The 'M' Effect

11/06/2025

What I wish my husband knew while I was quietly falling apart in perimenopause…

I didn’t always have the words for what was going on, especially when the first symptoms started. I can remember one specific time two summers ago; we were outside playing cards, enjoying our time together, I got up to switch the sprinklers and as I was walking to the taps this wave of rage took over in my belly. I could literally feel it growing. I shut the sprinklers off, walked back to Brent and said rather abruptly that I was done and I couldn’t do this anymore (meaning playing cards). I was so incredibly angry and he was so confused, I quickly explained it’s not you it’s me and I need to be alone. He said OK, and that was that! That moment in itself was so confusing and scary to me, I didn’t like who I was, and that I couldn’t finish playing the game with my husband.

—I just knew something felt off. One day I’d be fine, and the next I’d be teary, snappy, or completely overwhelmed by things that never used to bother me.

I was tired… but couldn’t sleep.
I needed space… but also didn’t want to feel alone.
I felt like I was losing pieces of myself… and I didn’t know how to explain it.

But somewhere in the middle of all of it—he stayed.

He saw me when I didn’t feel like myself.
He was patient when I didn’t have answers.
He gave me room to fall apart, and a safe place to land.

Perimenopause has changed me, and in some ways—it’s changed our marriage.
Our relationship doesn’t look the same, but in some ways, it’s deeper. Softer. More real.

Because when your partner sees you in your most uncertain moments, and chooses to stay curious, compassionate, and close… that kind of love grows roots.

So to the partners who are learning alongside us: thank you.
And to the women in this season: you’re not alone, and you are still so worthy of being seen, supported, and loved—especially now.

If you are able to, have the conversations with your partners, even if it is ‘I can’t do ‘this’ right now’. Brent was confused too, and I needed him to know it wasn’t about him. The uncontrollable change, the undeniable change was no longer being managed alone and I needed support! I am here to show you support, reach out!

xo

11/05/2025

If you’ve been feeling like a stranger in your own body lately… this is for you 🩷

Perimenopause isn’t just about hot flashes or skipped periods—

😡it’s the mood swings,

😭the tears out of nowhere

😬the anxiety that creeps in for no reason

🫣and the moments where you don’t even recognize yourself.

It’s frustrating. It’s exhausting. And it can feel really lonely.

🫶🏻🩷But you are not alone. You’re not broken. And you’re certainly not being dramatic.

Your hormones are shifting, your body is changing, and your emotions are doing the best they can to keep up.

So if no one has told you lately—you’re allowed to feel overwhelmed. You’re allowed to grieve the changes. And you’re allowed to talk about it.

Let’s take the shame out of this season. Let’s support each other through it.

Like this post🩷 and drop a “me too” if this hit home. Remember I am always here to support you exactly where you are at, please don't hesitate to reach out!

XOXO

11/04/2025

This is what no one tells you about being in perimenopause and starting HRT…

Here are 10 things I wish someone had told me:

1. It’s not just for “older” women.
You don’t have to wait until you’re completely falling apart to get help.

2. It’s not just about hot flashes.
Brain fog, anxiety, panic attacks, mood swings, plantar fasciitis, and sleep issues are often some red flags…at least they were for me.

3. You might feel like yourself again—and it’s emotional.
I cried the first time I felt clear-headed and calm again. It took some time and wasn’t a quick fix, but slowly I started feeling like me again.

4. It’s not one-size-fits-all.
You may have to tweak doses or types to get it just right – with the help of my NP and pharmacist (I have the BEST), we just upped my estrogen! That was the 2nd time we went up!

5. You need a provider who listens to you.
If your symptoms are dismissed, find someone else. Blood test alone is not used to determine if you are in perimenopause or not. My NP not only LISTENED to what I was telling her, she BELIEVED me!

