massive shifts – in love, career, confidence, and manifestation 💥.

💬 Comment “HEALING” for more info about my 4-week 1:1 somatic healing package (starts february! = early bird finished on 14th January).

Let’s rewire this from the root. 🫶

28/10/2024

Save this for next weekend 😉

Seriously, doing Sunday resets as been a GAME CHANGER for my productivity, nervous system regulation and my self love 🤍

If you have trauma which unhealed = chronic stress = often chaos inside and outside of yourself

Routine, resets, structure provide support and safety to your body and mind. Which is needed in order to feel safe enough to heal from trauma and become aligned with your dream life 🌼

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