From Burnt-Out and Bored to Fired Up & Bold

05/23/2024

If you want your life to change, you've got to show up and do the work. And guess what? It's really fun a lot of the time!

Walking my talk is really important to me which is why I'm doing the work, going to school, taking care of my body, taking care of my mind, learning, growing, and pushing my limits.

Three things that really help me stay motivated are:
1. My absolute dedication to what I see as possible in this world.
2. My desire to lead by example and take as many with me as possible.
3. Following my inner wisdom which keeps guiding my way forward.

Lots of love to you all!

01/31/2024

Hot off the press! Because...it's WEDNESDAY 🥳

***check the comments for the Spotify link***

THIS CAR GOT ME THINKING...

Who are you when you turn the volume up on your true nature?

Years ago when I did my first life coach training I learned something about myself that really surprised me. I had shown up to the first class of the program wearing black, hair tucked up in a loose bun and thinking I could blend in with all the "suits" that worked in Toronto's corporate scene. If you know me, you might already be laughing, and I don't blame you.

One of the first exercises we did had our group of about 40 people broken up into smaller groups of about 6 people. Our task was to single each person out, one at a time, and come up with an avatar or persona for them. One woman was Ellen Degeneres, one man was Captain America and so on. The idea was to reveal to one another our natural qualities that we can expand on and use in our work.

In other words, we were showing each other the places where we can Turn Up the Volume.

Eventually it was my turn. I left the circle so the group could deliberate privately. When I got back, they gave me the gift of truly feeling seen. Despite my efforts to blend in and hide under the radar, the name they came up for me was Priestess Drummer. I was stunned! How did they know?

What really shocked me was that the weekend before I had been thrown into the role of leading some drumming which is not something I do regularly. I certainly wouldn't consider myself a drummer, but somehow they knew I had it in me.

The Priestess part was surprising as well because even though I have been an energy worker for many many years and much of my work is spiritual in nature, I would never have elevated myself to that status.

My point with this story is to suggest that you may not be hiding your true and magnificent nature as well as you think you are. Chances are the people around you already know how gifted you are in the areas you would likely want to cultivate but for whatever reason have been holding back.

The second thing I should share is that the classmates I had lumped into the box of being so different and therefore uninterested in me, were actually hungry to learn what I could share. I had spent so much time feeling so different that I assumed that made my work not relevant. I was very wrong!

I still struggle with this. In many ways I'm still in the closet. Each time I write or podcast, each class I teach and each client I work with is an opportunity for me to share my gifts, directly from my heart to yours. My hiding doesn't help anyone, neither does yours. The more we are each willing to Turn it Up, the more we give permission to others to do the same. (if you haven't already read Marianne Williamson's poem on this, please do! It can be found in her book A Return to Love)

We are not meant to be the same!

We come here to Be unique and do our unique thing.

Can you imagine a puzzle with two or four or a hundred of the same puzzle piece!? That's crazy talk! If you're still trying to fit in, you're not fitting your piece of the puzzle into the place it belongs.

Before we go we should ask some questions. Questions are the fastest way to expose possibility! They show us what we've been hiding from. On that note...

What have I been hiding from the world?
What if some people don't get me but I'm ok anyways?
What inspiration might I be to others if I allow myself to shine with all my crazy glory?
How much energy does it cost me to keep my talents hidden?
What if I TURN UP THE VOLUME on my uniqueness?

That's it for today. I'm here to help. If you want to get clear on things, start getting stuff done and having more fun, you know where to find me.

As always, I hope this helps, inspires or reminds you of what you already know...we all need that sometimes. I'm sending you blessings and wishing you a full heart, calm, clear mind and a very sparkly spirit.

01/24/2024

IT'S WEDNESDAY!

Today's What if Wednesday is dedicated to my Dad 😁

Here's what I had to say on the subject. You can listen to it on
👉Spotify Tindall - Awe and Wonder of Life Living and Loving

WHAT IF IT DOESN’T MATTER?
Stop wasting time, Start having fun...🥳

I'd like to dedicate this one affectionately to my Dad who's favourite line when I was a kid was "no buts!"

Lol, Thanks Dad!

I'm a really practical person. I have a gift for sifting through details of what's important and what isn't. I'm often the person who will listen to a group debate something in order to make a decision and I'll be the one that goes "guys, it doesn't matter...".

That is one of my super powers and part of what makes me a great coach.

Let's have a look at this:

👉What if it doesn't matter who's right or wrong?
👉If something is good or bad?
👉If you choose A or B...or something else completely?

The point is:

How much time, energy and brain space are you wasting trying to figure something out when you could completely bypass that entire process?

I love efficiency. I love to streamline. And, I love to have fun, relax and go with the flow!

