26/02/2026
Hei Nkgonne 💔.
A man that once promised you the world can turn around and be the man that hurts you the most, ke gore a go feleletsa without remorse. I had a good life, not perfect, but good life for the past seven years or so. That life started changing around April last year, I started with "babe we must reduce our spending, we must take out bana from English medium to tswana". His reason was that they had the foundation they needed to do well at tswana mediums. I agreed ka meno a maleele and took them to tswana. They were not happy about it but it was what they had to do. A few weeks down the line he basically forced me to agree to selling our other car, we had three. Ke gore he cut costs everywhere, we subscribed to almost all streaming sites, we stopped and had to choose e one to remain with "Netflix".
Kgang ene ele gore we are cutting costs to save and then invest the funds when we get opportunities which sounded like a good idea when he presented it. Ke gore rene re sa thoke sepe but we adjudtested from the life we were used to. He saved a lot from di school fees tsa bana alone. Jaanong I proposed gore a tsenye madi a teng mo savings account ere e pataganetseng so that I can monitor it lenna and also contribute to it every month. He refused are he has opened an "investment" account with his bank, a mpolelela di benefits tsa yone jalo jalo. He is one person I trusted a lot, he had taken care of us for a long time without fail. Anyway ka September last year a close friend of mine came to me are o bone a preschool somewhere and she wanted us to go into the business together. Nnyaa ra nna fatshe ra dira dipalo and it made sense, extra income stream kana.
I prepared presentation and laid it down for my husband. Nnyaa he was happy and supported the motion 100% until I asked for money from the investment account. Babe I need to contribute this much to be part of the business. Nnyaa suddenly the great idea turned to a bad investment in less than 5 minutes which was a huge red flag for me. I let it slide for a bit and came back gape ele gore jaanong kare a nkadime madi a teng ke tla a busa after a few months. Motho a pala a padile and that's when it hit me gore madi a ka tswa a seo or the "investment" account didn't exist anymore. Ke bo ke mo kopa fela ka moa o iketileng to see balance ya investment account. Monna a pala ka balance, ga nna tense, he is a calm guy but now ke fa a setse a ikomantsha a bua bo gore why ke sa mo tshephe all of a sudden. I went back to chomie and explained my situation to her, we ended up agreeing that I get a quick loan somewhere gore re kgone ka business.
I called and told my husband that I was thinking of getting a loan for the business and he agreed without hesitation. That's when I now knew for sure gore gona le mathata somewhere. That man o ila sekoloto ka pelo ya gagwe yothe, he would rather save for something than get a loan from the bank. After call ke bolelela chomie gore nnyaa ke filwe go ahead on the loan and also told her about my husband's sudden changes in behaviour. She casually says, "chomie gona le sister wife, ke ene amo tsenyang stress". We laughed about it but at the same time it made sense. I watched him closely since that time, ke batla go mmona sentle. All signs suggested there was something or someone stressing him. Kene ka leka go itira P.I but failed to find anything. Towards mid November he tells me that he chose to "cancel" our yearly end of year trip are we should go ko g*e this time around. No more keeping the spark alive by ending the year ka trip outside the country.
After kgang eo that's when I decided to engage batho ba P.I services to investigate him. They promised me gore they would have something for me in 14 days. Nnyaa ra dumalana and went on ba dira tiro ya bone. E rile December ale di 7 ba nthaya bare ba feditse and sent me dilo tsame. Hei process ya go pagolola dilo tsame mo maranyaneng a bone was complex, exhausting tota, story for another day. After weeks of back and forth le di Private Investigator I finally managed to access what they sent me. Ke ka festive jaanong, I chose not to go through the stuff gore festive e fete pele, ddint want to find anything that would ruin the holidays for me. Ke tswa go felela ke bala dilo tse around di 7 tsa ga January. Like chomie once said gore gona le sister wife, there was a sister wife. The man was having another healthy relationship, fa godimo ga ya rona. Based on the information provided one ale happy gore teng kwa but hurt me the that on top of his cheating ene ele part ya gore he helped set up a daycare center for his woman after I told him about the idea.
O tsere one madi a rona adi savings abo aya go bulela "Buna" daycare centre. One a bitswa "buna" girl ele, don't know if it's her nickname kana maina a marato. Bane ba sena ngwana mmogo but they had unprotected s*x all the time. They spoke about it ba bua ka fa e leng good ka teng 💔. I confronted him kgang ya teng, ga a ntsenya dingalo and immediately admitted to it. A boa a ikopa maitshwarelo and begged me gore ke seka ka tsenya bagolo mo teng. I told him to end it, one a leletsa the lady wa teng ra bua and ended things. I was hurt, trust was broke hey lorato le dingalo. Maloba jaana letswalo le nthaya lere ako o cheke gore a ba setse ba bua. I went back to batho bale and yes they are still talking ebile the girl are o akanya gore o pregnant. Saturday ke tsatsi lame la kereke, ke wa Sebata. So ba dumalane to check and confirm the pregnancy mmogo gone ka Saturday. I guess no church kamoso.
