Rhodes to Wellness Coaching

05/02/2026

There is so much truth to this; the masks that they wear. This makes it all the harder, if you decide to leave, because people don't see who you know they are, so they question you or doubt you.

But just because they doubt you that doesn't make your truth any less true.

Know your truth. Believe in your truth. And if you need support, my inbox is always open. 💜

Janet 🌿

Never forget this Survivor 💜

05/01/2026

Hello May 🌿

The snow is finally melting (Yay!).
The ground is softening.
The air feels a little lighter.

After months of cold, stillness, and waiting… spring is slowly arriving.

Growth doesn’t always happen in loud, obvious ways. Sometimes it begins quietly — beneath the surface, in the thawing, in the softening, in the decision to keep going even after a long winter.

May is a reminder that healing and growth often look like small changes at first. A little more light. A little more hope. A little more room to breathe.

Welcome, May. We’re ready for what blooms next. 🌷

04/28/2026

“I know this isn’t good for me…so why do I feel so guilty trying to leave?”

This was one of the hardest parts for me to understand.

When I started creating distance from certain family members…I felt like I was breaking some unspoken rule.

But they’re family.

You stay.
You forgive.
You try harder.
Even when it hurts.

And when I walked away from my abusive marriage…the guilt felt even heavier.
I believed I was letting my children down.
I couldn’t see then that I was actually protecting them.

At the time, all I could think was:
Maybe I just need to be better.
More patient.
More understanding.
More accommodating.
Because somewhere along the way, I learned that keeping the peace mattered more than how I felt.

And this is something I see so often in the people I work with.

They don’t leave because they don’t care.
They stay because they care deeply.

Because guilt isn’t always about doing something wrong.

Sometimes guilt is what happens when you start breaking a pattern your nervous system learned was necessary for survival.

A younger part of you may still believe:
👉 Leaving means abandonment
👉 Boundaries mean rejection
👉 Choosing yourself means hurting others

So even when your adult self knows something isn’t healthy…your body still experiences leaving as a threat.
Not because it is.
But because of what it once meant.

This is why healing isn’t as simple as “just leave.”

Because the body is still trying to keep you safe through familiarity.

✨ The guilt isn’t proof you’re doing the wrong thing. It’s often proof you’re doing something unfamiliar.

And unfamiliar can feel terrifying when your system learned that love came through sacrifice.

When we heal those deeper patterns…
You stop confusing guilt with wrongdoing.
And you start trusting that protecting yourself isn’t selfish.

It’s necessary.

If this resonates, this is the work I do—
helping people gently untangle the deeper roots of guilt, trauma, and attachment so they can move forward without constantly questioning themselves.

You’re always welcome to reach out. 💜

Janet 🩷

04/22/2026

I used to think something was wrong with me…
Because I kept going back.

Back to people I knew didn’t feel good.
Back to relationships that left me drained, confused… sometimes even hurt.

And the hardest part?
A part of me knew it wasn’t healthy.

But something deeper kept pulling me there anyway.

What I didn’t understand at the time is this:
I wasn’t going back to the pain.
I was going back to what my body remembered as safe.

Because those same people…they were also part of a time in my life where I felt loved.
Where my mum was still here.
Where there were moments—real moments—of connection and safety.
And my nervous system held onto that.
Not the full picture.
Just the feeling.

So even when the dynamics changed…even when things became emotionally unsafe again…a part of me was still trying to return to:
“this is where we felt okay once.”

And this is something I now see in so many of the people I work with.

Going back to families or relationships that hurt them.

Staying connected to people who cross their boundaries.

Repeating patterns that, on the surface, don’t make sense.

Not because they’re weak.
Not because they’re choosing pain.
But because their system is wired for one thing first: Safety.

And if safety was once experienced inside an unsafe environment…the body will keep trying to find it there again.

This is why healing isn’t about just “moving on” or “cutting people off.”

Because unless we actually go back and process the original experiences…the nervous system will keep searching for resolution in the same places it learned it.

✨ You’re not going backwards.
✨ You’re not broken.

You’re trying to return to a feeling your body hasn’t fully let go of yet.

And when we heal that at the root…you don’t have to force yourself to choose differently.

You just naturally do.

My inbox is always open. 🩷

Janet 🌿

04/20/2026

Good morning and happy Monday 🌞

A gentle reminder as you begin your week…
You don’t have to rush into it.

Take a breath.
Feel your feet on the ground.
Let your body arrive before your to-do list does.

It’s okay to move slowly.
It’s okay to need softness.
It’s okay to begin again, right here.

May this week meet you with a little more ease,
a little more space to exhale, and moments where you feel safe in yourself.

You’re allowed to take it one step at a time 🌿

04/15/2026

Your body is allowed to feel safe again. 🌿

If you’ve been living in survival mode for a long time, safety can feel unfamiliar… even uncomfortable.

That doesn’t mean it isn’t available to you.
Your nervous system learned to protect you.
It adapted in the ways it needed to.