In fact, I get to have a lot of fun and flow because I don't waste time and energy worrying about things that don't matter. I think of this combination as a bit of a best kept secret.

We all have to find what works for us, and you may have your own Short Skirt, Long Jacket version of this. (thank you Cake ;) )

But, as an observer of human experiences, I can tell you, there's way too much thinking going on and not enough action taking or just getting on with more enjoyable things.

Let's have more fun people!🥳

👉What if it doesn't matter?

For real, consider it. See what happens and keep me posted!

Don't get me wrong, some things do matter. You'll need to streamline your way of knowing what matters and what doesn't.

The best way I know to do that is to ask "how important is this?".

I'm not attached to it being one way or another so I can listen for a response without too much static interference from my head.

👉A "Yes, this is important" feeling might make you feel like you're being pulled toward something, it might feel lighter or heavier. You might get a sense in your gut, your breathing might change. You might hear a response or see it written in you mental lens.

👉A "No this isn't important" will feel different.

You need to cultivate the ability to distinguish between the two and then honour them, respond to them.

You can ask more questions like
🤷‍♀️"What is the most important thing to do next?",
🤷‍♀️"Who can I ask about this?",
🤷‍♀️"What if I don't do this?",
🤷‍♀️"What if I do do this?".

The point is, you can save time and energy, messiness and hassle by getting clear on what does and doesn't matter...and life will be much more enjoyable!🥳

🫶That's it for today. I'm here to help. If you want to get clear on things, start getting stuff done and having more fun, you know where to find me.

01/02/2024

💥New PODCAST!💥 (See comments for link)

If ever there were a SECRET SAUCE I'm certain GRATITUDE would be it!

Gratitude is such an incredible game changer. And the best part is, you can really amp up your gratitude practice so that the magic, miracles, synchronicities and wild transformations will totally blow your mind!

Strap yourself in because gratitude will take you on an exhilarating trip through a truly blessed life.

To be honest, I think GRATITUDE is one of the most under appreciated super powers. We think we know and "get" the gratitude thing, but I'm challenging everyone to TURN IT UP and see how much more it can deliver.

01/06/2023

Thank you Life Coach Hub for publishing my article! My hope is that the New Year has more ease and flow for you. We can get things done without a sense of force or desperation. I hope this article gives you insight and inspiration. xo Dar

A RESOLUTION is defined as a decision to do or not do something. RESOLVE is defined as firm determination to do something.

04/16/2022

I've been having some great coaching conversations and some great conversations about coaching.

A lot of what happens in coaching, with me at least, is that we find our way home to the sense of peace and calm that's always there inside of you. We hang out in a lovely space until the insights start showing up.

It's kind of like being in the forest and getting quiet and still so that the little furry creatures come back and play. Then you get to sit back and watch it all unfold.

The more you can tune your station to that sweet space that's already there, the easier it gets to come back to that sense of ok-ness. The magic starts when the dust settles.
What are you spinning about these days? What if you could find that space, tune your station to the sweetness and wisdom that's already there?

03/07/2022

There's so much to consider about being "right" about things. How much energy is wasted trying to prove or defend a point of view? It's exhausting and generally doesn't get us anywhere.

Here's something you can try and you might even come up with your own angle that you find helps shift the situation and create a beneficial outcome for all.

Ask:
"What if I didn't have to be right about this?"
"What am I trying to gain by proving my point?"
"What might this be about if it's not about being right/wrong?"

Lester Levenson says we are always looking for one of three things. 1. Security 2. Approval 3. Control

"You must want imperturbability more than you want approval, control and security." Lester Levenson

So if that's the case, it suggests that the desire to be right has something to do with one of those three things. Get curious, see what you discover. "Am I looking for security, control or approval?"

03/03/2022

I opened a book this morning that I haven't finished reading and found three quotes on the page.

"Upset is an invention." G. Douglas

"None of your limitations are true. They are all just choice." G. Douglas

"Each of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. But this is not the case. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are - or as we are conditioned to see it." Stephen Covey

One of my practices is to ask myself "is this really true?". "If this wasn't true, what else would be possible?"

We create a narrative around situations in order to make sense of them. When that narrative becomes a "truth" we're in trouble because we stop being able to respond to life in the moment.

I caught myself in one of those narratives this morning. It made total sense and seemed completely true yesterday. Today, I'm not so sure. Aspects of it might be true, but the rest of it might be up for an edit. The bottom line will always be "Does it serve me?". If it contributes to staying stuck or powerless, it's gotta go. There is always a way to move forward.

What's your story? Is it time for an edit?

Lot's of Love to you all,
xo Dar

02/15/2022

This is one of my favourite quotes.

