01/11/2026
Change takes time. Whether it's children in play therapy, youth, or adults. I feel the pressure all the time from parents and even adults themselves in therapy to get to the end. Get them "fixed". Of course healing is the goal, and of course I want to help alleviate someone's suffering as fast as possible AND change still takes time.
Free services capped at 8 sessions, and health insurance coverage that provides enough funding for 3-5 sessions continues to feed the perception that quick fixes exist, and it's simply untrue.
Here, we start with 12-15 and evaluate from there to reflect on the progress already made, and where we need to go next so that rushing does not bring regression by closing too soon.
Healing to whole is actually the goal.
Sincerely,
Therapists everywhere. ❤️
Trusting the Process—Letting go of a timeline for a child in therapy 🦋
As therapists, we often begin the journey with a vision—an idea of how long the process will take and what progress might look like.
And sometimes? Our timelines are realistic. But often? They’re not.
Because the reality is—we are not in charge of how long it takes for a child to integrate what they’re working through.
Our role isn’t to control the process or rush the outcome. Our role is to join them in the journey.
When we begin working with a child, we don’t yet know:
🔹 How many layers there are to process
🔹 What new challenges might arise along the way
🔹 How their system will unfold and integrate at its own pace
It’s common to think, This will take X number of sessions—only to realize that what seemed like one challenge is connected to a much deeper system of experiences. Or that life throws in a new curveball mid-process.
This is why realistic expectations matter.
✨ Clients go as fast as they need to go.
✨ Clients go as fast as they can go.
And our job? To hold space for that. To support, witness, and trust their unique timing as they move toward what they need to integrate.
Helping Parents or Caregivers Navigate the Uncertainty:
When working with parents and caregivers, part of our role is to communicate the evolving nature of the process. If we discover deeper layers, we help them understand where we are and what’s unfolding.
Sometimes, they are the ones needing support. Sometimes, they are struggling with their own expectations. A gentle reminder that healing is a journey, not a destination can help shift their perspective.
So the next time you feel the pull to measure progress against a timeline, take a breath and remind yourself:
We don’t know how long it will take—we only have guesses when we begin.
And that’s okay.
Much love on the journey đź’ś
Lisa