08/08/2025
A Father in Heaven; Finding a Father Figure Above All Else👥
The story that has consistently resonated with my soul since my youth is not one from the campaign, but one that has always guided me: the story of Ben Carson. His mother’s fierce dedication, taking on the role of a father to ensure her son’s education, was a beacon for me. It was a story of a parent’s unconditional love and determination, a powerful narrative that spoke directly to my own struggles with severe dyslexia and dysgraphia. It showed me that true parental love is not defined by a title but by a tireless commitment to a child's well being.
My Personal👤
The Fatherhood Storytelling Post Engagement was a profound and emotional journey for me. Reading the diverse experiences of others validated my own complex feelings. It gave me a sense of belonging, a realization that my story one of both pain and profound healing was not an isolated one. This campaign was a mirror, reflecting my own past and bringing to the surface feelings that have been buried for so long.
This introspection was a catalyst for my ongoing journey of healing. As a child, I felt a deep chasm between my father and me. He simply could not understand my learning disabilities, and this disconnect led to years of fighting and emotional distance. It was in this emotional void that I found solace in my relationship with God. He became the father I desperately needed, the one who understood me when no one else did. My tears were my prayers, and my faith was my sanctuary. God’s unwavering love gave me the strength to persevere.
The turning point came when I finally learned to read and write. My first book wasn't a textbook; it was the Bible. Reading His words was like feeling a warm embrace, a love that was both deep and undeniable. This experience empowered me to write my first book, "Embracing Dyslexia and Dysgraphia in Africa," which not only gave me a platform but also became a tool for my own healing.
My journey took another turn after I wrote my second book, "With God I’m Able, Not Disabled." I went on a 17 day mission camp to intentionally seek God, my father, and build the man I wanted to become the man my own father couldn't be for me. When I returned, I made a conscious choice to visit my father last. The moment he saw me, a man I had spent a lifetime feeling estranged from, he asked, "Did you miss me?"
The words hung in the air, a question I never imagined hearing. My lips trembled, and I was so overwhelmed with emotion that I could only manage to say, "I'll see you when I come back again." In that moment, I understood that healing is a choice, and that the longing for a father’s love, even in its most broken form, is a real and powerful thing.
My journey has taught me that the role of a father can be fulfilled in many ways by a mother's sacrifice, by a higher power, and even, eventually, by a flawed but well meaning man. I am the man I am today because of the love I found in God, the man I am building myself up to be. And my father's question, a question of love and longing, has become a symbol of a new chapter in my life, one of grace and reconciliation.
Arise and Shine Heirs Centre 😁
