11/24/2025
In every initial therapy consult I ask these two questions:
Have you been to therapy before? What worked and what didn't?
I keep hearing the same thing:
‘My counsellor let me vent. It felt good... but nothing really changed’.
I’ll be blunt- If therapy becomes ONLY about venting, it stops being therapy.
Holding space is essential, but it should be the floor of the process, not the ceiling.
A therapist is NOT someone who nods, validates, comforts, and lets people talk for 50 minutes straight.
🔹Feeling heard is very important, but it's not enough.
🔹Relief isn't the same as insight.
🔹Emotional release isn't the same as emotional growth.
🔹A comfortable session isn't necessarily a productive one.
Clients leave therapy because ‘nothing was happening’—NOT because a therapist was unkind, but because they stayed too safe and passive.
Therapy must be active.
Once a safe space is created we need to:
👉 Ask the hard questions.
👉 Interrupt the loops.
👉 Reflect the patterns.
👉 Challenge gently.
👉 Anchor goals.
👉 Push for clarity.
A therapist who listens and nudges is transformative.
Venting is a phase. It's not a treatment plan.
📌 Growth over comfort is the measure of success.
Something to consider:
If you’re NOT leaving your session with:
🔹Something to think about
🔹Something to apply
🔹Something that made you lean forward and pay attention...
You’re in a conversation, not a therapeutic relationship.
We take a strength-based, solution focused, action-orientated approach to therapy. If you’re ready to move from conversation to transformation–Let’s connect!
Steve Braun Coaching & Counselling
www.stevebraun.org