Brooks & Clover Wellness

02/09/2026

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02/06/2026

Just having had christmas, followed by a family vacation and my Moms birthday in heaven, the grief is heavy.

Over the years the grief has shifted from ugly and painful to a more peaceful quiet sadness. I wish I could hug her and have her talk back to me with words but her presence is so strong these days, we know she is still walking along side us and that brings so much more softness to the grief.

If you are missing someone you love. I see you. Give yourself a hug, they are still with you.

01/28/2026

Just be you and your people will arrive.

01/28/2026

We are all human and will make mistakes or hurt our loved ones unintentionally.

The repair, empathy for the impact even when unintentional, and commitment to change is what truly matters.

Never perfection.

Real repair has three parts: ownership (I see what I did and I’m not defending it), empathy (I can feel what it was like for you), and a plan for change (here’s what I’ll do differently when we get back here). Without ownership, apology feels hollow. Without empathy, it feels cold. Without a plan, it becomes a loop.

01/18/2026

01/17/2026

In the work I do with youth I see the consequences of screens daily.

I also see the effects in some of my adult relationships.

If you or your child are experiencing increased anxiety, low motivation, bigger stress responses, evaluating how you utilize screens throughout your day is a great starting point.

The creators of these tools want us to be addicted, there’s profit in it for them, but how is it effecting our brains?

Screens calm children fast. One video, one game, one scroll, and the stress melts away. For a tired or overwhelmed child, that relief feels instant and powerful.

The problem is what comes after. The brain gets used to fast rewards. Real life moves slower. Homework, meals, conversation, and play can start to feel boring, irritating, or overwhelming. When screens stop, emotions often surge. Children may become restless, angry, tearful, or shut down. This is not bad behaviour. It is a nervous system struggling to cope without quick comfort.

This pattern shows up in many children and young people. It is common in children with anxiety, ADHD, ASD, sensory sensitivities, or emotional regulation difficulties. It also affects children who spend all day holding it together and using their energy to cope. Their behaviour is communication, not defiance.

What helps is not blame or constant battles over screen time. Children need connection, movement, outdoor time, creativity, and shared moments with calm adults. Slower activities help the brain reset and relearn how to cope with everyday life.

When adults understand this, responses change. Less punishment. More support. Less conflict. More connection.

Comment "SCREEN" and we will send you a message with a link to a free PDF of this resource.

01/16/2026

Live life on purpose.

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01/15/2026

What are you noticing?

01/10/2026

Many years ago I switched my language to be “I am not prioritizing that right now” instead of “I don’t have time or money” I find that it keeps me accountable to my decisions without putting shame on them.

Life is all about choosing our hard. All choices have aspects of hard, you just have to decide which hard moves you in the direction you want your life to go.

01/09/2026

It’s important that we emit all the light and kindness we can, it’s one thing we have control over.

01/05/2026

There are friends who won't need an explanation. You'll cancel plans and they'll say "rest well." You'll disappear for a bit and they'll text, "I'm here when you're ready."

That kind of love; the quiet, flexible, non-ego kind, that's rare. And it's enough to make this life feel a little less heavy.

It's the kind of love that doesn't keep score, doesn't hold grudges, and doesn't expect anything in return.

It's the kind of love that understands that life gets messy, that people get busy, and that sometimes, you just need to disappear and recharge.

These friends are the ones who will show up at your door with a plate of cookies, who will listen to you vent for hours, who will support you through thick and thin.

They're the ones who will love you for who you are, without judgment, without expectation, and without condition.

And when you have friends like that, you know you're lucky.

You know that you've found something truly special, something that's worth holding onto, something that's worth fighting for.