12/13/2025
Gabor Matรฉ teaches in his book Scattered Minds that ADHD is less about genetics and more about adaptation.
A developing nervous system responds to its environment, not in failure, but in intelligence.
When safety isnโt consistent, the body learns to stay alert.
When attunement is missing, the mind becomes fast.
When rest doesnโt feel safe, attention shifts in order to monitor.
From this lens, ADHD isnโt something to fix.
Itโs something to understand.
The first time I read the intro to this book, I cried and cried and cried.
I had never felt so seen.
My entire life, I was told that my lack of attention was a personal failure, that I was lazy, that I simply wasnโt trying hard enough.
Reading his words reframed everything I had internalized about myself.
This is why I work with my nervous system now, not against it. Through biofeedback, we can observe how the body is responding beneath conscious awareness, and gently guided towards regulation and safety.
Not through force, but through feedback, awareness, and regulation. When the nervous system finally feel supported, focus often returns on its own.
This is why regulation matters.
This is why healing is somatic.
This is why compassion changes everything.
