Kaitlyn Sandher Counselling

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04/23/2026

Silence doesn’t protect anyone.
It just leaves people unprepared.

04/22/2026

Somewhere along the way, we lost the village and started believing we were supposed to do it all alone🦋🌈

But we were never meant to.

You’re not overwhelmed because you’re failing. You’re overwhelmed because you’re carrying something that was always meant to be shared.
🤍🤍🤍
We were meant to be held, too.
To have hands that help.
To have eyes that notice.

04/17/2026

🦋Postpartum doesn’t peak at 6 weeks

For many moms, 6–9 months is when it ACTUALLY gets heavy.
Check-ins have slowed down.
💤Sleep deprivation has caught up.
🤍You’re expected to be “back” in life again.
⚡The adrenaline is gone.
🤎Hormones are still shifting and regulating.
🙈The identity shift has fully landed.
🌟Your body still feels unfamiliar.



04/16/2026

We’ve normalized asking about "the next baby" as if it’s small talk.

But for many, that question is a collision with birth trauma, grief, PPD, or the quiet realization that their family is already whole.

No one teaches you how to grieve something the world barely acknowledges 🩷🦋If this finds you in that quiet, searching ki...
04/11/2026

No one teaches you how to grieve something the world barely acknowledges 🩷🦋

If this finds you in that quiet, searching kind of grief, you’re not alone in it.

I know how isolating it can feel, and how powerful it is to come across words that finally make sense of what you’ve been carrying.
🌷🌈



04/09/2026

Ah yes, “just talking”. my favourite way to describe dismantling generational trauma in real time💅🏼💅🏼💅🏼



these come from the parts of moms I sit with every day 🤍
04/06/2026

these come from the parts of moms I sit with every day 🤍



03/30/2026

Imagine you’re nervous about starting therapy…
and this is your therapist

Hi! Just a human… who also happens to love snacks🍪🍿🍩

If you’ve had super scary thoughts or images after having a baby… you’re not crazy🤪After birth, your cortisol increases ...
03/26/2026

If you’ve had super scary thoughts or images after having a baby… you’re not crazy🤪

After birth, your cortisol increases significantly to keep you alert and protect your baby. It’s evolutionary.📈

Our brains were designed to scan for danger when threats were real and constant (long, long ago). But while times have changed, our brains haven’t fully caught up.

So now it can look like:
⚠️ intrusive thoughts or images
⚠️ constant “what ifs”
⚠️ overestimating danger
⚠️ avoiding things that feel unsafe

You can feel like you’re losing it… while also feeling like the thoughts are completely valid.

And what makes it harder?
Non-birthing partners usually don’t experience this the same way because their bodies aren’t going through the same hormonal shifts.

This isn’t you. It’s your brain in overdrive trying to keep your baby safe and it's EXTREMELY common



03/23/2026

Parenting feels harder when no one ever taught you how to regulate your own emotions first.

Most of us were raised to:
🩷 Stop crying
🩷 Calm down on our own
🩷 Be “too sensitive"
🩷 Ignore emotions instead of learning them

So now we’re trying to raise emotionally regulated kids while still learning it ourselves.
And that’s not failure. That’s breaking a cycle.

Save this for the days when you feel like you’re doing it wrong📌




03/20/2026

Emotional regulation isn’t something we’re just born knowing how to do.

It’s something we learn through relationships. Through co-regulation, through being supported.
We learn it by being regulated WITH.

What does that actually look like?
🫂 Someone staying present and calm with you
🫂 Helping you name what you’re feeling (labeling the emotion)
🫂 Validating the experience (“that makes sense”)
🫂 Bringing awareness to your body (tight chest, fast heart)
🫂 Supporting regulation through the body (slow breathing, grounding, movement, or pressure)
🫂 Staying with you until your nervous system begins to settle

Saying “calm down” or expecting people (even adults) to regulate themselves if they’ve never been taught just… doesn’t work.
The good news?
You can absolutely learn this at any age

ADHD in girls & women doesn’t always look like what you expect ⚡A lot of it shows up internally, often shaped by societa...
03/20/2026

ADHD in girls & women doesn’t always look like what you expect ⚡

A lot of it shows up internally, often shaped by societal expectations.

Some common ways it shows up:
🩷 Perfectionism & overthinking
🩷 Emotional intensity & quick overwhelm
🩷 Hyperfocus on special interests
🩷 Procrastination & task avoidance
🩷 Daydreaming or “spacing out”
🩷 Masking & people-pleasing
🩷 Anxiety, depression, or self-doubt
🩷 Time management & organization struggles
🩷 Sensory sensitivity

Understanding these patterns can help us recognize ADHD beyond the stereotypes.

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