Coaching with Jenny

11/27/2025

There’s a saying that says: “Where reinforcement goes, behaviour flows.” But here’s a different version:

🌱 What you nourish will flourish.

I see this every day with neurodivergent teens, adults and myself. Because humans grow in the direction of what feels safe, supported, and understood.

When you nourish:
✨ the parts of you that need rest
✨ systems that make life easier
✨ relationships that don’t require masking
✨ goals that align with your values
✨ coping tools that fit your brain
✨ environments that honour your sensory needs

…life naturally flows toward stability, confidence, and self-trust.

Neuro-affirming reframe:
For some teens it’s not just about “reinforcing behaviour.”
It’s about nourishing the conditions where they can thrive.

Safety creates consistency.
Support creates momentum.
Self-compassion creates growth.

10/29/2025

About those masks… 👻

This time of year, we all wear masks — for fun, for dress-up, for Halloween magic.
But some of us wear them every day.

Masking can look like smiling when you’re drained, holding in a stim, copying social cues, or pretending things don’t bother you — just to get through.
It’s something many neurodivergent people learn early on, to stay safe or fit in.

But here’s the thing: you were never meant to hide the parts of you that make you you.

When you start unmasking — even just a little — you give yourself space to breathe again. To rest. To be real.

So this Halloween, after the costumes come off, maybe take off one small “everyday” mask too.
You deserve to feel safe being your authentic self. 💛

10/19/2025

✨ Letting people just be. ✨

You don’t have to understand every obsession, every enthusiasm, every little quirk. You don’t have to correct, judge, or redirect. Sometimes the best gift you can give is simply space to shine.

💡 Let people love what they love. Let them get excited. Let them be themselves.

10/13/2025

I was listening to a podcast recently and this phrase stuck with me. It made me laugh at first — but then it really hit home.

“Don’t should on yourself.”

Many neurodivergent people hear a lot of “shoulds.”
You should try harder.
You should be more organized.
You should socialize more.
You should act “normal.”

Those shoulds can pile up until they start to feel like truth — and that can lead to guilt, burnout, and the sense of never being enough.

When “should” becomes “could,” it shifts from pressure to possibility — and opens space for self-understanding and choice.

💡 “I could take a pause.”
💡 “I could do it differently — and that’s okay.”

So today, just a gentle reminder —
👉 Don’t should on yourself.

10/11/2025

Hey community! These farmers are dear friends of mine and if you’re looking for a fun family outing their farm is a beautiful place so visit! (And if you’re a cheese lover I recommend picking up some of their Feta 🤤) Milkhouse Farm & Dairy

Join us this time next weekend for our annual Farm Tour! Oct 18 & 25 from 10-3PM. See you there!

09/26/2025

✨ Attention my fellow neuro-spicy and forgetful friends ✨

Let’s be real—you probably have at least a million reusable grocery bags scattered around your house, car, or shoved in random closets. (Because, of course, they’re never with you when you actually go grocery shopping—executive functioning challenges strike again. 🌀)

The The Brockville and Area Food Bank has put out a call to the community for reusable bags! Your “forgotten at home” extras could actually be super helpful for folks picking up their groceries.

So if your bag stash is starting to look like a small mountain… consider donating some to the Brockville and Area Food Bank. 🛍️💛

And remember when you have more than you need, build the longer table not a taller
fence.

09/25/2025

🧠✨ I got to share one of my favourite concepts with a 1:1 client today—the upstairs and downstairs brain.

The downstairs brain is where our big emotions live—anger, fear, frustration. It reacts fast and keeps us safe, but sometimes it can take over too much.

The upstairs brain is where calm thinking, problem-solving, and focus happen. That’s the part we want to use when emotions get big.

Most of the time, the upstairs and downstairs brain are connected by “stairs,” so messages can travel up and down easily—our emotions and thinking work together. But when we “flip our lid,” the stairs get broken. The downstairs brain takes charge, and the upstairs brain has a harder time doing its job.

Today, we focused on learning strategies to repair those broken stairs—so the upstairs and downstairs brain can reconnect. That way, teens can notice who’s in charge and bring thinking and feelings back into balance.

This is a concept is by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at UCLA who specializes in interpersonal neurobiology. For more info check out some of his works like “The Whole Brain Child”
💡💛

09/24/2025

It’s my birthday today! 🥳 Every year, I ask my kids what they’re proud of since their last birthday and what their next goal is. Tonight, I flipped the script and asked them what they thought I should be proud of doing this year.

My oldest didn’t skip a beat—he said, “Teen Scene.” And honestly… he’s not wrong. 💛 Watching our little community grow, seeing teens connect, create, and support each other—it’s been a highlight of my year, and it feels like a goal I didn’t even know I’d set.

Here’s to another year of growth, connection, and celebrating the little victories along the way! 🥂

09/23/2025

Teen Scene is happening this Wednesday! Can’t wait to see you all there for some fun, social connection, and skill-building activities. Make sure to bring your ideas, energy, and curiosity—let’s make it another great session together!

See you Wednesday!