28/02/2026
What I believe is quietly damaging modern relationships?
The expectation that the other person should change.
Maybe it sounds reasonable.
Maybe even hopeful.
“If they communicated better…”
“If they were more thoughtful…”
“If they tried harder…”
Then you could relax.
Then you’d feel secure.
Then it would work.
But when our peace is tied to someone else becoming different, we hand away our power without realising it.
Change in relationships rarely begins with the other person doing what you want them to do.
It begins with taking back your power.
When you shift from waiting for them to change…
to understanding what you need, what you value, and how you want to relate - something opens.
Sometimes the relationship deepens.
Sometimes it rebalances.
Sometimes it becomes clearer than it’s ever been.
And it moves.
And movement is where relief lives.
Claire Naidu
Mediator | Resolutionist | Facilitator
For people ready to move from frustration to clarity - in life and relationships.