Nikki Mohle

20/07/2023

https://www.mindfulnessstudies.com/event/24-140-01/

20/07/2023

https://www.mindfulnessstudies.com/event/24-140-01/

DBT Skills Online (Ontario Only) 24–140–01 Register Start: Sunday, October 1, 2023 At: ONLINE, Fee: $850 Facilitator(s): Nikki Mohle RN & Elisha Van Harte MSW, RSW & Craig Oolup RP This fall, the Centre for Mindfulness Studies is collaborating with A Mindful Change to bring you a different kind ...

03/12/2022

Holidays can be stressful af 🤯 let’s be honest.

For a multitude of reasons: grief, finances, busyness, family. As much as there is to be grateful for, there is also stress, overwhelm, & exhaustion. It’s not just you. It’s all of us 💛

Recognizing the reality that holidays can be stressful, and planning how to cope can help to get through the difficult moments so that we can truly enjoy the beautiful ones 🎄

Being intentional can keep us from acting in ways we aren’t proud of and getting stuck in the spiral of low mood and anxiety 🌪️

In this video, I’ll talk about some specific strategies to manage stress over the holiday so that you can offer yourself compassion and savor moments with the people you love.

Sound like something you’re interested in? Comment or DM me - I’m here for you 💜

30/11/2022

Feeling out of control or caught in the chaos & overwhelm of emotion can leave us asking “WHY AM I LIKE THIS? WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME?”

I’ll always be the guy to tell you there is nothing wrong with you - we are all the way we are for a reason. At the same time, I understand that big emotions can cause big trouble in our lives - I know that frustration very well.

I also know that it’s genuinely useful to understand how these patterns develop:

- Why it is that emotion can come in like a storm and leave us feeling powerless
- Where we learned that we can’t trust ourselves & our emotions
- How the cycle of explosion and shame keeps us stuck

By understanding these cycles we can learn how to intervene effectively.

We can start to feel confident in our ability to manage emotion, advocate for ourselves, & maintain meaningful connection with others.

We can develop compassion toward our own experiences.
And step into a sense of resilience, calm, & hope for the future.

Sound like something you’re interested in? Comment or DM me - there’s nothing I love talking about more!

22/11/2022

Feeling out of control or caught in the chaos & overwhelm of emotion can leave us asking “WHY AM I LIKE THIS? WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME?”

I’ll always be the guy to tell you there is nothing wrong with you - we are all the way we are for a reason. At the same time, I understand that big emotions can cause big trouble in our lives - I know that frustration very well.

I also know that it’s genuinely useful to understand how these patterns develop:

Why it is that emotion can come in like a storm and leave us feeling powerless
Where we learned that we can’t trust ourselves & our emotions
How the cycle of explosion and shame keeps us stuck

By understanding these cycles we can learn how to intervene effectively

We can start to feel confident in our ability to manage emotion, advocate for ourselves, & maintain meaningful connection with others.

We can develop compassion toward our own experiences.

And step into a sense of resilience, calm, & hope for the future.

Sound like something you’re interested in? Comment or DM me - there’s nothing I love talking about more!

27/09/2022

The one thing I hear over & over again from people I work with is:

​“Why didn’t they teach us this in kindergarten?”
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It’s funny, & there is also very real grief here. Learning emotion regulation skills could make such a huge difference throughout our lives, especially in the situations that overwhelmed us as children.
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There is grief for all the moments that you have felt powerless, ashamed & out of control; all the times you have felt totally alone, believing there was something wrong with you; all the moments lost to overwhelm, anxiety & exhaustion.
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In this video I’ll talk about some of the skills we should have learned in school to nurture our resilience (when we were learning about parallelograms):

• How to calm our minds by calming our bodies
• How to actually feel our feelings
• How to make sense of ourselves & talk about how we feel in ways that bring us closer
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These skills build a sense of confidence in responding to the stresses in your life. They uncover our capacity to pause, settle & care for ourselves effectively. When we tap into resilience we are able to make space for what we value in our lives: joy, pride, gratitude & excitement about the future.

I'd love to hear your thoughts! What's missing here? What do you do well? What are you working on? Comment or DM me and we can dig in!

02/09/2022

Understanding the impact of trauma on your well-being can be transformative ✨

It helps make sense of your experience, shift away from self-blame, & offer yourself compassion 🤍

It can also be overwhelming to uncover the impact of early life experiences on present day well being.

You might find yourself wondering what to do to heal - how to step out of these ingrained patterns & into a more grounded way of being 🌻

Mindfulness provides us with a roadmap for trauma recovery:
• It brings us back into our bodies when trauma has taught us to stay out of them 🤸🏽
• Helps us to tolerate emotional storms ⛈️
• Helps learn to listen to ourselves to better take care of ourselves 🗺️

Mindfulness is the purest form of validation: deeply listening to ourselves in the ways many of us needed during very difficult times in our lives.

Slowing down & paying attention gives space to our experience - shifting from avoidance, numbing & self blame and into centeredness, presence & self compassion 🧘🏽‍♀️

From this place we can spend more energy on the things we value, make stronger & more meaningful connections, and feel more excitement about the future.

With mindfulness we can step out of the patterns that keep us stuck in the dark cloud🌪️

In this video I’ll speak about how mindfulness skills help us to respond in the moment to difficult emotions as they arise so that we can feel in control, capable, & empowered to respond to whatever arises.

Thoughts & questions? Drop a comment or DM me - I’d love to hear from you 💛

16/08/2022

Hands up ✋ if you don’t LOVE asking for what you need.

Most of us have been socialized & learned through experience that asking for what we need & saying no are things to be avoided.

We don’t want to be a burden
We want to put others first & be helpful
We aren’t taught as children how to set boundaries & assert our needs.

This becomes particularly difficult when we are living with depression, anxiety & overwhelming emotion.
We learn not to trust our emotions as guides for what we need.
We easily think of ourselves as “too much”
We learn to deal with things internally.

All of this leaves us in a lonely & frustrating place:
• Alone & disconnected
• Exhausted & resentful
With a sense of wanting more from ourselves & our relationships; a deep knowing that there is another way of being.

In this video I speak about understanding ourselves & mindfully applying concrete tools to ask for what we need & say no.

When we are able to validate ourselves & use structured tools we are able to communicate with intention so that we can meet our own needs, protect our relationships & access a sense of self-assurance and confidence.

Communication tools help us to give voice to our experience, build stronger and more meaningful connections & develop a deep knowledge for how to take care of ourselves.

Effective communication is a stand for ourselves
A statement of protection of your precious being
It’s a stand for our relationships
A deep knowing that they can hold space for our needs & boundaries

Sound like something for you? Let’s talk! Tune in, drop a comment or DM me - I’d love to hear from you 🌻

06/08/2022

Pain can’t be avoided; it is nature’s way of signaling that something is wrong.

Marsha Linehan

05/08/2022

5 Ways to Improve Motivation
(check your V.I.T.A.L.S)

V.
Validate your feelings, the "I don't want to..."
There is a real reason for how you feel.

I.
Imagine yourself doing it peacefully and productively.

T.
Take Small Steps. Break down the project into bite-size pieces.

A.
Applaud Yourself. Encourage your efforts, cheerlead, and coach (e.g. enjoy the feeling of making progress on the project.)

L.
Lighten the Load. Remember what you are getting out of by doing this (e.g., reducing guilt, shame, or anxiety; avoiding the negative consequences of a bad grade; avoiding the disappointment of a parent or teacher, etc.)

S.
Sweeten the Pot. Add something during or after that you like, reward your efforts (e.g. enjoy the feeling of accomplishment.)

Drop a ⭐ if these have worked for you!