09/24/2025
Embalming Grief: How We Delay the Inevitable
A reflection on our fear of mortality and the sacred return to the earth.
In the modern world, we often live as though we are separate from nature. We pave it, tame it, confine it, and try to insulate ourselves from its cycles. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the ways we deal with death. We cannot seem to accept that the end of the body is not an aberration but the most natural conclusion of life’s arc.
Instead of allowing the body to return gently to the soil, we seek to delay, disguise, and deny what is inevitable. We place our loved ones in sealed coffins, stone tombs, and concrete vaults…as if the earth were a contaminant rather than the womb from which we came. We embalm the body with chemicals, halting the process of decay for a time, while pushing down our grief under the illusion of preservation.
But these practices do not protect us. They only reflect our deep discomfort with mortality. They reveal how much we fear the truth that the body…like every leaf, every animal, every breath…belongs to the earth. We are not above this cycle. We are part of it.
In trying to keep death “clean,” “sanitary,” or “distant,” we rob ourselves of the profound wisdom that comes from remembering: decay is not an end, but a transformation. The body returns to the soil, the soil nourishes life, and the cycle continues. To resist this truth is to resist life itself.
Grief, too, follows a natural rhythm. Just as we try to embalm and entomb the body, we often attempt to suppress our sorrow…delaying its expression or keeping it hidden. Yet grief is meant to move through us, to break us open, and to root us more deeply in love. By denying both grief and decay, we distance ourselves from the intimacy of our place in the great web of being.
What if, instead, we could re-imagine death not as something to hide from but as something to honor? What if our farewell rituals allowed us to witness the sacred return…the giving back of flesh and bone to Mother Earth? In such a perspective, mortality becomes not a horror to avoid but a teacher, a guide, a reminder that our lives are threads in a vast and unbroken tapestry.
To embrace death as part of life is to release control, to surrender the illusion of separation, and to remember that we belong wholly and humbly to the earth.
Photo - Glascow Necropolis taken by Freyja Inanna, October 2024
Embalming Grief: How We Delay the Inevitable
A reflection on our fear of mortality and the sacred return to the earth.
In the modern world, we often live as though we are separate from nature. We pave it, tame it, confine it, and try to insulate ourselves from its cycles. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the ways we deal with death. We cannot seem to accept that the end of the body is not an aberration but the most natural conclusion of life’s arc.
Instead of allowing the body to return gently to the soil, we seek to delay, disguise, and deny what is inevitable. We place our loved ones in sealed coffins, stone tombs, and concrete vaults…as if the earth were a contaminant rather than the womb from which we came. We embalm the body with chemicals, halting the process of decay for a time, while pushing down our grief under the illusion of preservation.
But these practices do not protect us. They only reflect our deep discomfort with mortality. They reveal how much we fear the truth that the body…like every leaf, every animal, every breath…belongs to the earth. We are not above this cycle. We are part of it.
In trying to keep death “clean,” “sanitary,” or “distant,” we rob ourselves of the profound wisdom that comes from remembering: decay is not an end, but a transformation. The body returns to the soil, the soil nourishes life, and the cycle continues. To resist this truth is to resist life itself.
Grief, too, follows a natural rhythm. Just as we try to embalm and entomb the body, we often attempt to suppress our sorrow…delaying its expression or keeping it hidden. Yet grief is meant to move through us, to break us open, and to root us more deeply in love. By denying both grief and decay, we distance ourselves from the intimacy of our place in the great web of being.
What if, instead, we could re-imagine death not as something to hide from but as something to honor? What if our farewell rituals allowed us to witness the sacred return…the giving back of flesh and bone to Mother Earth? In such a perspective, mortality becomes not a horror to avoid but a teacher, a guide, a reminder that our lives are threads in a vast and unbroken tapestry.
To embrace death as part of life is to release control, to surrender the illusion of separation, and to remember that we belong wholly and humbly to the earth.
Photo - Glascow Necropolis taken by Freyja Inanna, October 2024