Serenity House Hospice Corporation

05/11/2023

Another Milestone. Woot woot!

18/04/2023

With a heavy heart💔 and tears 😢 in my eyes, nothing is more painful than trying to smile and remain positive, but after many tests, being poked and prodded, chemo and radiation, the person physically changes and they can suffer with sadness. I know many of you do not give a crap about this message because, the cancer has not affected you. You do not know what it's like to have fought the fight, or have a loved one who leads or has lead a battle against cancer. 💛💗
I ask you a small favor- I know only some of you will do it. If you know someone who has led a battle against cancer, still struggling, or who passed, please make this your status to support, respect, and remember. 💛💗💜💚💛🧡❤️🤎🖤🤍 💙
** I have faith that many of my friends and family will copy and paste to their newsfeed!

13/04/2023

It is called white mourning
Someone once said when you love someone with dementia, you lose them more and more everyday. When they are diagnosed, when they go through different phases, when they need care, and when they die. 😢
This is what you call an ambiguous loss. "I wouldn't wish dementia on anyone." As the brain slowly dies, they physically change and end up forgetting who their loved ones are. They may end up being in bed, not moving and not eating or drinking.
To bring awareness to this cruel disease I would appreciate my friends putting this on their page today for Alzheimer and Dementia week. We are getting better understanding the different types and slowing down the journey for some but we still have a long way to go.
😘😘😘⚘⚘💓
Special hug to those going through this with their loved one.

31/03/2023

Hospice of Elgin is soon to break ground. Woot woot!👏👏

It's a beautiful day to be on the site. Summer construction is on the horizon!

19/10/2022

I visited the Ian Anderson home many years ago and we, Linda C and I spoke with Margaret. It was a very good visit as we saw what we wanted and what we didn’t in our hospice. She was a trailblazer for sure. May her legacy continue for many more years to come.

MARGARET ANDERSON MAY 16 , 19 2 9 — AUG. 7, 2 022 Caring for her ter­min­ally ill hus­band at home inspired Mar­garet Ander­son to found and lead Ian Ander­son House, an Oak­vil­le­based hos­pice that cel­eb­rates its 25th anniversary this Novem­ber.

10/10/2022

Smile for today. A close up of a dragonfly! ☺️
Lea

10/10/2022

So very true.

At Hospice, we acknowledge that holidays can be difficult for many people coping with the illness or loss of a loved one. We wish you peace, love, and compassion this Thanksgiving.

09/10/2022

12/09/2022

03/04/2022

When my mom was cleaning out her house over 23 years ago to sell it, I wasn't very sympathetic over her attachments to things. I would go over on weekends to help her and we would go through things, things for a yard sale, things to donate, things to throw away. I would usually get upset over how long it was taking her to decide. For instance, we were going through kitchen cabinets and she spent 20 minutes looking at an iron kettle with a lid. Finally I said,

“Mom, at this rate it is going to take us another 2 years.”

She told me that her mother used to make meals in that kettle and leave them at doorsteps of neighbors during the depression, mom would deliver them, and then they would reappear back to her with an apron, or a wood carving, something in return for the meal. I realized that everything that my mom was going through was really a reliving of her life.

If you are reading this and are under the age of 60, you wont get it. You haven't lived long enough. Most of you have not had to move your parents into a nursing home, or emptied their home. You haven't lived long enough to realize that the hours you spend picking out the right cabinets, or the perfect tile will not be what matters in the later years. It will be the handmade toothbrush holder, or a picture that you got on vacation.

So, if your parents are downsizing, and moving to smaller places, or selling a home, give your mom and even your dad a break. Those things that you don't understand why they can’t just pitch, and why you think you know what needs to be tossed or saved, give them a little time to make their decisions. They are saying goodbye to their past, and realizing that they are getting ready for their end of life, while you are beginning your life.

As I have been going through things, its amazing just how hard it is to get rid of objects. But, life goes on, and you realize they are just things, but sometimes things comfort us. So give your parents or grandmparents a break. Listen to their stories, because in 40 years, when you are going through those boxes and the memories come back, it will be hard to get rid of those plastic champagne flutes that you and your late husband used at a New Years party 40 years ago. You will think nothing of the tile or the light fixtures that were so important then.

As happy as they are for you, and as much as they love you, you just don't have a clue until it happens to you and then you will remember how you rushed them, and it will make you sad, especially if they are already gone and you cant say I’m sorry, I didn’t get it.

~ Original Post Melissa Vaughan