And now, gently… at your own pace…
you can begin to show it something new.

Not by forcing.
Not by pushing.
But by creating small moments of safety—
a breath, a pause, a grounded connection.

Healing doesn’t happen all at once.
It happens in these quiet, steady returns.
You are allowed to feel safe again. 🤍

With warmth,

Janet 🩷

04/13/2026

“Stuck in your head.”

Most people think this just means overthinking.

But that’s not actually what’s happening.

I notice it in myself when I’m stressed, overwhelmed or dysregulated…

It’s like I leave my body.

My head feels spinny.
Sometimes it even starts to hurt.
And I can’t feel properly anymore — just think.

And think.
And think.
And think.

But here’s what I’ve learned through Root-Cause Therapy…being “in your head” isn’t the problem.

It’s a protective response.

When your system feels overwhelmed by something it doesn’t feel safe to process…
it moves you out of your body (where emotions live)
and into your mind (where it feels more in control).

Because emotions aren’t just thoughts.

They’re felt experiences in the body.

And if at some point in your life it didn’t feel safe to feel them…your system got really good at avoiding them.

So instead, you analyse.
You loop.
You try to “figure it out.”

Not because you’re broken.

But because your body is trying to protect you from something it hasn’t fully processed yet.

This is why no amount of “just stop overthinking” ever works.

Because it’s not a thinking problem.

It’s an unprocessed emotion underneath it.

And the moment your body feels safe enough to actually feel again…

The mind quiets on its own.

No force.
No control.
No fixing.

Just safety.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in your head lately…
get curious:

👉 What might I be avoiding feeling right now?

That question alone can start to shift everything.

With warmth,

Janet 🩷

04/10/2026

If you’ve ever snapped, shut down, or felt panic rise out of nowhere…
you’re not overreacting—you’re overwhelmed.

Overwhelm doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means your nervous system is overloaded.

When overwhelm hits, it can look like:
• Snapping in anger
• Tears that come out of nowhere
• Shutting down or going numb
• A racing heart or panic rising in your chest

These aren’t “overreactions.”
They’re protective responses.
Your nervous system is asking one simple question:
“Am I safe right now?”

When the answer feels like “no” (even if logically things are okay), your body shifts into survival mode:
Fight (anger)
Flight (anxiety/panic)
Freeze (shutdown/numbness)

This isn’t a mindset problem.
It’s a body response.

And that means we don’t just “think” our way out of overwhelm…we support our body through it.

Try this gentle somatic reset:
• Place one hand on your chest, one on your belly
• Take a slow breath in through your nose
• Exhale longer than you inhale (this tells your body it’s safe)
• Let your shoulders drop
• Look around and name 3 things you can see

No pressure to fix everything.
Just bring your body back to now.

Over time, these small moments of regulation teach your nervous system: “I can come back from this.”

You’re not too much.
You’re responding exactly how your body learned to survive.

And healing is simply learning a new way to feel safe again 🤍

If this resonates and you’re feeling stuck in these patterns, you don’t have to navigate it alone.

This is the work I gently walk through with clients inside 1:1 sessions—at your pace, and in a way that feels safe for your body. If this speaks to you I invite you to comment, message or book a Free 30 mins Discovery Call at https://calendly.com/rhodescoaching/30min

04/05/2026

04/05/2026

Happy Easter to you and yours! 🐇🐣🌷 I hope you have a lovely day. 🩷

04/01/2026

April 1st 🌱 🌷

A gentle reminder as we step into a new month…

You don’t have to rush into becoming someone new today.

You don’t have to have it all figured out.

And you don’t have to leave parts of yourself behind to move forward.

Take a moment to arrive right where you are.
Feel your feet on the ground.
Notice your breath—no need to change it, just observe.
Let your shoulders soften, even just a little.
If your nervous system feels unsettled, that’s okay.
If you’re carrying heaviness from the past days or weeks, that’s okay too.

Nothing about you is “behind.”
Nothing about you is broken.

Today can simply be about coming back to yourself—
one breath, one moment, one small act of care at a time.

💛 Try this: Place a hand on your heart or your belly and gently say to yourself,
“I am here. I am safe enough in this moment.”

Let April begin from that place.

Wishing you a grounded, gentle start to this new month.

With warmth,

Janet 🩷

03/30/2026

Somewhere along the way, rest became something you had to earn.

You finish the week running on fumes, and even then, stopping feels like a risk. Like the moment you let go, something will slip. Like the people who keep going are the ones who actually care.

The neuroscience says otherwise. A mind that never fully recovers doesn't perform. It compensates. There is a significant difference between those two things, and you feel it in the quality of your thinking, your patience, your ability to be present with the people you love.

One day a week of genuine rest is not indulgence. It is maintenance. The same way you would not run a car indefinitely without a service and expect it to perform, your mind requires deliberate recovery to operate at the level you are asking of it.

This is your reminder that today counts. Use it well by doing less than you think you should.

Send this to someone who needs permission to stop today. They probably won't send it to themselves. 👇