01/04/2026
🌱Letting go of people-pleasing, and having to compromise your own needs, can feel uncomfortable… and that’s not a sign you’re doing it wrong.
🚨For many trauma survivors, people-pleasing and self-sacrificing were not personality traits — they were a survival strategy. They kept you safe and helped you avoid conflict, rejection, or abandonment.
So when you begin healing and start saying no, setting boundaries, or choosing yourself, your nervous system may react with stress, guilt, shame or fear.
🌱That doesn’t mean you’re selfish. It means your body is learning that safety no longer requires self-betrayal.
Healing trauma often means tolerating the discomfort of change — the awkward pauses, the racing thoughts, the urge to over-explain.
With time, compassion, and support, that discomfort softens.
What replaces it is steadiness, self-trust, and a deeper sense of peace.
You are not failing because this feels hard.
You are healing.
✨ Growth isn’t always calm — sometimes it’s courageous.