12/11/2025
People grieve in their own way, and in their own time. Some show it openly, some hold it quietly, and the reasons can be just as unique as the relationship they had with the person who passed.
For some, the connection may not have been as close, so their grief may look different. Others hold back their emotions because they don’t want to trigger more tears or add to the weight already being carried by those who are hurting deeply. And some people keep everything inside because that’s the only way they know how to cope. Grief isn’t always loud, visible, or easy to understand.
What’s important to remember is this: everyone processes loss differently.
Your heavy grieving doesn’t mean someone else’s quietness is a lack of care. And their composure doesn’t mean they’re not feeling anything at all. It simply means their heart has its own way of moving through the pain.
Learning to accept the different ways people grieve brings peace. It reminds us that no two journeys look the same, and that compassion for each other is just as important as compassion for ourselves.
Be gentle with your own heart, and be gentle with others too. We’re all doing the best we can in our own way.
Tips on coping with grief:
Allow yourself to feel what you feel - Every emotion is valid, and there is no correct way to grieve.
Talk about your feelings - Speaking with someone you trust can ease the heaviness.
Write things down - Journaling can help release emotions you may not be ready to speak aloud.
Lean on your support system - Let friends, family, or community be there for you in the ways you need.
Keep a routine when possible - Small structure can bring comfort when everything feels overwhelming.
Honour the person in your own way - Light a candle, share memories, or do something meaningful that helps you feel connected.
Take breaks from grieving - It’s okay to rest, laugh, or distract yourself. Relief is a natural part of healing.
Seek professional support if needed - Counsellors or support groups can offer tools, guidance, and comfort.
Jay Lane