I've been connecting with a number of you over the last while and it would seem many of us are wading through some heavy water at the moment. My wish for all of us is that our strength of spirit allows us to open the windows and doors of possibility. May we all sense the light and lightness, the ease and flow of this journey.

Our experience of life and living is internally generated. It's our response to life events and circumstances that determines how we feel. You may be tired, run down and in need of rejuvenation, but don't be fooled into believing the thoughts and stories of the mind.

Your greatness wants to emerge. Like a seed in soil it longs for the fullness of its expression.

Lots of love and many many blessings to you all today.
Dar

01/07/2022

Chatting with a friend yesterday and reflecting on how we've both done this.
Sometimes you've got to punctuate your patterns so they don't become a run on sentence of reaction as you perpetuate the cycle of history repeating itself.

Sometimes you've got to "stop, drop and roll" 😉

01/05/2022

http://www.darlenetindall.com/blog-purpose--possibility/why-resolve-beats-resolution-every-time

The New Year is a powerful time to reflect and revise how we live. It's natural to look back and shake your head at some of the things you struggled through over the past year. As I write this, I'm...

01/02/2022

For those of you looking for what lights you up and brings you to life...Rumi is a great guide.

Since I've had email (haha that's a few years), my closing line has always been the same;

"Let the beauty you love be what you do. There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground." Rumi

I always knew that work worth doing was passion driven but I didn't know how to get to the point where I knew what exactly that was for me.

That quote kept me on the path and reminded me that my way of contributing to the world was unique. What I do and how I do it are unique to me. I fought the urge to fit in and do normal jobs. I pushed myself to explore every little thing that fascinated me. Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique, Ayurveda, chakras, mantra, sacred sound, meridians, Chinese medicine, epigenetics, meditation, neuroscience, Buddhism, coaching, 3 Principals, Heart Math...

My bottom line is, follow the small hints of interest and curiosity until the hints get bigger, then follow those.

12/24/2021

Here's to a little more harmony over the holidays.

12/14/2021

Most of us were raised with really charged points of view around money.

Things like:
- money is the root of all evil
- money is dirty
- money corrupts good people
- you have to deserve money to have it
- money is hard to get and once you have it it's hard to keep
- money should be saved and never spent
- having money makes it hard to have genuine relationships
- only certain types of people can have/make lots of money
- if you're an artist you must starve
- how much money you have determines your value
- giving money away is a virtue
- having money is a sin
- you can't make "good" money by doing xyz
- you have to have a fancy degree or be willing to sell your soul to
make it big
- don't talk about money with others
- if you didn't work hard for it you don't deserve it

And the list goes on!

It's pretty difficult to have money with all of these inherited points of view running the show.

The bottom line is, it's not about money.

Money is a resource just like tomatoes. I can't imagine life without tomatoes. It's a funny thought but it's so true! The difference is that I don't have a point of view about tomatoes or spaghetti sauce, ketchup, salsa, chilli, bruschetta, tomato sandwiches etc. I don't even feel guilty for how much I depend on them, how many I use in a day/week, how often I purchase them, how many I grow, how many my friends give me from their garden, how many sit on the counter and go to waste. They're just tomatoes, just a resource, just like money.

12/11/2021

If you are still rehashing your "story" of why your life isn't working....

You are continuing to create more of the s**t that isn't working for you. Stop it!

You cannot create something new by talking about the old crap you want to get out of.

Here's another car metaphor:
If I get my oil changed, do I drain the old oil and then pour it back in and expect my car to run better? No.
Don't do the same thing in your life. It doesn't work. Ever.

xo Dar

If you want to change this pattern, lets get to work. I have about two spaces at the moment for new clients. Give me a shout. I'll be gentle, most of the time.

12/05/2021

"I can't because..." is a CONCLUSION and will keep you STUCK. PERIOD.

If you find yourself defending your stuck position, take a step back and ask some questions. (then ask some more)

Here are some priming questions. Sit down with a piece of paper and just start writing. See what comes up. You are never actually stuck. Stop buying that as your reality. You may not like the alternatives...which by the way are based on your predictive conclusions (not questions). You don't actually know what is possible...especially if you're not asking what else is possible and creating a fertile soil for possibilities to thrive.

Start here:

What conclusions am I making?
What else might be going on?
What questions can I ask?
What else could I choose?
What have I been unwilling to choose?
What is the payoff of suffering? (there is always a payoff)
What is the cost of staying stuck?
Who might be able to help me with this?
What would I never dream of trying?
What is one small step I can take?

Finally,
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW
ALL CONCLUSIONS ARE JUST INTERESTING POINTS OF VIEW

Lots of love to you all,
xo dar