6. Feeling better doesn’t mean you’re “faking” your struggle.
You were never lazy, weak, or dramatic. You were imbalanced.🤷‍♀️

7. There’s still stigma around it.
Some people will judge. Let them. You’re choosing you.🫶🏻

8. You’ll start paying attention to your body in a whole new way.
It becomes less about looks—and more about living well – honestly let me longer, but HEALTHIER!!

9. Your relationships might shift.
Better energy = better boundaries. And that’s okay.

10. You’re allowed to want to feel good again.
It’s not selfish. It’s necessary. And it’s beautiful!!

XoXo

Love you, mean it!

11/03/2025

Good morning Queens! My morning has been filled with client check ins! We meet once a week via zoom where the ladies get to go over their week with me! We discuss all the things from sleep, to p**p, to our husbands (only nice of course), to movement and of course our nutrition. This morning consisted of a lot of protein chatter…..

One of the ladies literally held up her hands and air quoted while stating this; “Eat more protein” they said. “You’ll lose weight” they said.

The biggest mistake I see women make when it comes to protein is too much processed protein.

Here’s why 👇🏻
Hidden calories

🛑 Protein bars, shakes, and packaged snacks often contain added sugars, fats, and fillers to enhance taste and texture. These hidden calories can quickly add up, pushing you into a surplus even if you’re focusing on protein.

Nutrient deficiency & inflammation
🛑 Processed proteins lack essential nutrients like vitamins, minerals, that support overall health and metabolism. Many contain additives, artificial sweeteners, and preservatives, which contribute to inflammation and disrupt metabolic processes, making it harder to lose weight.

Reduced satiety
🛑 Whole protein sources like chicken, fish, eggs, and Greek yogurt naturally keep you feeling fuller for longer due to their nutrient density and lack of additives. Processed proteins are less satisfying because they lack fiber and other whole-food components, leading to increased hunger and overeating.

Impact on metabolism
🛑 Processed proteins are less thermogenic meaning your body burns fewer calories digesting them. Whole protein sources require more energy to digest and metabolize, which can help with weight management.

How about this 👇🏻

Focus on whole food protein choices
✅Lean meats (chicken breast, turkey)
✅Eggs and egg whites
✅Fish (salmon, cod, tuna)
✅Dairy (Greek yogurt, cottage cheese)
✅Plant-based options (tofu, tempeh, lentils)

Replace processed proteins with whole foods to improve the quality of your diet and to optimize your metabolism, reduce hunger, and stay within your calorie goals, making weight loss more achievable.

Need some assistance? I’m always here to offer support in the way you might need!!!

11/01/2025

Good morning lover butts!

Been quite on here, few reasons; been hustling behind my desk – working on some new courses as well as some up and coming online groups, also the brain – this brain of mine hasn’t been overly friendly to me – and I have been believing some of the bu****it stories….

I have gone to sleep telling myself, ‘No more Jennifer, you are not these scenarios and you need to stop believing X, Y & Z!

Wake up and BAM....

“You’re annoying.”
“Everyone’s over you.”
“You aren’t needed.”
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re not doing a good job.”

Oh and my favorite…..

“You’re too much.”

This nervous system of mine has just be running a trauma script masquerading as a personality trait. Is this anyone else or am I the only lucky one?

Here are the truths I am leaning into a whole lot more, teaching this old brain some new tricks!

You don’t need to be more positive. You need a damn nervous system reset and a reminder that your brain is a drama queen—not a prophet.

That part of you that’s always bracing for rejection?
That’s the part that learned it was safer to beat yourself to the punch than wait to be left.

But here’s what’s actually true:

You’re not too sensitive - even if you cry, lots & lots w/snot.
You’re not behind.
You’re not a burden.
You’re not fac’d up.
AND most certainly, you’re not too much.

Here’s a reminder for you and me, WE are brilliant, badass muthafaca’s who are still here after everything we’ve been through – because we all have a story!

That alone makes you a damn miracle.

So yeah. You’re the queen who carried on, moved forward and lived. And I’m proud of you.

