03/31/2026
I lost myself so deeply through a series of events (ending a relationship, losing my job, losing body mobility).
It made me question my identity of self...Who am I now?
I kept questioning my judgement...Can I trust myself to make the right decision?
I tried to rebuild my self-trust through "conditions" to stabilize myself.
I waited to feel 'better' so I could start applying for jobs.
I waited to feel 'less emotional' so I could sit with my pain & manage my anxiety.
I waited to 'feel healed' before getting vulnerable in a new relationship.
And 'waiting' for these things built conditional self-trust.
● I would feel good one day and apply for a job I knew I'd nail.
Then get rejected and collapse back into not feeling good enough to apply to anything else for a week.
● I would have a good cry and journal about how much better I felt.
Then my car wouldn't start and I'd have a panic attack, cancel plans and emotionally shut down for days.
● I started feeling safe with a new partner after leaving a 4 year relationship.
Then he wasn't giving me the reassurance I needed so I questioned if I could handle another loss and pulled back.
I told myself I didn't have the capacity, the energy, the discipline - but really, I was stuck in a pattern of leaving myself in the moments it mattered most.
Now, I stay. No matter the circumstances, who else is involved or not, despite the sometimes rude dialogue inside my head. And this non-conditional follow-through has created a kind of stability I couldn't even have imagined.
● Opportunities are no longer lost because my feelings no longer make my decisions.
● Showing up for myself has become second nature, not an energy drain.
● Momentum continues after a weekend 'out of routine'
Because self-trust is built through practice and action creates the reframe.
If you are ready to change the way you see yourself, you'll want in on my next small group gathering.
Comment SELF-TRUST CLUB to get the details.