Rasmussen Coaching and Consulting

03/24/2026

Eight years ago I wrote a post about coming out. I ended it by saying I was finally living, loving and being true to myself.
And I was. But I was also still figuring out what that even meant.
I’ve written a follow-up. And this one covers everything I wish someone had told me back then. Truths about the complexity of sexuality, about the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, about demisexuality and why finding that word quietly changed things for me. And about the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit, even after I thought I’d done the hard work.
This one’s personal. It’s also for anyone who has ever felt like they were broken because attraction didn’t work for them the way it seemed to work for everyone else. Or like coming out was supposed to fix everything and somehow it didn’t.
You’re not broken. You might just not have the right words yet.

Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction…

01/31/2026

You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to explain your exhaustion. If you’re tired of doing life alone, support exists. And you’re allowed to want it. Visit my website or DM me for more info.

01/30/2026

Hire a life coach? In this economy? I get it, it sounds like a luxury. But here’s the thing: when everything feels uncertain, that’s exactly when clarity becomes most valuable. A good coach doesn’t just give pep talks; they help you identify what actually matters to you, cut through the noise, and make decisions that align with your real priorities. Sometimes the best investment isn’t another course or credential, it’s understanding yourself well enough to use what you already have. So, if you’ve been spinning your wheels in the same spot for months, it might be worth a conversation. DM me and we can set up a consultation.

01/30/2026

Steph and I don’t share a lot of each other on social media but today feels like a really important day to acknowledge how lucky we are to have her in our lives. Today marks 9 years clean and sober for Steph. Who knew that 9 years ago when she made the decision to love herself it would mean that my kids and I would get the honor of loving her and being loved by her. I never knew what being loved by a partner actually meant until I met her. She’s the roughest toughest badass you’ll ever meet and yet the kindest human to this tender hearted sensitive guy. I love you Steph and I’m so incredibly proud of you ❤️

01/30/2026

I’ve been learning about positive intelligence this month. Learning about my self saboteurs and my inner judge. The best part so far is knowing that I have the opportunity to find the gift in every circumstance, even the ones that I might consider negative. This isn’t the same as toxic positivity, but rather allowing myself to extract value even if it comes in the form of learning something about myself or others.

01/29/2026

Being a parent has taught me countless lessons, filled me with so much joy, and continues to be my greatest adventure. If you’re looking for a coach who knows what it’s like to balance parenthood, work, school, relationships, you name it, I’ve likely experienced it in my 28+ years of parenting. I am a trans man who transitioned after nearly two decades of motherhood and I continue to be a stay at home parent to my three littles who are all nearly as tall as me now, but will forever be the littles. Currently taking on new clients who are ready for a slightly different perspective than most coaches. DM me and let’s set up a consultation!

01/28/2026

Life is full of choices. Make sure you’re making the right choices for you. What’s one choice you’re making for you today?