Love you, and mean it!

PS you know what else helps you not be a royal jack ass to yourself...moving

09/27/2025

Join us tomorrow for an unforgettable day!!! Tickets are still available femmeforward.ca

Your ticket will include a beautiful breakfast & refreshments, coffee, tea, water and mimosas. An incredible lunch and of course so many dessert options! The speakers we have brought in will leave you with so many of your questions answered and you will be leaving with the most beautiful gifts! 🩷

See you tomorrow xo

PS ask me for a discount code!

’Twas the night before Femme Forward and the space is GLOWING.
Elegant. Intentional. Perfected down to the tiniest detail. ✨
See you tomorrow, 8:30 AM—breakfast is served. 🥐

09/22/2025

Less than a week away!!! Be sure to grab your tickets for this inaugural woman’s health summit! See you Saturday September 27!

09/17/2025

This mother daughter team! If you haven’t been apart of an event where they were at, now is your time!!!

The first time I listened to them I wanted more! The way they made me think, forever grateful!

Join me for a special, intimate day on September 27th. RaiseHER Co. will be offering a very unique engagement and we are thrilled to have them in Estevan!

Get your tickets now at femmeforward.ca

PS ask me about a discount code 🫶🏻

🌸 Femme Forward Workshop Spotlight 🌸
The Glow Up Is Internal: Loving Your Mind & Body Through Every Phase, presented by RaiseHER Co.
This interactive session will guide attendees in embracing every stage of life with confidence and care. Participants will receive:
✔️ Attendee worksheets
✔️ Engaging table group activities
✔️ Interactive digital polls

📅 Join us at Femme Forward on September 27 for this impactful experience.
www.femmeforward.ca

09/16/2025

Good morning 🩷

We are so excited to have Lisa join Femme Forward! The knowledge she brings with her is so needed and I can not wait to hear what she has to say! You then have the opportunity to ask all the questions, no appointment needed 😉

And to add to the excitement, she is bringing her REMS bone scan down two days prior to the event, 25th & 26th. If you missed the pop up last time she was in Estevan, here is your opportunity!

If you have yet to purchase your tickets for FEMME FORWARD, shoot me a message as I have a discount code I’d like to share 🩷

Have the nicest Tuesday!

Much love xo

✨ Meet Lisa Clark-Musschoot, NP, CPMHN(C) ✨
Nurse Practitioner • Presenter • Panelist
With 30 years of experience in nursing, Lisa brings expert, evidence-based insight into menopause care, empowering women to make informed choices for their long-term health and wellness.
In addition to her presentation and panel at Femme Forward: A Women’s Health Summit, Lisa is also offering Echolight REMS Bone Scans on September 25 & 26.
📋 What’s Included
Comprehensive REMS bone scan of your spine and one hip
Specialized Bone Health Workbook filled with evidence-based guidance
Personalized, easy-to-follow recommendations for maintaining and enhancing bone health
💲 Cost: $249.00
📅 Limited spots available — book your appointment here:
https://calendly.com/zarah-neroshouse/echolight-rems-bone-health-assessment-clinic

09/11/2025

Goooood morning you beautiful lover butts. Ya I’m talking to you, with your hair so nicely thinning, your eyes drying out while you are looking for your readers and your internal dialogue telling you to take your grocery cart and smash it into the persons car next to you because they parked way to freaking close….offta its been a morning 😉

Ready for your dose of girl WHY??

You were never meant to do this s**t alone.

Not healing.
Not surviving this world.
Not running a business with a nervous system that’s Barely. Holding. It. Together (that was a line dropped for myself….maybe you needed it too)

And yet—here you are.
Trying to be consistent.

Trying to be seen.
Trying to “hold space” for everyone else while quietly falling apart inside.

F that.

Community is where it is at.

There’s a lot of heaviness in the world right now.

And there are a lot of people still trying to keep their lives moving, thriving or maybe just surviving this moment.

