Healing Insights Counselling

Healing Insights Counselling A Redlands based counsellor specialising in individual and adolescent counselling Get in contact to learn how we can work together

After more than a decade in the helping profession, and working in a range of diverse settings (including work with families, individuals and young people), I hold a passionate belief that in a safe, non-judgmental space, growth and change is always possible. Everyone possesses resilience and competence, and my goal is to support you to reconnect what is really important to you and identify the st

rategies and supports that will meet your unique needs. With a deeper awareness, you can reconnect with your own hopes for the way you want to live your life. I draw on elements of several evidence-based therapies, including Strengths Based Practice, and Narrative and Solution Focused approaches to support you through life’s challenges.

Feeling so excited and honoured to be guiding A Woman’s Wintering – A Journey into Inner Knowing at The Hallowed Space o...
30/04/2026

Feeling so excited and honoured to be guiding A Woman’s Wintering – A Journey into Inner Knowing at The Hallowed Space on July 12th.

It’s such a privilege to weave this work alongside Flourish Wild and to offer a space for deep rest, reflection and inner listening.

My whole body is buzzing with anticipation for this one. Please come and join the Hallowed Space for the morning and support me in something I am deeply passionate about!

In the belly of The Hallowed Space this week we weave in between the folds of our gathering... a Woman's Wintering - A guided journey into Inner Knowing with Counsellor Michelle Fairbrother

Confidence as a counsellor doesn’t grow from collecting more techniques - it grows from presence, self‑awareness, and th...
31/03/2026

Confidence as a counsellor doesn’t grow from collecting more techniques - it grows from presence, self‑awareness, and the way we meet ourselves in the work.

On Saturday 13 June, I’m offering a small, experiential online workshop for emerging and early‑career practitioners who want to deepen their steadiness and reconnect with their inner foundations.

I’ve also woven 2 hours of ACA/PACFA‑recognised group supervision throughout the day to support accessibility, and I’m running it on a Saturday for those who can’t easily attend PD during the week.

If this feels like it might meet you where you are, you can open the workshop information below.
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Being the cycle breaker in your family isn’t easy - it’s courageous, disruptive, and transformative. I’ve written about ...
28/03/2026

Being the cycle breaker in your family isn’t easy - it’s courageous, disruptive, and transformative. I’ve written about the emotional and generational impact of stepping out of old patterns and creating a new path forward.

Discover the role of the cycle breaker in transforming intergenerational patterns. Learn how healing, boundaries, and self awareness can reshape your family’s constellation and create a new path forward.

20/03/2026
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15/03/2026

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What Does Internalised PDA Look Like?

Internalised PDA doesn’t always look like refusal.

Sometimes it looks like the “good kid.”
The quiet teen.
The capable adult.

It looks like compliance on the outside… and collapse on the inside.

In childhood, it might look like:
• A child who follows the rules at school and meltsdown at home
• A child who is exhausted after masking all day
• A child who seems “fine” but is constantly scanning for what’s expected

In adolescence, it can become:
• Perfectionism
• Social withdrawal
• Panic that looks like irritability
• Chronic fatigue
• Avoidance that gets labelled laziness

In adulthood, it might look like:
• Burnout cycles
• People pleasing

• Hyper-independence
• Anxiety with no clear “cause”
• A deep confusion about who you actually are

Internalised PDA can result in quiet compliance, high levels of masking, perfectionism, anxiety, fawning and freezing. Instead of the response turning outward, it folds inward.

And when autonomy suppression goes on long enough, identity suppression can follow.

You stop asking:
What do I want?

And start asking:
What will keep everyone regulated?

That’s not personality.
That’s survival.

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www.healinginsights.com.au/blog/counselling-and-psychology-arent-the-same-tree
05/03/2026

www.healinginsights.com.au/blog/counselling-and-psychology-arent-the-same-tree

Most people seeking support assume counselling and psychology are just different branches of the same tree. But they’re actually two different trees growing in the same forest — both valuable, both needed, but offering very different kinds of shade. Understanding the difference can help you choo...

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