So today, I’m using my platform to lift up the ones who give a damn:

🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQIA+
🖤 Black + Brown
👩‍🦽 Disabled + chronically ill
🌱 Neurodivergent
🧠 Mental health advocates
🌍 Immigrant + refugee
✊ Allies who walk their talk
🧙‍♀️ The misfits, the weirdos, the witchy ones with purpose
And anyone building ethical lives from the ground up.

The last few years – knowing we needed ‘something’ here in our community – has brought me to FEMME FORWARD. My dream for this summit was to bring women together, ALL of us, to show support, love, power, and understanding….

This is how we build what’s next.
This is how we support each other.
This is how we win—together.

🖤 Kindness is currency. Solidarity is strategy. Connection is the revolution.

Join me for the day on September 27 to celebrate you! To learn, to grow to ask YOUR questions and get your answers from professionals. Professionals that you typically have to wait months, even years to book an appointment with. We are bringing this one of its kind summit to YOU!!!

Nab your tickets here femmeforward.ca

Tag your favorite human that isn’t an as**at and that builds you, that walks your walks with you, that loves unconditionally!

Love you and I mean it, Jen

09/10/2025

GOOOOOD morning you beautiful warrior with the ever-persistent tinnitus and night sweats keeping you all spicy!

Ready for your dose of girl WHY???

Coming at you with some real and actually F’d up stats, grab your coffee or tea and have a little read….heart disease kills more women every year than all cancers combined…..yet the medical system still treats menopause like it’s a “natural phase” you just have to endure. Rest more, relax and meditate, have a bubble bath, go on a holiday, go for a walk, read…..cause that is super easy when your va ja ja is dry as a tumble w**d and your brain won’t shut off and you are still running a house while keeping your career a float….just have a bubble bath INSERTS the loudest freaking scream!!!

As estrogen drops in midlife, LDL cholesterol skyrockets, arteries stiffen, and insulin resistance kicks in. Research from the Canadian Heart Association shows this transition dramatically accelerates cardiovascular risk…

Yet again, women are brushed off with “Try yoga,” “It’s just stress,” or handed antidepressants.

Meanwhile, if men’s heart attack risk tripled overnight, the world would stop. Rightfully so. Billions would be poured into research. Headlines would scream crisis…Am I wrong?

But for women? Silence. Dismissal. Neglect.

This isn’t healthcare. It’s willful negligence.

We must do better, we must demand better, and we must seek out better! Not settling over here and certainly not waiting for the support or answers to MY health to just come to me!!

Join me on September 27 here in Estevan; the troops are coming to offer you, me, and all our sisters the real support we ALL need! This is YOUR time to be heard, to be validated, and to get some answers!

Your tickets for this one of a kind Summit here in Saskatchewan can be found at femmeforward.ca OR I can drop them off to you!!

Have questions send them my way and I will do my very best to help answer them, FEMME FORWARD is here to stay! Looking forward to seeing you there!

Much love,
Jen

09/08/2025

GOOOOD morning you beautiful queen who might be holding on by the very thread of your see-through grey sweats (you know who you are) reheating your coffee for the 6th time today AND still fake smile waving to your neighbor who has those same grey sweats, but they are rocking the navy shade.

Ready for your dose of girl WHAT the actual F???

Getting out of bed when your brain feels like it’s trying to kill you is not ‘pathetic’. Hear me say this very loud….it is an Olympic-level event.

And if you’ve been dragging yourself through invisible battles every morning (promise you are not alone), you’re not weak – you are truly a damn heavy weight champion. Stop calling yourself fragile (the lie detector determined that was a lie), when you have proven over and over you are built for surviving.

Weak, fragile and uncapable would have taped out a long time ago.

You didn’t.

You’re still hear, still breathing, still showing the F up like the warrior queen you are AND I’m hella proud of you!

xo Love you heaps, I mean it!

PS do something today that makes you happy